Why do people think mothers are the one that only cares about a child?

Question

I am not a father yet, but i am sure when ever I have a kid i will never ever leave his or her side. I hate it how mothers think how fathers don't care ect....

Answer 1

My husband was really good in the beginning but now he would rather play world of warcraft then color or play dolls with our daughter. Only when I give him a guilt trip does he start acting more like a father.

Answer 2

I wish that my son's father never left my son's side. He was into drugs and alcohol all the time, either too drunk or too busy getting high somewhere and out for hours or even days. He was not a good father. I felt like a single mother with my son with my ex around. I had left my ex almost 4 years ago, after a beating my son saw when he just turned 2. I know lots of great fathers and father figures. I have a friend that has a b/f that is AWESOME with kids even though they are not his children. They are my friend's children. My friend's brother is also a great guy to have kids around as well. He is AWESOME. There are Awesome guys and there are deadbeat guys. Just like women as well. Some women are more nurturing than other women. Don't be just one sided. Fathers do care really. Just my ex didn't care. He didn't even care about himself to take care of our child at the time. I am glad that he isn't around personally. 10 years was long overdue.

Answer 3

Its sad, but usually the parent to leave is the father, simply because while the mother is carrying the baby it is impossible for her to do so.
This being said, if a women gets pregnant it is EQUAL responsibility. Whether or not the child is kept, is 100% up to the woman. So its often hard for men who really don't want to have a child, when both parties were responsible for the pregnancy, but the man has no say about abortion etc. (i'm sure ill get some thumbs down for using the word abortion lol)

The fact is also that there are millions of couples worldwide where the relationship is entirely equal. But when you come on a website such as this, you are likely to be thrown hundreds of stories that make everything seem worse than it is.

Answer 4

I dont think that fathers care for their children less. The general trend I have seen with my friends (and my husband) is that the father is more lazy than anything. They dont put in the same amount of effort that the mothers do. Its not all about just being there its dealing with poopy diapers and learning how to make a bottle blah blah blah. Both parents have the same knowledge about these things when a baby is born but it seems the mother is usually the one to learn and do the work day in day out. Many kids feel more cared for by mom because of this and are closer as a result and dad becomes a fun guy to play with. I suggest that you give every day care as most women are expected to give and you will develop a closer bond as your child learns to trust that you are dependable for food, comfort and help and not just play time. Now that being said I do know a single dad that does a great job as well but to be frank thats one guy compared to about 6 moms that all have the same complaint. So be what we women are just expected to be, know the childs schedule, feed them, clean them, be there when they get hurt, know what goes in a diaper bag, help them to sleep and do all of this all of the time and then no one will ever dispute how much you "care". Unlike moms though expect people to ooo and ahhh over you for this, LOL.

Answer 5

I'm very lucky. Most men I know, regardless of whether they're good husbands/boyfriends, are very caring and loving and playful towards their children or nieces/nephews. The only thing I see lacking is attention to detail when it comes to the kids, like knowing when to make doctor's appointments or thinking about their daily routine. But a lot of that has to do with the mom taking charge of those responsiblities rather than the father not being interested. And I have to note that the few men I have known who are that involved to the point of knowing everything about their children or who go to all tlhe doctor appointments (assuming the mom is in the picture and available) come off as controlling and anal, so I guess men just can't win!
You'll be fine, find the right partner and you probably won't feel that way anymore. :-)

Answer 6

I dont think that. There are both mothers and fathers who dont care and others who are exceptional parents. I do think a mothers bond is different with baby then daddys since she did actually have the baby living inside of her. That doesnt mean she loves the baby more and dad less. Its just different. My man is an excellent father and a wonderful guy all around.

Answer 7

Well dude be the best father you can be when you become a father.

I am the father of my 2 kids. I have sole custody of them. Their mother has not even seen them in over 3 months. She gets supervised visits with them because of the choices she made. I do everything with my kids. I coach my son's football team and I am active with my daughter's cheerleading. Both my kids and I do homework right after school and they are honor roll students. My daughter was invited to join Beta Club and my son was awarded the good citizen.

I took a lower position in my company so I could be home with them right after school. I see them off to school. I don't get to go out and have fun because I chose to raise my kids. The sacrifice is worth it. Anyways, you can see what I am getting at. I do care about my kids. You will find there are more fathers out there that do really care.

Answer 8

because more often, the father will leave the mother and the child. you hear about that more than you hear about a mother leaving behind a child and the father. i had one of those fathers. he left my mom, my 2 older siblings and myself only to tell us he wanted nothing to do with us anymore. he just up and left one day, moved 4 states away to be with a women he met online. i think i took it the hardest, i was a 7 year old girl who didnt understand why daddy didnt love me anymore. but now that im older i realize that what happened, happened for the best, my mother married a man who became the best step-father in the world. and now that im having a son of my own, if i can only teach him one thing in life, its to respect his family, the one hes apart of and the one that he makes. i dont know how someone can up and walk away from their children. i can understand walking away from a bad marriage, but you dont have to treat your kids like they are disposable. as far as i know we are his only 3 kids. i havent talked to him in years, and he decided to move back to our hometown, right down the street from my mom, but a relationship with me is something he will never have again.

Answer 9

If there were more men like you then there wouldn't have to be a need for a child support division to go after the deadbeats. My husband raised his 2 kids from his first marriage by himself after his first wife passed away when they were 5 & 6 years-old and he has always been here to help with our 3 year-old, and he was as devestated as I was when we lost our baby girl last year. He is a GREAT father. I hope you and your wife (If you are married) are blessed with many children!

Answer 10

There are many reasons why people believe stereotypes. It's kind of sad, though, isn't it?

For example, women are raised to believe that they are naturally great at nurturing & being mothers and that it is an awesome, wonderful thing to be. How sad that we limit this awesome wonderfulness to women only - that we don't raise our boy children to believe that they have that same potential for the fulfillment that hands-on parenting brings to our lives?