My ex broke up with me and said we needed to move on. It was difficult but I finally started dating now he keeps texting saying you're only doing that to make me jealous. To be brutally honest yes I have some lingering feelings for him but I'm trying to move on with my life and my life is not focused on making him miserable. Why is he so paranoid, its annoying
2007-11-13 15:31:25 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he doesn't want to be with you, but doesn't want anyone else to either. Just move on with your life and be happy...Also i wouldn't bother answering his texts.
2007-11-13 15:34:56 · answer #1 · answered by **KELLEY** 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably does have lingering feelings, like you do. The fact that you're moving on might be catching his interest again. Even if he isn't all that interested in dating you, he might be afraid to let you go, till he's sure he was right. Many guys aren't quite sure about a breakup, till they have a girl who they're sure is better. Of course, a "better" girl tends to be hard to find, so they waste your time, while they're looking, just in case.
If this sounds kind of annoying, and complicated, and sounds like he's not really worried about your feelings... you're getting it. Romance can bring out the worst in anyone though, he's certainly not the only person out there who's a pain to talk to after a breakup. You might still be a little tangled up too, it sounds like when he talks to you, you're talking back.
If you stop talking to him for a couple of weeks, he should be over the worst of the annoying period. It's tempting to keep talking, but it does make it much harder for you both. You can be polite about it, if he contacts you, just let him know you need to wait till you've had a little time to get some distance.
2007-11-13 15:56:23 · answer #2 · answered by btoblake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's no paranoid, he's having second thoughts. He is showing the first signs of STALKING! You first have to make a personal decision of going back with him for more of the same treatment he gave your before your break up (whatever that was) or to make a clean break and move on.
If you chose to get back together, you already know what you can expect. If you want to move on immediately inform your parents, friends and most of all the police of his behavior.
YOU MAKE THE CALL!
2007-11-13 15:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by Mr. Right 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pretty sure if you still have feelings for him, he feels the same for you.
I agree, he IS jealous. If he broke up with you in the first place, leave him alone and be happy with the person your with. If you don't feel that he loves you the way you felt for him, tell him to LEAVE you alone.
Sorry, don't mean to sound so harsh..
He should feel very skeptical about your relationship with him...
Why you broke up? There must be a story behind that?...just moving on with life?
2007-11-13 15:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by ~SkyAngel~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is jealous that you have moved on and he probably didn't have things work out with that cutie he was hoping to land when things were officially over with you. A word of advice, change your number. Tell him to grow up and get over himself. And enjoy your new guys company. Feelings or no feelings, he called it off, without thought to your feelings. He needs to let you go.
2007-11-13 15:37:29 · answer #5 · answered by Carol T 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Right, the first thing you do even tho' you still care for him is to halt this testing from now. Get out and find yourself a gorgeous man then text him. O.K. works a treat. Try it and put your feelings on hold. Pestering him is driving you apart.
2007-11-13 15:36:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your ex, its not his business. Move on with ur life girl. BTW, good for you, he should be jealous. And he must be if he's texting you about it. I hope one of the new boys makes you forget about the ex all together lol.
2007-11-13 15:36:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably still has feelings for you too. Its a classic thing: he doesn't want to date you because he wants to spread himself around, but doesn't want anyone else to date you. You have to keep moving on, he is obviously not healthy to be in a relationship with.
If you want to stop hearing his nonsense, change your cell number.
Good luck moving on sweetie :)
2007-11-13 15:38:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats even more annoying is the fact, that your x-boyfriend is probably gona keep doing this if i answer this question for you.
The best thing to do is, throw a party, get drunk, and tell him off.
2007-11-13 15:36:12 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares what he thinks or says or does - he is your ex - right ??
if you are truly moving on and leaving him behind you wont care.
when he texts you ,,just ignore it.
It sounds like it maybe him that still wants to hold on to you
some guys are paranoid,, dont ask me why, I havnt figured that one out, but have dealt with a few too many of them
2007-11-13 15:36:52 · answer #10 · answered by country_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋