So, my brother is 23. He still lives at home with me, my sister and my parents. He doesn't have a job. (he hasn't had a job since he was like 19.. which he quit) But, he's always home. He never leaves, since he graduated he hasnn't talked to any of his friends. So he like is always here. He wakes up at like 12-1 everyday. The only way he gets money is doing chores around the house and my parents pay him for it. (Even though they can't really afford too). He ends up spending it on cigarettes and beer, anyway. I'm worried about his well-being. I always try to help get him motivated to get a job and help out. But it just makes him angry. Is this normal?? If not, what can I do to help him???
2007-11-13 13:44:23 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Haha, i'm his sister.
Some of you thought i was his brotherrr!
2007-11-13 14:09:38 · update #1
Appears that the brother has some low self esteem. The parents arent helping by letting him stay there not having a job. They should make him pay some rent or for food sometimes to help motivate him, hes in a rut! Maybe he needs a girlfriend! Something to motivate him into making his life more productive. Try to fix him up with someone, call his old friends for him and invite them over. Take him out to meet people!Or men are competitive by nature, you can try that route. Hope he gets in a happier place!(: Your a nice bro to worry about him! Hes got that going for him already!
2007-11-13 14:04:46 · answer #1 · answered by UTell-Me 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
unfortunately , your parents are enabling your brother! you are a smart guy! what happens is he will lose alot of social skills and retreat further into his shell. Like I said, you are a smart guy so... research! ask the tough questions to the right people . even a school counselor can help you to find ways to cope. there are alot of parents that think they are doing the right thing by allowing this to go on with their kids. they make excuses. tell them that they need tough love! who will take care of him when their gone? why don't they have enough confidence in him to do better for himself? as for you.. show your brother a positive attitude. build his confidence and his self esteem because he lost it somehow/ somewhere. point him in a better direction . acknowledge what he is good at! and hopefully it will change. patience is important in these situations, but so isn't being tough! good luck to your family
2007-11-13 13:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
As long as mommy & daddy keep paying for everything, he's going to continue to do this. Your parents really need to get on his case & demand he finds a job soon. Wow! a 23yr old still being supported by his parents, amazing.
2007-11-13 14:12:43 · answer #3 · answered by _adoRkable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well my sis did that and she is alot better well its called tough love ands talk to ur parents about it he need 2 get kicked out and not come back for a while cause he needs 2 learn respoonsibility and get a job stop moking and drinking beer well the beer can stop the the niciuteen in the cigerett is not going away so hes propbly going to smoke his whole life bye
2007-11-13 13:51:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Honey, it's nice to think of your brother, but it's his bad choices that got him where he is, and that's not something you can control. The best thing you can do is learn from his mistakes and know not to make them yourself.
2007-11-13 13:51:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he might be suffering from depression and or anxiety, talk to him about seeing a doctor. sounds like he has no interests or motivation in his life. antidepressants could help him.
good luck to you and you brother
2007-11-13 16:44:41 · answer #6 · answered by ariana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
AS long as your parents keep giving him money he isn't going to go anywhere
2007-11-13 13:55:45 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stick a cattle prod up his unmentionable place, that'll get him moving!
2007-11-13 13:52:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Have you parent throw the bum out
2007-11-13 13:50:45 · answer #9 · answered by Goodhead 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋