I went to a concert with a family friend, and I got plastered. He was sober, but we hooked up. Now he will not speak to me, unless he has to. He will only visit if he knows I'm not there. We have known eachother for two years, and always got along pretty good. What can I do to get rid of this awkwardness?
2007-11-13 18:29:45 · 6 answers · asked by yayaquack 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You cant!!! You have embarrassed yourself and degraded yourself as well so now you have to live with the fall out and that includes this person not wanting to be anywhere you are. Apologies will probably not mean much athough if he was sober and you two "hooked up" which i assume means you had sex - he made a decision to committ that act with you regardless of your drunken state which should tell you something about him and his values. Even though you were not a lady and in control of yourself he was not a gentlemen and he took advantage for the most part. So the bottomline is he is 50% at fault too and he may be avoiding you cause he is embarrassed and feels like the jerk his is. All in all it was a bad situation - forget it and move on and the next time you drink do it in moderation so you can be in control of yourself and your behavior.
2007-11-13 18:41:51 · answer #1 · answered by livelongandprosper2000 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd say approach it head-on.
Get rid of the elephant in the room. The only way to get rid of it is to acknowledge it. So just go up to him and bring it up. Tell him the awkwardness is making you awkward. You don't have to approach it seriously, either. Make a joke about it if you want, anything to ease the tension.
2007-11-13 18:36:01 · answer #2 · answered by Courtney 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I kind of doubt you can fix this one. Getting plastered and doing a family friend is simply a very bad mistake...and sometimes you just have to live with those.
2007-11-13 18:38:25 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Apologize sincerely and move on with your life. Since he is a family friend, maybe time will heal the wound. But meanwhile, to give "time" a chance, leave the guy alone.
2007-11-13 18:35:53 · answer #4 · answered by scruffycat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
be honest with him suga, tell him you never meant for anything to happen. I think he may feel bad thinking he took advantage of you. Just let him know that you have no bad feelings and you want to go back to being good friends like you were. Be honest and things should be ok.
2007-11-13 18:40:11 · answer #5 · answered by TREVA J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
talk to him whenever you get the chance. tell him that you hate that its awkward between you two now and that you wish it would go back to being cool.
2007-11-13 18:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by babyfaceheartbreak 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋