I'm not going to bore you with the details but real early this year a man ripped my heart to pieces by betrayin me. He didn't cheat btw but he lied. Its been 10 months, I'm over him but I'm still unable to move on. I made the mistake of not dealing with my emotions when my heart was initially broken and occasionally I go back there, I relive the emotions as if my heart were broken yesterday. I've tried dating other people, but have theses barriers that eventually push them away. I've tried throwing myself into my work but there are times when I'm just so unhappy. Advice please. How do I progress?
2007-11-13 13:11:59 · 7 answers · asked by CeeBee 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well you can't stop trying and you need to make yourself move on..i have been through this and i know it is hard but it is not healthy to not move onward..
2007-11-13 13:30:11 · answer #1 · answered by cherry apple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you are feeling. I am going through the same thing as we speak. Obviously, you really cared for him alot so it only would make sense that since he betrayed your trust you are hurting alot. Just because he didnt cheat doesnt mean that lying makes it any better. There are a million ways to violate a relationship, cheating just happens to be the most popular. However, you need to heal or else you will never ever be able to truly love again. You must accept the fact that Every relationship you encounter is a gamble, and it will remain that way until you meet the right guy. But you cant make the next person pay for the mistakes the last person made. Its okay to have your guard up at first but eventually you will have to let it go if it is true love you are in search of. Remember, you may have to kiss a thousand frogs before you find your one true prince. Now with that said, I hope i can follow my own advice. Good Luck to both of us!
2007-11-13 13:25:13 · answer #2 · answered by The Queen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep distracting yourself with work for the time being.
You did not ask to be lied to. You do not DESERVE to be deceived like that. You are a good person and you deserve happiness in life.
The emotions are obviously very strong and this guy has hurt you deeply. Perhaps you should do some work on this - maybe you would do well to see a counsellor or therapist. Maybe you might like to paint or write poetry or songs. But for you to move on, it sounds to me like you need to find some way to deal with the pain. It's an awful lot of pain if you are still feeling it sharply 10 months down the track.
Not everyone will lie to you. Just some people, some of the time. Try to find those people who make you happy. Try to surround yourself with good quality people who would not lie to you but who would encourage you to grow and progress.
It sounds to me like you'll be having issues and troubles in your dating life until you get this sorted out. So sort it out first. THEN go revisit the dating scene.
2007-11-13 13:14:27 · answer #3 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how bad you were hurt it takes time for you to get over heart break you are over the emotional part which is usually the worse, now you just have to get over it mentally it will take time for you to allow someone to get close enough for you to let your guard down again. Maybe you just havent met the right guy yet it takes a while I was hurt 2 years ago and I have just now allowed myself to get back into the dating world hopefully it doesnt take you that long to let your barriers down.
2007-11-13 13:19:46 · answer #4 · answered by can only give advice 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The ex replaced into probaly only buging her and he or she probally only have been given tierd of it so she went to get issues stright mabey he replaced into like toddler come back she informed him no and he won't go away her on my own yet dont worrie she nevertheless loves you if she didnt she woulnt be calling you
2016-10-16 10:50:39 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time for our hearts and minds to heal........10 months isn't that long. Start by reminding yourself your better off now, kick yourself in the butt, and get your life back. Self moviate!!
Good Luck!
2007-11-13 13:18:23 · answer #6 · answered by michael w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to LET GO & LET GOD fight your battles............i really see where you are coming from.............heartbreaks hurts like hell.............just stay busy and keep your trust and faith in GOD...if you need to vent im me via yahoo.........i really hope this helps...im n a simliar situation at the moment.....................god bless ELISE
2007-11-13 13:16:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋