why is it harder to meet eligible men who are over 30 years old?

Question

PS: John D if you're reading this, this is why the reasons we women cant find guys like you. :) I'm 28 years old myself.

Answer 1

Many eligible men that age are not looking for love or sex as much. In thier 20's guys minds are driven by sex primarily. Many guys in thier 30's tend to focus more on work or become more introverted not looking to start new relationships or avoiding them because of the heavy burden on them to maintain a relationship and a family. I know many men who stay at home and choose not to go out drinking and carousing or think that spending $80 a night to go dancing and buying a couple women drinks is a waste of money. many guys are disillusioned with the dating/marriage/family routine because they seem to be getting the short end of the stick at every turn. Most men do not want children. While some do, most don't. His woman just gets pregnant and he deals with it. She wouldn't care if he was happy about it or not.

With the changing roles in society for women to move away from being housewives and placing thier husband as a priority (which would be a reason for men to seek marriage) is being replaced with a different outlook that is female centered and puts him as little more than a sperm donor.

In dating he faces rejection contantly until he finds a oman who is interested in him and he spends thousands of dollars to date a woman who he will eventually marry and spend thousands of dollars providing her with the life she wants and then have children that he probably did not want and support them until he retires. In most cases when we ask "What does he get" out of this most people are quiet and shrug thier shoulders and say things like

"Sex"
"Kids
'Family"
"The joy of providing"

But thats like saying that a wife gets the joy of washing his underwear or the joy of spending nightls alone while he climbs the corporate ladder.

Men simply are avoiding marriage more and more while women, who no longer "need" to be married to provide thier kids a good life and putting off marriage or devaluing it altogether but by the time they are past thier early thirties they may have a hard time finding a decent man because he is either married and cheating, divorced and bitter, single and slightly strange, available but too damn available or the rare available, sexy and in another city (country).

Answer 2

Maybe because most men around that age have found someone to settle down with. But don't give up, I met my husband at 29 (he was 31) and he was worth the wait :)

Answer 3

Is it? I hadn't noticed. I'm currently dating 2 different men. Both are over 30.

Answer 4

I think it is partially because many men around that age are already with someone and the ones that aren't are either turned off from bad experiences or are simply too shy and inexperienced (like me) when it comes to dating and relationships. I'll pray for you and please do the same for me. We deserve good people to love.

Answer 5

Because he's already married to me and all the other good men also have wives. The rest are just bottom barrel losers.

Answer 6

i was going to ask that question but about finding a 30 something woman that's not seeing two or more fellas

Answer 7

you are not looking in the right direction and stop looking love will find you

Answer 8

the age alone tells you, most of them are no longer available.