Say a very sweet, shy girl is beginning to open up to you gradually. Some days she will listen quietly and add input in her soft spoken voice, others days she'll ask you questions and take interest while others she may confide personal information to you. Technically, it seems as if she's opening up more and more. But then there are some days where she reverts to her shy ways and mannerisms around you. For instance, she's still really quiet, has difficulty maintaining eye contact, gives a shy smile when you acknowledge her but looks down, gets embarrassed and blushes easily, etc.
Would you be offended if she reverts back to her shyness on some days, displaying these mannerisms? What would you think about her/the situation?
2007-11-13 15:23:07 · 23 answers · asked by Chelsea 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I wouldn't be offended at all. The fact that she has opened up to me on occasions, let's me know she see's me trust worthy. However, she may have been burned before and question's herself as if she may doing the right thing by letting me in. Hence the reverting to shyness. Most likely I already have her trust, the doubt lies within herself. I would just continue to support her and maybe I'll find a great friend when I'm in need.
2007-11-13 15:41:42 · answer #1 · answered by Wright 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG! This is my favorite question. You sound Exactley like me ( I wish I knew you-lol) I get in this confusing sitiuation alot. If this Man is A MAN [ worth a ****] then he would Naturally be Honored. Taking it that he AND ONLY Him is the cause for you opening your door. As far as What a Man normally would think if he is Mature is that you are BEGINNING to Trust him, But that you have been hurt Or damaged previously so there is some healing needed. A guy who REALLY wants you is going to Take that as a challenge. And Try to win you over. Also he might step back and ask you what hes doing to make you feel insecure . If he Does NOT do anything like this, Im Afraid he doesnt get it and is Not worth your time.
2007-11-13 23:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by snowbunny360 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no I would not be offended. She is, like you said shy, and probably insecure. Just keep the open communication between you two. Sounds like she is coming around. Sometimes it is a slow process, especially if she has been that way her whole life.
Maybe the more you talk to her, you may find out reasons why she is that way. Don't press her for it just let her open up to you.
2007-11-13 23:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by mikamar1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be offended, but concerned. I would think she has issues at home and on the shy days would think those issues are worse. I would wonder if she is being abused some way and this is her way of coping. I would give her her space and try to be there for her.
2007-11-13 23:28:22 · answer #4 · answered by Nena 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how often it happened. It wouldn't offend me but it would make me think I did something wrong or that she doesn't like me. If they seem put off by this then on one or the less shy days let them know that sometimes you get shy again very easily. That would help most people out and let them know that its not them doing something stupid.
2007-11-13 23:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by zeroblank57 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't be. I come of as shy but it just depends who I'm with. She might have stuff going on at home and doesn't want to open up about certain things. Maybe she's worried what you'd think.
2007-11-13 23:34:24 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Her personality is her own. You don't know what causes her to feel confident or shy. It likely has nothing to do with you. If the relationship seems to have developed some trust, then ask her about it.
2007-11-13 23:27:13 · answer #7 · answered by Treece 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would respect her. Honestly, I can't talk to well with girls, just never have been able to. If a girl did that, and its happened, usually I try my very best to crack a smile to show that I still want to be their friend and that I don't mind if it takes even a couple of years...
Yeah so NO i would NOT be offended. :)
Hope this helped
~Fai
2007-11-13 23:28:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think being coy and not overzealous about something is good. You don't always want to give out every bit of information and come at someone like a freight train. It sounds like she is interested from what I can see. Good luck
2007-11-13 23:44:03 · answer #9 · answered by feeona 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't be offended at all. i used to be like that when i was younger. until i got more comfortable with people and more importantly myself, i wasn't able to be completely open. it wasn't until i was about 26 that i was able to overcome it. i HAD to overcome my shyness. i was doing a practicum for elementary education where i HAD to be open. kids don't respond well to someone who is shy. they generally walk all over them.
the situation has nothing to do with you actually so please don't be offended by it. be there for her and don't judge the person she is. she'll eventually come out of it. when she does, you probably won't be able to shut her up (like me)!
2007-11-13 23:36:47 · answer #10 · answered by Amy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋