Okay well we've been together for just a little over a month now and at first he was amazing.He called me everyday and came by to see me at work but now all the sudden he seems so caught up with his friend and I feel like i've been kinda pushed out of the way.Like I can't even talk to him for a second alone or anything.Every time I try and hang out with him during the weekend either he's 'grounded' or can't get a ride but then I figure out that the very next day he;s out having a blast with his friends.I don't wanna call him out on it and be like 'hey,you need to spend more time with me' but I also don't want this to keep going on.I was hoping it was just a little faze but I really don't know.What should I do?
2007-11-13 15:17:34 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Now i'm always calling him and if I want to try and hang out I have to make the plans,unlike it used to be.I really don't wanna break it off with him though.
2007-11-13 15:19:41 · update #1
Wait it out a little bit. He might just need some space. If it doesn't get better and he dosen't bring it up, tell him something. Ask him if he's purposefully seeking space or something. Tell him that alone time is important to you in a relationship, and that you aren't asking for a lot, and you respect his time with friends, but you don't like being pushed aside or ignored. If he reacts poorly and things get worse, or explode or if he decides that he wants to break up, let him go. You're his girlfriend and you deserve time. People make time for the things they care about. If he's pushing you away, you deserve better, and if he isn't willing to try to make time for you, he isn't right for you.
2007-11-13 15:23:42 · answer #1 · answered by Kat1286 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow it's pretty early on in a relationship for him to already start doing this. Poor girl..
He probably doesn't understand how valuable you are and now he most likely thinks he has you in his grip and he thinks he doesn't have to put so much into the relationship anymore. Everyone know that a relationship takes a little work for it to be successful. It's not likes it's labour or anything, but it's not always a walk in the park. Usually guys start paying less attention to their women when they get really confortable with them. Looks like he got confortable with you way to fast. A month should still be a lust filled relationship, but in this case it's not unfortunatly. Most guys get like this after 5 months to a year within a relationship. For some it even takes years before they start to sit back and pay less attention then they did in the begining. It's not always a bad things. actually him being so confortable with you is a good thing, but it's way to early and thats the problem. Usually when love matures and the guy feels totally inlove or satisfied with the relationship he feels he's done his work so he kinda retires from all the running around he did in the begining. It's totaly beautiful to have a mature loving relationship, but even those relationships have their boundaries and their love contributions that need to be mad through attention or spending time. This relationship is headed no where, so if your not interested in a future then drop this bumb. He really sounds like a lazy guy. Friends shouldn't go above of the girlfriend. This is the big sign that says GET OUT before you get to attached.
(L) Kurin
2007-11-13 15:28:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first stages of a relationship is always the best, that's when everything is interesting... the "get to know each other part" once that has past, people tend to evaulate things and see where they stand. Try leaving him alone for a few days. See what happens. Find something to do with your friends, talk to other guys. If you give him all the attention in the world, he IS going to push you away. Too much of anything isn't good (unless its money!).
If he doesn't call you back, more than likely he lost interest. Move on.
2007-11-13 15:23:29 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is important to respect yourself, it is to bad this guy has treated you this way, he really needs to be honest with you but since he has not then you will have to be the one to address it and if he don't respond to you then unfortunately breaking up with him is the only alternative, can't have a relationship all by yourself and you shouldn't have to compete either. Don't be hurt by this not all guys are evasive, breaking up might be better for you. Besides making friends, going to the movies, and going to dances stag is much more fun than sitting at home chasing a guy who only wants to be with another guy, think about that.
2007-11-13 15:29:01 · answer #4 · answered by carmella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what's going. Confront him about how you're feeling.
Maybe he doesn't even know that's how you feel.
Communication is the key here.
Talk it over or you'll never work it out.
Do not keep this to yourself; that is the worst thing you could do.
I'm sure he'll be receptive as long as you remain calm and talk to him in a mature way. Don't get whiney or start crying.
Just straight out tell him what's going on.
2007-11-13 15:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by aak 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just call him out on it. You need to be direct with guys or they never get it through their thick heads. Just let him know you feel pushed aside and if this is his way of trying to break it off or something the least he could do is actually tell you how he feels.
2007-11-13 15:23:51 · answer #6 · answered by Oryx 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't try too hard, you don't want to stress yourself out too much. If he's not fufilling his duties as a boyfriend you need to drop him. Give him a warning or get to talk to him about how you feel left out. Of course in the beginning they are going to be the "perfect" guy. Eventually the new girlfriend phase wears out and they show who they really are.
I hope for the best.
2007-11-13 15:23:26 · answer #7 · answered by Elizabeth K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hello...well if he really cares about you, he would not have lied to you. from what i see, he's useless. you 2 have been going out for quite a month or so right? ah...he's already showing his true colors in other words: HE'S USELESS. so u don wanna break it off with him eh? you seriously have to think twice about that.its only this stage of your relationship with him. what if things start to get serious? maybe you guys have sex and MAYBE you get pregnant also. he is not responsible at this stage of time. so what do you think will happen if you get pregnant? will he be responsible? well, anyway, GOOD LUCK!
:D
2007-11-13 15:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's too young to be tied down. He is obviously not thinking about you. He has other things going on and very possibly other women. Learn now that these are the signs of a cheater. You need to break up with him. Don't get tied down. Boys that age (I assume you are young) don't know what they want and thats okay. You just don't need to be sitting around waiting for him to figure it out. Life is too short and you are missing out on yours by waiting for him.
2007-11-13 15:23:25 · answer #9 · answered by T A 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Truthfully, you should confront him. Be nice about it, but confront him. He'll either be touched that you are sincere about your feelings enough to try and see him or he'll be turned off by how "serious" you're being. Either way you'll find out if he's kinda "done" with the relationship. Or if he likes the whole: bros before hoes thing (no offense).
2007-11-13 15:21:47 · answer #10 · answered by Ryan C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋