2007-11-13 14:36:48 · 16 answers · asked by Miss Lady 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Ramadan
wolfmuslim@-how is it fun??
2007-11-13 15:08:33 · update #1
i'd be miserable
2007-11-13 15:08:54 · update #2
I am the second and last wife. I don't mind being in a polygamous realtionship. I actually find it quite fun. I'm from America so this a new experience for me and I am willing to try anything once. Don't forget that jealousy is a sin and could lead you to Hell. It is also benefical to society rather then let women who are infertlie or widowed to become public property where they would be forced to do something haraam like prostitute in order to feed themselves. It is decreed by ALLAH(Subhanna wa ta'ala) for Polygamy to occur under the right conditions. 1)war. 2)The first wife is infertile. 3)the first wife is sick and will be in the hospital for a long time so instead of doing Zina the man marries another wife. 4)the first wife is old and can't take care of her household duties and children so the man marries a second wife to help the first wife out. We shouldn't disagree about something that ALLAH(Subhanna wa ta'ala) has made lawful for mankind and for the women. I find being the second wife fun because I get to experience something new and get to help out my husband's first wife with everything around the house. I love my husband's first wife like a sister and pray for her every day as well as her family if I remember to do so. My husband married me because of the 2nd condition I stated and I've already told my husband if I have twins in the future that I will give her one of the twins.
2007-11-13 15:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 18⤊ 7⤋
Ummm....most probalby no..but my relegion islam allows u to marry more than one women, under certain conditions mentioned by one of the sister above,islam says that a man is allowed to marry in the no.s 1,2,3 and 4 but if he cant do justlice marry only one. It is really hard to do justice, in islam if u look at one wife and smile and u look at the other and dont smile it is a sin , this is how strict the rules are in islam,it is almost impossible to do justice, it is possible but really hard,so it is preferable u marry only one but permissible if u wanna marry more than one woman. And there is a detailed study to why polygamy is allowed in islam. tell me which country u live in so i could post the adress from where the u can purchase the Vcd Women rights in islam-Modernising or outdated.
2007-11-14 12:13:26 · answer #2 · answered by nocturnal_monk 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ummm NO way, I am to demanding and require lots of attention, also I like my husband, I think if he annoyed me then I would be ok with it but he does not. But, if I was to get really sick and needed someone to help etc and was unable to properly care for my husband, then that is the only way I could ever consider even thinking of the possibility of allowing it...but that is no excuse for him so he would have to hire a maid lol.....
Inshallah Ibrahim you will be blessed with a Good wife and mother for your daughter., Inshallah your daughter will have a brother or sister.
2007-11-14 09:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by je 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I know it's allowed and I don't disagree with it, because there is no disagreeing with Allah.
However, I would never want to be part of a polygomous relationship. I love romance too much, to care for my husband to say I Love you to me, and go to another woman and say the same things. It just makes no sense to me. And I am a very jealous and sensitive person. It just wouldn't work out, that's for sure.
2007-11-14 12:38:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Do I want to? No.....
lol
I am too jealous! I know it is ordained as fine by Allah under conditions, but I am under none of those conditions. Also, a wife has to agree, and I think it would just ruin my self esteem to see my husband with another woman. I am jealous {I know, it's a bad trait}, but it would seriously just ruin me! I would turn into a green eyed monster! Inshallah, I can have many kids for my husband and keep in good health!
2007-11-14 11:36:22 · answer #5 · answered by ~)~) 3 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Well, I know in Islam we can not have more then one husband and even if we could I would not want to UGH I can hardly handle one, lol. But if my husband wanted another wife I know Allah says this is ok and I understand for it for people who can not have kids and such but it would be to hard for me to handle. I would always be like oh what does she do for him that maybe I dont and maybe he loves her more, it would kill me. But I know my husband would think he can only handle me as a wife and no one else, haha.
2007-11-14 13:57:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Salaam Alaykum,
The exact rule the prophet PBUH stated verbatim is take wives up to four if you can treat them fairly. It is ideal for you to have just one. Khadija Muhammads first wife and only wife until her death it wasn't until later after the wars of the flegling ummah left widows and orphans unprotected in those days without husband's to protect them Muhammad PBUH in his wisdom married them. Now one was going to mess with the wife of the Prophet. Aisha was chief wife and Abu Bakr's daughter companion of the prophet. She did get jealous of one of the wives who offered Muhammad his favorite treat of honey. So she ganged up against the wife and told the other wives to say he had a foul odor on his breath...Muhammad PBUH was very clean and hygenic and this disturbed him. Aisha later confessed her guilt at the sin she had commited...and prayed to Allah SWT to forgive her.
2007-11-14 13:04:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
No I would never be in a polygamous relationship. I don't care if I'm on my deathbed (god forbid). I'm not married but this is something that I will put in my marriage arrangement, it will not happen in my marriage and if it does happen for some reason (of course without my consent) there will be repercussions!! I know it's not haram, but I wouldn't stay in a marriage like that. Honestly I think that most men now in days do it for different reason then the time of our prophets, I think that some do it for their own selfish pleasure!! If my future husband wants more than wife because he doesn’t want to commit adultery then he could go ahead because he will become an ex very quickly. I want someone with self-control, so to me “I don’t want to commit adultery” is not a defense. * I’m sure someone might say, “How can you not agree with something Allah has said to be ok”, my future answer is I don’t care if it’s other marriages, I don’t judge them more so power to him and her. But not in mine. I have my rights.
2007-11-13 23:58:53 · answer #8 · answered by me me 3 · 8⤊ 4⤋
As salaamu 'alaikym, my friend.
Insha'Allah, I would prefer a monogamous, Islamic based relationship. (Presently, I am a single/divorced father of a wonderful seven year old daughter of whom I am the primary custodial parent [she lives with me and has visitations with her mother] and if Allah, Subhanna wa Ta'ala, should so choose to bless us , both my daughter and I would like to have a wife-partner (as in equal)/mother (and possibly a little brother or sister according to my daughter) added to the family, insha'Allah).
Ma'a salaam
2007-11-14 06:54:58 · answer #9 · answered by Big Bill 7 · 11⤊ 2⤋
NOOOOO. I could never accept that. While I have love for all people, I can only love one person as I love my husband. Alhamdulilah, he feels the same way about me.
2007-11-14 11:05:38 · answer #10 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 3⤊ 2⤋