A month ago I met a great guy; we clicked instantly & 1st date lasted hours. It was amazing how comfortable we felt w/each. He told me he wasn't playing games, this could b special & didn't want to jump into anything 2 quickly -he wanted to get 2 know me better. Our 2nd date was as great -we spent all day 2gether The whole time held hands & cuddled. In shops he held me close, held my hand & hugged me. We went back to mine & had a great kissing session but still decided to wait....but he wanted me 2 play w/him. In between our dates we constantly texted each other & chatted on phone. His text 1st flirty; then naughty....on our 3rd, we still had amazing convos & laughs but he seemed distant & reluctant 2 hold my hand or cuddle. After the date he didn't text. I waited a couple days then text him- his reply asked why I was quiet. I replied "I sensed u needed space & stepped back 2 give it 2 u-u r amazing & I don't want 2 crowd you xxx". I haven't heard from him since. What happened?
2007-11-13 19:01:48 · 21 answers · asked by M.Y. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Update: I got a text today saying:
"I do like my space but dont panic its only because ive had such a mad year with relationships. Hows you?X"
I wrote back that I understood and wasn't paniking - just giving space. I also said that I don't want to jump into anything and I'd like to get to know him much better before (if) getting into full blown relationship.
Am I doing right thing? Advice please!
2007-11-13 21:20:24 · update #1
Some guys need to be chased, because they are insecure.
The next move will have to be yours. If I were you, I would go about your life, enjoy it and if he cares enough about you, he'll come around. If you don't hear from him, you have your answer.
2007-11-13 23:27:41 · answer #1 · answered by Rogue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's difficult, though it sounds like the first few dates you didn't really know the guy., it's kinda like a facade to put on to break the ice & now your getting to knwo the real thing.
I mean look at the pattern here, it's all worked in stages, you say.
1. Flirty
2. Naughty
3. Amazing convo's.
You've been saying about taking it slow, where as clearly this guy hasn't been wanting to do that as already on the second date he's put things up a step (IE to play with him), it's pretty obvious what he's after really, however is just "trying" to do it in a not so obvious way, which actually turns out pretty obvious lol
Thats the jist I get from your story anyway & now that he's not been able to get what he wanted straight away, he's looking elsewhere or keeping his options open by not giving you any closure.
2007-11-13 19:07:06 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men are after one thing, you don't put out your not worth the effort. This is reality. Men does things to impress and if this was true love He could've waited. But he didn't, he didn't need the space he wanted more from the relationship than a simple convo's, he needed the physical attributes in relationship, mainly "sex" Chin up kiddo there are more fishes in the oceans your mates out there somewhere, and he will be your soulmate, and love you with respect and honour, not just to go down your pants!
2007-11-13 19:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by Whip 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a player following the 3 date rule.
I.e. no sex after the 3rd date, look elsewhere.
You didn't 'Throw away a great guy' if he was interested he'd stay in touch.
You might want read "10 Stupid Things Women do to Mess Up Their Lives."
2007-11-13 19:18:16 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix Quill 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always difficult to say what men are thinking. But something about this guy's response does not seem right. Do you really like him? If you do, my advise is to sms to him saying you miss him and would like to see him again. If he responds instantly - chances are he was telling the truth and he really likes you. If he still does not respond, most likely he was just giving an excuse to break off from you.
2007-11-13 19:09:21 · answer #5 · answered by grapevine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like he wanted sex.. You didn't give it to him.. And you were justified with only 3 dates.. If he really cared about you he would wait.. If what you want is sex also then call him up one night and invite him over telling him your only wearing some sexy lingerie and that you need him.. If you want a caring, lasting relationship this might not be the right guy.. But who knows maybe he's fallen for you so bad as so fast that he want to take it to the next level and show his desire for you physically.. It's hard to say.. But what is easy to say is if you want to see for sure how he feels about you or how far he's willing to go with you, your going to have to let him have sex with you...
2007-11-13 19:13:10 · answer #6 · answered by LokoLobo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is a player. If you do some research on the web, you will find out what games this guy was playing with you.
I would not go intodetails but what he did is classical approach to "NET the Girl".
Just don't waste your time.
2007-11-13 19:08:30 · answer #7 · answered by bhaiyagi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow thats a good question, could it be maybe he was really not just dating you at the time?? i hvae friends that date a few people at once and then the one that gives the best response they follow, so maybe he was seeing others. i just dont understand unless he was doing something like this, but i cant for sure say
2007-11-13 19:07:35 · answer #8 · answered by the_real_eaglesfan03 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the positive here is he thinks you are amazing the negative is that he is hiding something from you and does not know how you will take it if he decides to tell you..l think you need to invite him for a date and act happy then take the opportunity to ask him staight on.the waiting you are putting yourself through does not work but hurts you more...
2007-11-13 19:23:26 · answer #9 · answered by judie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait for him to get back to you again...don't wait around for him to contact you though; go about your business and hang out with friends. Don't keep your time open 'in case he calls'. No guy worth having will dump you b/c you didn't put out.
2007-11-13 19:06:44 · answer #10 · answered by NDimes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋