i have a boyfriend but i am still a teenager and i don't want to have sex because i feel there are just too many risks
about our relationship-------
he is Black and i am Iranian (Persian)
and im 15 (almost 16!) and hes 16
he has actually helped me quite alot because i have just moved to the hood in nyc and he has helped me get comfortable there (i have never lived in a hood before)
now whenever my boyfriend comes or i go out with him i have to admit that i tend to dress pretty sexy and be flirty with him
i just love the attention he gives me
also i lie on top of him alot and we makeout while he's touching my *** usually and we play wrestle ALOT
hes always uhh complimenting me on my "assets"..........u kno like he says im "thick"
but i was wondering am i making it harder (no pun attended lol) for him to go without sex or would it be more like a better than nothing sort of thing for him
o and we've been together for around 2 1/2 months
2007-11-13 17:28:27 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
and i alread kno that i shouldnt sleep with him unless i want to so u dont need 2 tell me dat
2007-11-13 17:30:47 · update #1
If you do not want to have sex, that is your decision. You should not have sex because you feel it will make your boyfriend happy, but because you are physically and emotionally ready for intercourse.
You do not owe him anything because he made you feel welcome in the "hood" because that was common courtesy.
Plus, sex is a huge step because of the dangers it brings such as pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases and much more.
Be careful when you are around your boyfriend because all though you think you know him, one day he won't care if you don't want to have sex and have sex with you anyway. That is when it is rape.
2007-11-13 17:40:47 · answer #1 · answered by Pinwheel_Lightning 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"also i lie on top of him alot and we makeout while he's touching my *** usually and we play wrestle ALOT "
... and you WONDER if you're torturing him? Blue balls sounds about right. You tease.
... if you've been with him for 2 1/2 months and if you still don't want to sleep with him, ditch him. If you want to but not just now... tell him that, maybe? So you'll know where you stand, like. See the second answer -- he's probably thinking you're stringing him along.
2007-11-14 01:44:47 · answer #2 · answered by Deep B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really likes you then he will respect your decision not to have sex with him until you are ready. And in my opinion you are not a tease if you like to make out with your boyfriend... I mean you are attracted to him... or you wouldn't be dating. And for guys... something is better than nothing... because if you don't do anything they will just think you are not interested anymore. Just explain the deal to him. If he wants to be with you it won't matter how far you go.
2007-11-14 01:43:01 · answer #3 · answered by Alex The Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're actually not torturing him, guess you're torturing yourself. seems like you want to do it with him but you're just being careful & you think of the consequences which is really good for you. there's no stopping you if you really want it to. i may say though that preserve it until you finally get to decide whether he deserves it or not.
2007-11-14 01:39:07 · answer #4 · answered by leighn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unethical to have sex before marriage. You should also stop lying on him as it may arouse your feelings and you may indulge in sex which may be detrimental.
2007-11-14 01:36:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you for not wanting to have sex yet....
if you dont want to have sex yet...teasing doesnt help....men do suffer from getting aroused without the needed release afterward...so if you dont mean to go all the way...dont start what you cannot finish....
2007-11-14 01:36:51 · answer #6 · answered by geisha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Better than nothing??? I think you are still giving him nothing....except for eye candy and he can find that anywhere! In the end you are just teasing him with what he can't have!!
2007-11-14 01:39:23 · answer #7 · answered by Ivey J 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Teasing does not help. Yes, you are a tease, and he is probably suffering from "blue balls" every time he leaves you.
2007-11-14 01:33:30 · answer #8 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea you're making it harder!!!! (Pun intended) But you already knew that answer to that question.
2007-11-14 01:46:14 · answer #9 · answered by Ashton M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your a slut ...the way your acting ...he probably thinks you'll put out pretty soon
2007-11-14 01:35:49 · answer #10 · answered by velma dinkley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋