My gf and the her ex?

Question

My girlfriend of 7 months now, was feeling down because her ex (who she dumped and chose me) is getting engaged!, i wanted to know why she feels down especially she is with me know, and she shoudlnt care, she said "We were supposed to get married by this time, but it didnt work out, and i know i love u but he is my past and he affect me in a way", well she says he was enganged too soon, and she was shocked esp. after he told her that she is the greatest girl in the world and he will never marry after her......is that normal?, help me figure out what is happening?

well he was her 4th bf, and not first love, but they talked about marriage

well we talked about marriage also, and im close with her bro, sis and parents, and im sure she loves me, without she saying it, but i guess yeah, she is confused why he is getting engaged too fast after their rship.thats all, unless she keeps on feeling down, then i think im not the right one for her and should leave...

their rship was for 1.5yrs only, i guess they talked abt marriage after 1yr, i kindda have that inner pressure of marrying her, i don know!?, maybe bcz that guy wanted to marry her soon, and im not, but im thinking to get married to her, when i said "im thinking" i guess i have the right to, bcz its just been 7 months to make such life decisions.

Answer 1

women are weird thats all

Answer 2

This is sick and he needs to end the relationship. His ex is ok with this? Thats just sick. She must have really low self esteem to think its ok to be someone's sideline chick. She should know she deserves better than that. He's a jerk for allowing this behavior. Yet he doesn't want to hurt his current gf? Yeah right. How does he think she's gonna feel when she finds out the truth? She's gonna throw a party? I think not! She's gonna be pissed at the fact that she had no say so in this twisted affair. He's sexin the ex and his current....HELLOOOOO!!!! Can we say DISEASES and STD's waiting to happen? Yet the poor gf doesn't even know! Thats totally not fair to her she should have a say in wether she wants to deal with this relationship or not. He needs to come clean and quick. Since he wants to see and have sex with his ex so much then why not be with her? But atleast he needs to man up and tell his current gf whats up!

Answer 3

Dude your girl is a bit immature and insensitive but she's young so this is common.

She left him and chose you so all in all, you don't have naything to worry about

It is kind of annoying when someone is giving that type of attention to their ex. I assume since they considered marriage it must have been somewhat deep and long-term...and you guys have been together just 7 months.
How long were they together before talking marriage?

Well, you need to tell her to be thankful for what she has and stop worrying about the grass on the other side because there's a reason she left that guy. It's probably a little blow to her ego that the ex who wanted to marry only her got hitched so fast...it jsut shows her that all his words and devotion to her weren't really legit and she probably believed him back then. Nobody wants to be that replaceable...it's the female ego man! So also try and understand from her point of view.

***In her heart, it seems she hopes to be married and when you see your friends or exes getting married, especially in such a short time, it might irritate a wound in ones heart a bit.
Could she be hoping you'll be more marriage-minded and have you not been since it's only been 7 months? This could also be inner tension of hers at this unfulfilled hope of marriage to the man she loves...which is you.

P.S. There was guy who tried to swoop me off my feet saying he'd kill himself if I don't marry and there is no girl for him, it is Allah's will we marry...well, I didn't marry him and said goodbye, less than a week later he was trying to marry a tranny he met online so...yeah, it's a bit disturbing especially if you thought someone was legit even though you DON'T want to be with them.

Conclusion, tell her you're trying to understand how a girl would be annoyed but look at what you have. Deal with it and move on. ***And if you love this girl to marry her, she might not realize this and she'll envy others who get married before her, especially exes...so let her know (maybe propose when/if the time is right..but don't rush) If you aren't sure about her...just be more loving so she isn't feeling she's missing too much but is distracted by your affections.

Answer 4

I was in a relationship for 7 years and have two kids with this guy. He would never marry me. As soon i left him he married the 1st girl he meet. It kinda bothered me I think it was because he said he loved me,we had kids and wouldn't marry me. After I left he said okay i'll marry you but for me it was to late.It just makes you wonder what was wrong w/ me. What does she do that is so great that he would marry her right now and not me.We just dwell on things like that. All you can do is show her she made the right chose by being with you and that you love her more then he ever could. Good luck and i hope everything works out for you..:)

Answer 5

It is normal, especially if this guy was her first love. If they were that serious that the marriage question had been brought up between them, then there is bound to be some feelings leftover. If my ex got engaged just 7 months after we broke up, I would be a little shocked as well- it doesn't mean she doesn't love you but sometimes things hurt a little longer than others would like.

Answer 6

I would feel the same way as she does. They planned to get married that means that it was a serious r/ship but it didnt work out. The feelings will still be there for a while but that doesnt mean she doesnt love you.She does because she told you honestly what and how she feels. Right now she needs a friend in you who'll be there for her. Hug her when she's upset and down. Make her smile when she cries......n it would take her less time to get over it totally.

Answer 7

Even if she broke up with them.....they were still together and it sounds as if she considered it serious at the time. Its hard to think that other person moved on to something even more serious that quick. I just had the same thing happen to me with an ex and I was really upset until I realized that I am better off the way I am and Just had to let go of that "ego thing". She'll come around soon and realize that while it sucks to let go....she is better off with her original choice to break it off. Just be understanding for now. Good Luck!!

Answer 8

its not that she doesnt like u, its just that not enough time has passsed for her to get over him. she made a big mistake by jumping into another relationship esp. if there was proposal involved. it sounds like they were in love and to tell u the truth it soulnds to me like her X is commiting her same mistake : being with some one else to try and forget her. sorry but the third wheel here is u. there is still love in her heart for him. and u should give her time and space to figure out what she really wants.

Answer 9

In her mind, she walked away from the relationship on top. He didn't dump her, she dumped him. So to her, when she found out that he was already engaged to somebody else, it was more of an ego crusher for her. I wouldn't worry about it too much but if she seems like she's not going to get past it, I'd move on.

Answer 10

dude she likes him still. I know this cuz im a gurl that did this to a boi but u know wut im marrying the dude i did this too. just becuase he wraped his hands around my waiste wispered i love u in my ear and showed me a ring let go of me when he knew i didnt want to be let go of and he knelt down and asked me if i would marry him, and i said yes becuase i knew in my heart that this was the guy ur girl will know and firuger out sooner or later if she doesnt and is still upset bout her ex then dump the girl and find another that will be the one. I know this for a reson i wouldnt lie to u.

Answer 11

I guess she bought that "Ur the greatest + I'll never find nother like U b.s. Heh guy!!!! Quit tryin 2 figure the lady out. Never happen. Besides it's the mystery that makes it exciting:) Start treatin her like u lv her man- like she's the women 4 u. that way she won' be worrying bout her past but will be lookin to her future.