Right to move a toddler?? HELP PLEASE??????

Question

I have three kids that range in 8yrs old, 4yrs, and 3mos. My husband just recently got laid off from his job. We live in vancouver and his family is in Texas. We are thinking about moving back to Texas so his family can help out with the children. I'm unsure if it's right to make our kids switch schools. We would only be down there until he gets called back to work. then we would come back to Vancouver. I can see why it's scary for them to move, but at this point I'm really unsure what to do. any advice???

Answer 1

The kids will adjust. Going to a new school may be hard for them, but they may get new friendships out of it. Good luck.

Answer 2

Sounds like maybe a military family?

You really need to do what is best for all. The kids will adjust. Kids always do. You have family in Texas make it fun or the kids telling them how you all get to visit family. If you are driving just think of all the education your kids get while stopping on the way down!
Everything will work out fine.
Take care

Answer 3

Are you talking Vancouver, BC or Vancouver WA? Big difference if they are leaving the country. It is hard sometimes and we as parents (yay) get to make these kinds of decisions in our lives that is best for the kids and for your whole family dynamic.

The 3 month old won't remember the move. The 8 year old may or may not retaliate and the 4 year old will probably ask a lot of questions. She is either in Pre-school or Pre-K. I would make this move as easy as possible and tell the 8 & 4 year old as much advance in notice as you can. You could make it a game somehow that could make them realize that moving could be fun in the end. I don't know how social they are, if they make friends easily or not. I know my son makes friends easily. I have had to move so much with my son, in the past because of my ex and he was in and out of different daycares and preschool.

I had a daycare provider tell me to move him to different schools and I asked my son what he thought of that and he didn't like that idea. My son is almost 6. The provider was just too lazy to drive him to his school and wanted him to be to a closer school 2 minutes away from her house. Yet, he had been in that school and doing well in it and has friends that he likes to play with in his K class. He was upset about it and I listened to my son. (I was paying gas for my daycare provider everyday, to take him to his school instead of the one by her)

Sometimes you have to make that move because of strains. It is a very hard decision that will affect all of you. Even the family you are moving into. It is the whole entire family dynamic that will be affected one way or another.

Answer 4

your 4 yr. old and 3 month old won't really be affected. the one i would be concerned with is the 8 yr. old. at this point he has already made friendships that will last. you should really ask your kid how he is going to feel about the move and explain to him that it is a temporary thing. granted I'm not saying do what the kid says, but at least give him the feeling that his opinion counts for something. i have 3 kids myself 9, 5, 2 so I'm not talking about something I'm not sure of. i also am getting ready to move, granted not as far, but i did discuss it with my 9 yr. old and he finally agreed that it was for the best. talk to him I'm sure he will understand. he's 8 yrs. old not to young to be a part of a big life changing discussion.

Answer 5

well if it is likely that he will get another job in vancouver then dont move yet, wait a while until you know what is going to happen. Its not just the worry of moving the kids, the cost of moving it is also very expensive.

Answer 6

well i know that i am not an adult but i might know better than the adults because i am an 12 years old myself.
well i think it's not a very goo idea because when a little kid so young moves to a new place a lot of times then the kid gets confused. it might not matter to 8 yrs old child but to the other little ones might not be a good experience. they have to stay in one place to get used to life before moving somewhere else.
specially when they are going to schools. it's really hard for them to change schools. to fit in with new people when you know that you are going to move back to your old place.
they might get confused.
i know it's really hard. it might be a good expeience if your kids are good at getting used to new places fast then it's alrght but for the ones who are not then it is not a good thing.
so i am sugesting that it is not a good thing to move.
i really hope my advice has helped you decide.

Answer 7

do what is right for the fam! if it helps, i grew up with an air force dad and we moved just about every three years and it wasnt bad! i'm sure your kids will be just fine, especially if youa re planning on going back! These are hard times for a lot of us. Good luck with everything!

Answer 8

if it is a short term move - then i'd rather not move at all..
kids need stability, and dont like to be moved around.

they have probably adjusted and hoping you wouldnt move.

if the move will be longer, or permanent and good for everyone, explain to them (like you would to an adult) - why this is necessary and that there is nothing that can be done to change the situation at this stage.

good luck

its a difficult situation, im sure you guys will pull through
:)

Answer 9

At that young, I wouldn't worry too much about the effect of switching schools...I mean a highschooler would have to switch credits and all....It's up to you but make it an adventure for the kids....Are you certian he WILL get his job back??? I mean you can't hold off your life just waiting

Answer 10

You need to think of your family as a whole. The kids will do better with more support and stability and so will you and your husband.