i have a guy who would die for me give me heavan and earth if he could....go to hell just to save me.....but i dont fill like i love him like he deserves...i fill like its a stage that i want to end but i hate the thought of hurting him....but either way im hurting him...he asked me to marry him and i said yea....but then i broke it off and told him wait till im more older...i dont know....but things were so great the first time we started dating it was great but it slowly fading and im starting to not want him....hes everything even in other departments...ladies u know what im talking bout....but i dont know anymore....theres one thing i dont like he is too controlling he wants me to be with bout all the time....my parents like him...but i dont know what i should do!!! please help me.....
2007-11-13 13:08:13 · 33 answers · asked by erika 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have answered your own question. End it and move on. The flame is extinguished.
2007-11-13 13:12:35 · answer #1 · answered by neonman 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are no longer interested in him. He is controlling. Those are two very good reasons to call it quits. It doesn't matter how nice he is or if your parents like him if you do not have the depth of feeling for him that he has for you. Break it off before he gets further attached. You sound young. You have many more years left to date and choose a spouse. Don't rush it. Don't waste time in a relationship that is going to go nowhere. I suggest not getting involved in an exclusive, serious relationship if you are young. Have a few guy friends and keep things casual unless and until you feel ready to commit emotionally. There is NO rush. You have a lifetime.
2007-11-13 13:17:34 · answer #2 · answered by g8orgrrrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you feel that you need to move on than you're the only one who can ultimately make that decision. However, if you guys are old and serious enough you can consider couples counseling. Otherwise try good old fashioned talking. Make a list of all his positives and negatives. Then talk to him about it. Have him do the same for you--put a limit on it though, so neither of you have a horribly long list, while the other has a shorter one!
if you want it to work, it will
if you don't than--quite simply, it won't.
It's all about communication, dedication and trust.
2007-11-13 13:15:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of what your parents think, you have to do what is best for you, don't lead him on if you don't want to be with him, this is going to make letting him go even more difficult. The fact that you say he is controling is another good reason to let him go, he has some insecurities and if I were you I would be scared that if I was to marry him, his controlling ways may become abusive in one way or another and it will be twice as hard to leave him. If you know for a fact that you will not learn to love him like he loves you, let him go. I wish you luck!
2007-11-13 13:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by just simple answers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thing that's wrong with you is that you're addicted to him and you enjoy talking about the things that are wrong with him instead of just letting go and moving on. I care enough about you to ask you to please consider this: Playing the victim seems like it has benefits by getting sympathy from others, but really, it only hurts you because it keeps you in the cycle of keeping you in a problem situation. If you want to be rid of the problem...step out of it and keep walking.
2007-11-13 13:32:27 · answer #5 · answered by short cake 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this guy isnt the guy you want to spend your life with then you need to let him no that if he really does love you the way you make it sound then he should understand that you dont want that you deserve to be happy the way he is with you he will find someone that loves him the way he loves you and you will find someone you love and loves you back the same when you first break up it wont be the same at first but you guys will be friends again just not right away.....
2007-11-13 13:14:42 · answer #6 · answered by rocio b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your problem is you need space, you feel like he's suffocating you and you just want to run away. May be you two have grown apart, or may be you two should take a break or probably simply spend less time together, go out with friends do something different.
2007-11-13 13:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by Firebird 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are the two of you? How long have you been dating? How many serious relationships have you two had? What is the longest relationship you each have had?
It sounds like you are getting the correct intuition but are afraid to listen to your guardian angels who are advising you you not to do it. if you ask for their help they can. If you do not ask they can only observe. Listen to what they are saying you know in your heart its right! Learn to trust them and they will never steer you wrong. this can only hurt you and those around you . don't detour from your path. getting back can be difficult at best.
2007-11-13 13:17:30 · answer #8 · answered by Seekarye Shaman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if u stayed with him you'll just turn into his prisoner him keeping u on a small leash listening in to every conversation u have with your mother etc u dont need that crap in your life and u sound too young for it
just break up with him he is bad news sounds like the stalker type
if he gives u any trouble just call the police
stalker bf's are a million times worse then reg stalkers and get a restraining order if it comes down to it
2007-11-13 13:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by cinnamon apple 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should sit down with him and have a SERIOUS talk about how you feel. If he loves you he will understand and make an effort to really change. Challenge if he really will "go to hell just to save you".No one else should have any say-so on what happens in this relationship. Peace & God Bless.
2007-11-13 13:28:49 · answer #10 · answered by heezy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look if you don't know, then don't go any farther. You will hurt him less now if you break up and figure out what you want, then possibly get back together, versus marrying him then deciding you don't really want to be with him. Just because your parents like him doesn't mean you have to marry him. You need to know who you are and figure out what you want out of life, and figure out your feelings for him before you marry him.
2007-11-13 13:11:48 · answer #11 · answered by Skiball 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋