Whats wrong with my girlfriend?

Question

Me and my girlfriend are taking time from each other. its only been a day. When she said she wanted time, I didnt call her from that point, I just let her have her space. Well, this morning she called me and I said I though u wanted your space? she said yea but i still want u to call me. I was confused. today before i went to work, she called me and said do you miss the sex? i said its good but im not gonna sweat over it. then she said question, what if im pregnant? i said ill be happy. i said why did u ask that? she said no reason. then earlier tonight she called me feeling sad and crying, and she said im afraid your gonna find someone else and it will be too late. i said are you ready to get back with me? she said im almost ready to get back with you. she said tears come to her eyes when she thinks about me. If she feels that way then why doesnt she get back with me? P.S. we took time apart cuz we both had cheated on each other, and the relationship was kinda rocky.

Answer 1

your question is too long to read .. ty

Answer 2

Dude, i think this girl is kinda going through the "I want him when I ain't got him but when I have I'm not so bothered", i think this is a general case of that to be honest.

I've been there, been through it & in the end it just doesn;t work, you end up coming back to this point & one day it'll be final, it's the only point your gonne get to in the end, think of it as coming to mountain cliffs and this time you've run out of bridges, it's where you end up.

It sounds to me really that you need to both move on, you will, it's routine she misses, the suidden change of her every day life that she probably got settled into, this will pass & you have to be strong & allow it to pass.

I mean to be fair, if you two guys have cheated on each other, theirs always going to be problems & an issue, and without a hesitation of a doubt, this will all surface again.

I'd seriously consider a move on for the best because I think in the long run, you'll tear each other apart in the end.

I wish you luck dude.

Answer 3

She sounds confused, like she just doesn't know what she wants or how to handle it. I think you're doing the right thing so far, being there for her while she figures it out but not imposing. Don't get too frustrated if it takes a while (although if it's only been a day and she's reacting this way, I don't think it will).

Best of luck!

Answer 4

Cheated like sexually cheated? Not like emotionally attracted to someone else and had coffee with them?

Coz if she got pregnant by someone and she doesn't know by whom .... she is really confused and upset and insecure. Like would you still love her if she is carrying someone else's kid? Maybe she wants to know if she is better at sex than the other woman.
You know what? Go over to her place with chocolate and roses and a tub of her favorite Ice cream and listen to her. Help her figure her thoughts and feelings out and be there for her. Listen to her and be sensitive to her needs to be listened to.

Maybe she feels that she loves you but because you cheated on her ... you don't love her anymore.

Answer 5

I think she really cares for you but she is also standoffish. Its hard to be in a relationship if the trust is not solid, you know. She still wants to be with you and keeps her distance as well. She doesn't want to get hurt again. Why not start a clean slate with her? Be honest. No more cheating. Complete trust. Best of luck man.

Answer 6

I think she is still figuring out who she really wants and she kinda wants the both of you but she knows that can't happen and she is more attatched to you so she is just making sure you won't let her go and since you cheated too she can't be fully secure which is why she keeps calling and all that even though she needed time

Answer 7

I think you're asking the wrong people. You should be discussing this with her. Opening communication is the first step to a successful relationship. That said, if you cheated on her, how is she going to trust you, even if she still loves you? For that matter, how can you trust her? If she is being cautious, then she is being smart. Regardless, keep talking to her about it and prove that you deserve her.

Answer 8

it sounds like she is still really confused as she should be.... when both people in a relationship cheat there is really something wrong... that shows that there is no commitment on either side of the relationship. I think you both need to have a serious talk!


...Or she could be pregnant and be afraid it is not yours!?!?!?!

Answer 9

a) i think she's pregnant and scared to tell u.
b) she loves u but she's insecure bc u cheated and the trust is gone. she's sad bc she wants to trust u bc she loves u.
c) she probably likes the other guy a lot but i think u won.
d) i agree with the guy who said that thats ur future wife. obviously u two are meant for eachother and madly in love. dont lose her. dont wait for her to tell u she's ready. be spontanieous, get her back on ur own and do it quick. it will just drive her more nuts about u.

Answer 10

You needa talk to her....come to a conclusion where both of you can forgive eachother, both of you did wrong and need to apologize..... cheating is not cool at all..... only do this if you can truly trust her and she can truly trust you....because without trust there mind as well not even be a relationship... come to trust, forgive and forget.... dont put any negative feeling on eachother....if yall love then love ad nothing else...just say sorry, i wont do it again( and dont do it again) and forgive them and trust them....


hope I could help

Answer 11

I'd get it confirmed that there is no baby because mood swings and acting bipolar sometimes comes when a woman first gets pregnant.