I've gotten to be pretty good friends with a guy, but I always wanted more from the beginning. We hang out a lot in groups and from my perspective, it seems like he flirts with me like crazy (eye contact, touching, compliments, stares, remembering conversations), and he has told me that he thinks I'm pretty. His actions don't really suggest that he wants to be more that friends though. He's had the opportunity to ask me out but hasn't, and doesn't ever try to get me alone with him or make a move or call me just to talk. He has several female friends and he's naturally a talkative, friendly, touchy person, so I can't tell if he is deliberately flirting or if he is just being friendly. He also complains about being single all the time around me, so I don't know if that is good or bad. I don't want to tell him how I feel because he could be oblivious to the signals I've been sending him and that could make our burgeoning friendship awkard. Could he really just want to be friends? Why?
2007-11-13 18:06:59 · 26 answers · asked by desertrose571 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He's comfortable with you. He has fun with you and can talk to you about what's on his mind. Don't push it and just be his friend. If it's going to turn into something else let it happen naturally. Some of my best friends have been guys, and unlike girlfriends they can usually keep confidences and offer good advice from a male perspective.
2007-11-13 18:13:09 · answer #1 · answered by Pippa A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This relates to maturity. As we get older, we begin to value friendship and distain the idea of "scoring" for the sake of scoring. Good looks and money mean less, because many more mature people value a good relationship.
You might want to build friendships with people without this hidden (or obvious) agenda. Many retired people would enjoy the opportunity to be friends and not have any hidden agendas. You might not have such luck with younger, hormone impared males.
The media is driving many people toward a superficial life experience where "looks are most important." People near the end of their lives can be very best friends you could ever want. I suggest that you volunteer at a retirement center.
2007-11-13 18:15:41 · answer #2 · answered by Skeptic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some want to be friends. All like to get laid. Relationship or not. Personally I would take a friend with benefits over a long drawn out relationship right now. But I don't speak for all guys obviously. So just come straight with him. If you are worried about getting embarrassed. Talk to him after you've both have had a few drinks.
2007-11-13 18:14:00 · answer #3 · answered by Weezy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are only 2 situations in which a straight guy genuinely just wants to be friends with a girl
A) He finds her unattractive physically, but she's nice and helpful
B) He already has a girl who is hotter than her
THIS IS ALWAYS TRUE. In his case it's neither. Are you sure he's straight? Otherwise, he should be interested. Maybe just a bit shy. It's easier to talk to you in a friendly way, or he thinks you're not interested in him.
2007-11-13 18:19:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Either he is secretly gay or you are not attractive to him OR he is just way shy and needs you to make the first move. Maybe when he complains about being single you can throw a hint his way.... Ive always been the type of girl who lets the guy make the first move. If he doesnt, I figure he is not interested.
2007-11-13 18:15:59 · answer #5 · answered by fgdhfghr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here's a shot in the dark. Maybe he wants to get to know you better and observe you as a person before he goes further with it. Maybe, he's showing you that he can treat you with some respect. Again, just a shot in the dark. I'm not a guy so I could be wrong.
2007-11-13 18:14:47 · answer #6 · answered by Neva N 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's possible that all he wants from you is friendship and nothing more.. Why? because he might think your a fun person to be around, or he see's values in you that he likes. It is possible to have friends of the opposite sex with out wanting anything more then friendship...
2007-11-13 18:12:32 · answer #7 · answered by LokoLobo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He seems to b a good boy,and cares for friends but u never know what is going in his mind,if u really likes him than wait for some more time and study him,if find him ok,than go ahead to become more than friend.BEST OF LUCK.
2007-11-13 18:15:43 · answer #8 · answered by prahlad d 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way. One person always ends up falling for the other. Its just hard to be good friends with somone while watching them get swooped up by some idiot. I should probably get back to work lol.
2007-11-13 18:28:44 · answer #9 · answered by bennet 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Trust me, guys usually don't want to be just friends with a girl unless she's really ugly. Guys no matter how innocent they appear to be always has this fantasies of getting in their friend's pants and they will always try to convince you to make their desires come true.
2007-11-13 18:11:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋