Guys, I need your opinion on this one....is he over-reacting or was I wrong?

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Ladies you can answer also....

I was on the phone with my love today, and well I was just telling him about how this guy tried to get my number and told the guy no but I would take his. Now I also told my guy that I didn't even have my phone with me and that I was just saying it to get the guy out of my face which is the ABSOLUTE truth. It's not like I told him, "I gave this hot guy my number today", I was just telling him how persistent the guy was. Anyway, now he thinks I go around taking guys numbers and call them, I told him I wasn't and he was just like whatever. my question is this,

Should I just have kept what I thought was casual conversation to myself OR is my guy over-reacting.

We are at a stage where we are trying to avoid conflict, but if I am not wrong I will just let this pass.

Answer 1

You were wrong. That is not how you handle that kind of situation. Now this guy thinks your availble. You should have just walked away.

Answer 2

I think that it's fine that you told him, because atleast now he knows that you wouldnt hide something like that from him and you were being honest, and obviously werent interested in this guy if you were tlaking so casually about it, if you really had done something wrong you woulda tried to cover it up or not have said anything at all so i definately see how it was casual conversation. At the same time i can see where hes coming from because if you were in his position and found out that he had accepted another girls number, wouldnt you be upset? it may seem to him as though you taking this guy's number may have been leading this guy on, or flirting with him, and no one likes the idea of their bf or gf flirting with or getting hit on by someone. I think that you should talk things out and althought it might become a bit of an argument, atleat itll be a little bump you guys can get over and allow you guys to get closer, and get to know eachother better. i definately understand that you want to avoid conflict but if you just let this one be, there is a chance another situation like this might come up again, and if it isnt resolved now than it may worsen the next time. good luck :)

Answer 3

Well the question is not "is he over reacting?" but rather it should be "Did I cross a line that in our relationship where our views what is fidelity did not match up?" Different people have different weights they put on certain types of behavior. Some men would not have a problem at all with what you did, but what if your man's been cheated on before by someone he cared about in maybe a similar fashion?
Views on what you think your partners behavior should be should never be "dropped" or "let pass". This is one area of commuication that can be a messy one to get into for sure but worse if you don't disscus it. One partners "just flirting" is anothers "I am looking for a better offer". Don't go over the top on this one just ask him what he thinks you should have done and describe for him why taking a number is differnet for you than than taking an offer and you will be fine.

Answer 4

What was your purpose in telling your love that another guy wanted your phone number? We never, ever do anything that we don't expect to get a pay-off for. Were you trying to make your bf jealous? Well, it worked, didn't it? That was a mean thing to do. Do you even like your bf? Doesn't sound like it. Most of us treat those we like with a lot more dignity that what you've described here.

Did you really tell the 'other guy' that you'd take his phone number? For what purpose? Were you leading him on? Were you secretly going to call him at some time?

If you were my girlfriend I would probably come to the conclusion that you were not trustworthy, and didn't respect me and the relationship, and I'd dump your a$$ so fast it would make your head swim.

Answer 5

I can see where his coming from, yeah you should have kept it to yourself. I know if my hubby had said "Oh i gave this women my number" because she wouldn't leave me alone.I would have gotten a little upset, because lets be honest. Your a big girl and if a guy hits on you, all you have to do is make it clear your not interested. And if he can't take no for an answer, well that's his problem. Next time just smile and walk away, and if it comes down to it well then get rude. Don't go giving out your number, just to get someone off of your back. And don't take their either...........

Answer 6

Well ask yourself, How would you feel if he phoned you and said how some girl was asking all the time for his number, so he took hers?

I think its a mixture of him over reacting, and you taking the number. If he wouldnt leave you alone after "No" you should have left yourself, if he followed then you should have gotten help.

What are you going to do if "Mr Crazy" see's you again and asked why you didnt call, and gets all insane on you. because you more or less said he had a chance by taking his number.

Answer 7

I agree with the people who said that you handled the situation wrong to begin with. You should have FIRMLY told the guy that you weren’t available and wouldn’t give him your number, and then left it at that, instead of offering to take his number.

I also agree with Peggy. You likely told boyfriend because you wanted to see if he’d be jealous. Well, it sounds like maybe he is jealous. But it mostly sounds like now he’s wondering just how trustworthy you are. Personally, I don’t think that’s an overreaction. I think that’s a logical conclusion (which doesn't mean I think you're cheating on him, but I think you've left the door open to him 'wondering' about it).

Answer 8

Well it's good that you were honest but you were in the wrong to take the guy's number. If anything you should have given him a fake number just to get him off your back. He was asking for your number...you don't know him..you owe him nothing...it's okay to lie and give a fake number. Now then...as for your boyfriend...apologize and tell him that you'll never do it again...and reassure your guy that he has nothing to worry about. Just give him time if he is still upset afterwards to brush it off. No guy wants to think about another guy going near his girl.

Answer 9

I think hes just over reacting. Girls do that alot to get rid of a guy. He should actually see it as a compliment that you dont care about other guys because of him. Talk to him. Ask him what would he have done if someone came up to him to ask for his number, when he wasnt interested offcourse.

Also, i think its kind of stupid of everyone else to say that you should've given the other guy the cold shoulder instead of taking his number. It would probably make him angry. That was considerate of you actually and i dont think you dont have any fault in this except that you were trying to show off abit to your bf.

Answer 10

The most serious threat an indiviual at dating phase is Insecurity coupled with competition. And there you go telling that you took a guy's number !. You would surely have your reasons as stated, but the cardinal sin was to tell HIM. Guys are more insecure .
You should keep such incidents to yourself only, trying to reason out with your guy will complicate it more & would raise issuses bigger than you know or want.

Answer 11

He's overreacting ,but then maybe he has been cheated on and is afraid to lose you. If you don't find out why its such a big deal to him, you'll never know. Just throw the number away and dont tell him next time or tell the next guy who asks you already have a boyfriend and to get lost.