My mom is hellbent on finding someone who will take care of me and my kids. I am just fine being single and I don't want a relationship where I'm a stay at home mom, I enjoy working and being able to handle all my finances. My mom is quite old fashioned and is constantly trying to hook me up with men that will take care of me and my two kids. How do I put it to her gently and make her see my point in a nice way?
2007-11-13 17:38:46 · 16 answers · asked by lexichic66 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Tell her exactly what you just told us. But she's not going to listen because she's a Mom and she thinks she knows what's best for you. Just turn down all the dates she gets for you. After you've said your peace with her, tell her the discussion is closed. If she brings up the subject again change it, or politely leave, or hang up. You may have to do this multiple times, and she still might not ever get it. You'll have to accept her for this, and find a way to work around it because nothing you say or do will likely change her mind.
Just be happy with your mom anyway and try to ignore her short comings, sounds like she cares for you and your kids. And one day you might miss her nagging about your relationships, so enjoy it while you're both here, and try to just see it as a concern for her most loved ones, you and her grandkids.
2007-11-13 17:53:52 · answer #1 · answered by englishbreakfast 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow i have a ton of respect for you tha you are a working single mom... most people dont realize how hard that is. Tell your mom you need some time to focus on your job and raising your kids...not a man. Again you are a very strong lady most women in your situation would give anything for a man who can support them. More women should have your attitude
2007-11-13 17:43:55 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her mom i know that you want me to be with someone cause you think thats the best thing for me, but thats not what i want right now and im happy with the way things are now, so please stop trying to fix me up with people......And if that doesnt work tell her straight out even if your being rude at least you will get the point across..She will forgive ya anyway she seems to care a lot :-)
2007-11-13 17:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hell, yes, you do need help and there's nothing wrong with meeting the right guy and being happy! Let your mom matchmake all she wants. Just tell her that you are very careful about who you choose to become involved with so you don't want to feel pressure to just get involved for the sake of just being involved with any man. Tell her you hope she understands and that it is just fine for her to matchmake. You will get a lot of nice evenings out of it and make some good friends even if they aren't your type. And, God willing, you'll meet the man of your dreams without even expecting it.
2007-11-13 17:46:00 · answer #4 · answered by kathyw 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She just wants you to be happy, but tell her that your a big girl now and she needs to let you do the chooseing, and once you have found someone, she will be the first to know, give her a big hug and tell her you'll take it from here.
2007-11-13 17:44:43 · answer #5 · answered by tiny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Say this:
"Mom, I'm sorry but my kids need me more than another father. Besides, my finances are stable and I enjoy a my job."
2007-11-13 17:44:40 · answer #6 · answered by Near 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say, "No thanks." Then never take her up on her offer. You appreciate her intentions, but it's ultimately none of her business. It's as simple as that. Honestly, if you try TOO hard to be "nice" about it, she will never stop. You are firm with your children, I presume? Well, sometimes mom needs the same treatment. That's life! Good luck!
2007-11-13 17:43:04 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Taco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy to tell your mum you're not looking for a mate.
OR, if shes fixing you up with a guy over dinner. While being normal, eating your potatos just motion over to the guy and say "Im sorry my mum made you come, im seriously not looking for another guy... but it was nice meeting you... "
2007-11-13 17:41:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 08:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her what you have just told us and if that doesn't work or hasn't worked then sometimes you just have to tell your parents to back off. I know I have and I'm just 16. Sometimes you have to be a little aggresive with everyone to your point around.
2007-11-13 17:42:59 · answer #10 · answered by Iris's Lover aka Garrett O. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋