Three years ago I had a tragic accident because of a drunk driver. He ran a red light and was speeding at a high rate and under the influence at 8:30 in the morning. I recovered from the injuries and it took a year. The incident happened while I was at work. After recovery I was not allowed back at work which was a major disappointment. I was devastated by this. I had to start my life over at fifty years of age. Before the accident I was a mellow individual. I am no longer mellow and I do not want to be close with anyone accept my beloved pet. Any suggestions. I think you have to realize I have come close to losing everything I own. I feel resentful and I do not trust anyone anymore. I was a very gullable and trusting person before this incident. Please comment!
2007-11-13 15:47:22 · 8 answers · asked by melonki 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I can understand that you are distrustful, but you need to start trusting again. 20 years ago, I watched my best friend be thrown in front of a drunk driver. It took along time for me to get over what happened. The best advice that I can give you is to get into counseling and take things little by littel and day by day. It will get better if you allow it to. Good luck.
2007-11-13 15:55:27 · answer #1 · answered by pitbull1969 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey..
Sound truly awful.. I cannot imagine how you are feeling, just that it is okay to feel however you are... I really believe in finding a good counsellor or therapist... In England you can get this through your GP or insurance in the US..
You deserve to have your voice heard. Anger maybe the most tangible feeling and response at the moment, but you need to remember that you are made up of more than this one emotion and so other emotions will re-surface with time and kindness... The fact that you are trusting of your pet and you allow him or her to soothe you shows that you are still yearning and able to be accepted and be tolerant.
I think that a counsellor or therapist offers a very neutral space, and they accept you for who you are, regardless of how you feel you cannot be accepted... By having time to release your feelings, fears and emotions safely you can begin to move forwards in a direction that is positive. You may never be the same person you were before, but you might just find someone you like more lurking in there..
Every single journey starts with a single step..
Good luck- doing something is always a start
2007-11-14 00:01:19 · answer #2 · answered by Emma 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are truly going to have to start over by letting this bitterness go by keeping this inside of you.You are allowing this disaster to continue destroying you from the inside out.
Yes you will never forget what happened but you can move on and let the bitterness go. God never promised he would deliver us from all tragedies in this lifetime but he will walk with you through it. It is obvious that he still has a plan for your life maybe he had to allow this to happen because somebody that was not in you life at that time needed you to be where they are.
Look around you God has a reason for letting you live and start all over for a reason don't turn yourself off from others there are those around you who need you. Take it slow but build up your trust again enough that is will let you enjoy the people who are going to love you when you let that wall down.
Think about it I bet there is somebody or more somebody's that you have met all throughout your life that you would not have wanted to miss and there are lots more that you will love given a chance.
Try and remember who ever dies with the most toys still dies and leaves his toys behind and everybody's processions are future land fill items. Put some prospective on it and your heart will open up to what is important to you. Take care and God Bless
2007-11-14 00:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by mdjgirl7 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like an Adjustment Disorder or, if more severe, Major Depressive Disorder. I would seek out a therapist who is knowledge about bereavement (you didn't lose a loved one but your physical health, so it's sort of similiar) or health adjustment issues. You're sort of having an identity crisis in that how you defined yourself was shattered by the accident. Likewise, your experience vastly differed from your worldview and has disrupted your preception of how the world works. It's like your faith in humanity was destroyed. So, you're suffering from an existential crisis (hmm... maybe you need a therapist who specializes in existential therapy) about how the world operates and how you fit into it.
That's what I see. Not sure if you were looking for something else as you didn't ask a specific question.
2007-11-13 23:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by katwalker 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you had a head injury, it's possible that could have caused you to have a personality change. Different areas of the brain govern different aspects of personality, so if one area was damaged, even slightly, it could have altered your personality. It's also possible that you haven't fully processed the psychological trauma of being in the accident. A counselor could probably help you.
2007-11-14 01:20:30 · answer #5 · answered by minerva_nine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand. It was a drunk moron, no one you knew. How did this effect your trustworthiness?
But hey, humans kill humans, but also
humans live off of other humans.
It's either trustworthiness, or a life of stress.
2007-11-13 23:56:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Peace is here, check.
2007-11-14 00:00:15 · answer #7 · answered by in_light_7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! That is terrible. I am so sorry. Please, seek a psychiatrist and good luck.
2007-11-13 23:56:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋