Should I wait for or move on? I'm confused because...?

Question

Originally we were to be friends w/ benefits, but I'm not quite sure what we are right now. It's been discussed that we are sexually monogamous, but can date other people. The other person encourages me to do but told me they can't handle seeing more than one. When we do hang out, I'll cook for them, they'll spend the nite, we'll go to dinner, to movies, parks. We talk 2-3 times a week and maybe hang out once a week (very busy work schedule). We've been seeing one another for about 2 months. They often remind me that they are not even potentially ready for a relationship, but we interact in dating/relationship ways. They say "I'm not looking for more than what we already have" which to me seems very relationship-like, but there is not commitment on either side. I'm very confused. Right now I'm ok with it - I mean it's only been two months and I really like them. I could see my feelings growing in time, tho. Should I go by their actions or what they are saying? Move on or wait it out?

Answer 1

Actions, and understand the difference between conditional love and unconditional love, I KNOW YOU'VE HEARD THE TERMS!!!!!!! SO realize in our society we have a BIG catch-22, some people are smart enough to see it, some people just love romantic fantasies because its better then seeing reality for what it is, but I digress. Friendship is based on unconditional love, relationships with commentment are not. Works like this, say I'm in a relatinoship with a girl, she sleeps with someone, now what do you think I'm suppose to do? Did you say dump her? YOUR RIGHT!!! Now does that mean I stop loving her? Yep, I have to try.... Now is that the same way a friendship works? Nope? Your right again! So how is it that when we move from the unconditional love of friendship, to the conditional love of romance, that, THATS a better relationship? Think about that, because what you've got there can be true. See the way around this little catch-22 is to realize a good relationship will make marriage possible, a marriage will not make a good relationship possible, get? So this is actually the natural way things should go, be honest, be heart-felt, and be true to your purpsoe, best of luck, if you thought there was no books on classical love, wait to you try this true love, friendship, honesty crap, now thats hard-2-the-core.....