Ok so my son had his 4th birthday on November 7th. My sister calls him and says Auntie Crystal is coming on the weekend to see you and i have a birthday present for you to. All weekend long my son kept asking when auntie crystal was coming over, and i had to keep saying, maybe later.
She calls me from home to say she is with her "lover" and she'll stop by during the week, meaning this week.
I talk to her today and she says i'm busy i have to work you know, and i was like ok but don't promise my son something then back out on it, it hurts a kids feelings. She then procedes to tell me to lose her number and not to ever call her again, a little extreme i thought.
My son hasn't forgotten and i don't say anything to him about it cause i don't want him all worked up. My sis lives 2 minutes from here, even if she stopped by when he was gone to bed to give him a birthday card he would be happy with that.
I guess i'm angry cause my sis promised my son she would come over......
2007-11-13 15:11:43 · 13 answers · asked by Wishmaster 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
and then she never did, i told my son today that she went on vacation for awhile and wouldn't be back until after xmas so that he would stop asking and wanting her to come over everyday just for his birthday.
Do you think i am angry for no reason or for good reason and how would you feel?
2007-11-13 15:13:03 · update #1
i would NEVER buy my son a gift and say it was from my sis, that is just so wrong on so many levels and it wasn't me who promised she would come by and give him a birthday gift, but thanks for the suggestion.
2007-11-13 15:24:44 · update #2
For anyone to promise something so important as a birthday present to a young, impressionable child and then not follow through shows an amazing lack of empathy and insight. I think you did right telling your son that your sis will be gone for awhile.
It sounds like your sis has her own issues to take care of.
2007-11-13 15:16:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be angry. I believe that it hurts the parent's feelings much more when someone promises something to their child and then re-negs!!!
Fortunately children are very resilient and bounce back from a wrong-doing much more easily than an adult.
In the future, I suggest you do this:
If your sister calls, do not let your son talk to her. Get all of the information from her on her intentions. DO NOT TELL YOUR CHILD WHAT YOUR SISTER'S PLANS ARE! Tell her that you will see her when she is ringing the doorbell. That way, you are sparing your child further hurt or needless expectations. If your sister doesn't show, you are the only one who knows and it's just between you and her. And if she DOES show up, more of a suprise for your son.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-11-14 09:33:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your sister is very self centered and immature and obviously doesn't realize how important it was to your son that she came over when she promised she would. I would purchase a small gift for your son and just tell him it was from his aunt who dropped it off when he was already in bed. I would suggest keeping your distance from your sister until she grows up!
2007-11-14 09:59:55 · answer #3 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Aww, poor little guy! Well, it sounds like your sis is selfish and has some other issues with herself. I would be very upset and it would cause the mama bear in me to put up some serious boudaries between my children(I have two boys) and whomever was the offender.
Good luck to you and give your boy an extra kiss!
2007-11-14 00:30:59 · answer #4 · answered by Jen L-N 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your sister did a real crappy thing and then to top it off she acted like a jerk when you confronted her about it. You are right, she was SO wrong on many levels. Your son will forget about it though and hopefully your sis will come to her senses and realize she was being crazy!
2007-11-13 23:38:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Thats very irresponsible of your sister....
BUT, things should never be promised to young children, it's hard for them to comprehend why they aren't getting what they were assured they would get for sure.
You could either use this situation to teach your son about truth/lies/honestly and how important it is, and how it can make someone feel bad......OR, you can just buy your son a little toy, and tell him it's from her.
2007-11-13 23:21:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that his auntie found a man, and that you hope, someday, that he DOESN'T find a woman like his auntie, lol.
You told him right...eventually, she'll be out-of-sight-out-of-mind, and your son will move on...but, after her little meltdown, I'd hesitate on letting her visit your house from now on.....not without a sincere apology.
2007-11-14 01:46:36 · answer #7 · answered by imrt70 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a good reason to be angry. A child is really easily hurt if an adult or anyone he looks up to lies to him. It's a shame that your sister has been so reckless in her decision making that she has forgotten how it might affect her nephew.
2007-11-13 23:17:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is way to familiar to me.My "friend" of 10 years does this to my daughter constantly.I ve told her and told her.its like shes an idiot.I have made it quite clear that if she wants to come and visit thats fine but don't make plans to take my daughter out shopping if you aren't going to.It really pisses me off.and upsets my 4 year old daughter\.
2007-11-14 09:39:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your sis is completely wrong! she never should of put a lover before her family like that...i feel for your son and you.
you have every reason to be mad. i know id be...
2007-11-14 01:03:38 · answer #10 · answered by Kimmi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋