My girlfriend of about 6 weeks was telling me that in her past relationships, when they get to about 5 months long, she pretty much ends them right there because she all of a sudden feels scared and like shes suffocating and doesn't want to feel committed. But she said she likes me a lot and wants to somehow end that problem with me, but is afraid that it's going to happen again. She basically hasnt been single in a few years because she starts dating after she breaks up w/ the other guy and is never really serious at all with them. Today she was thinking about the commitment issue for a long time and how she could maybe get over it and "grow up." All she thought of was maybe being single for awhile and then somehow realize something and be able to appreciate her relationships more. But I like her a lot and dont want her to be single! i know she doesnt either, and really wants to somehow find another way where she can get over that issue. theres gotta be some other way...PLEASE help!
2007-11-13 18:21:57 · 7 answers · asked by Zach N 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Simply said, she must grow up. Maybe you will be the one to be the catalyst for that to happen. However, for long-term success, you surely don't want to push it. Some people will probably tell you she needs professional counseling, but she doesn't appear to . She must make up her mind on her own, possibly influenced indirectly by your commitment. Good luck.
2007-11-13 18:28:37 · answer #1 · answered by Dr. Kalyfran 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first make sure she loves u more than her phobia.. else for her its merely phobia she will move on.. but u will get hurt as u really like her a lot.
den to get rid of that phobia.. u need her to show d beauty of committment and relation..show her ur affection.. show her d life being all together sharing all pains n joys .. all small funs u share wid ur loved ones.. d sense of securtiy that comes along wid d committment.. d feeling of "u r mine..n i am urs " make her realise all these by meeting some of ur committed frends who r living happyly together...
will take a month or so for u to make her realise all these things..
when u r sure.. that she is ready to take committment.. propose her officialy!! good luck
2007-11-14 02:31:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this same phobia, only it was three months, not five... so consider yourself lucky
but when i ended up with my boyfriend of right now i talked it over with him, explained to him what was going to happen, how i was going to freak out and we dealt with it. if she cares about you enough, she'll stick wit ya.
2007-11-14 02:33:24 · answer #3 · answered by allie m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all it is that she is scared. she wouldnt know how to act after that. or that if it goes to much longer after that she might get her heart broken. just tell her to dont worry about it and everything will be alight and that u will never break her heart. that should do just fine
2007-11-14 02:26:03 · answer #4 · answered by kev-0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When people talk about commitment issues, it's because they haven't fallen in love. Someone who is in love has no such problems.
2007-11-14 02:26:34 · answer #5 · answered by jenesuispasunnombre 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
yeah .. sure there is a way .. make her feel sure tht u r also not ready for a commitment so u both can be cooll. i guess wen she cums to no tht she will relax a bit and tell her u like like her but love is yet to be felt for her .. try it
2007-11-14 02:25:32 · answer #6 · answered by kritika 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Communication. You need to keep reassuring her that everything wil be okay, and that you love her and want her to be happy.
2007-11-14 02:25:07 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋