i was reading this article where it says that cheating WILL eventually happen in a relationship, therefore we have to get use to it. I showed my friends the article, they said it's ok just as long as they are honest about it. my thing is if the person really loves you and respects you, he/she wont do it! they told me that i dont understand the "game", my response was "are we still in kindergaten?"...am i unrealistic?? is it unrealistic for me to think that my bf/husband shouldnt cheat on me if they truly loved and respected me?? am i asking for too much here??? i jsut want your opinion on this.
2007-11-13 13:04:37 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I agree with you 100%. I think that if there is true "love" in the relationship, then there will be no need for cheating. By love I don't mean the goosebumpy feeling, I mean the committment. If you truly love someone then you have their best interests in mind, and cheating isn't one of those interests
2007-11-13 13:18:14 · answer #1 · answered by Joel 2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that article is entirely correct.
I think that if your husband/bf loves you and respects you, then they would not want to do anything that would hurt you in that way. Therefore they would not cheat on you.
However, love and respect waxes and wanes with time. Because of this, perhaps the article has some truth. Most relationships (if not all) will face crisis. You'll definitely have to prepare yourself for THAT. It's about dealing with crisis when the love and respect is at a low tide. THAT's when cheating might occur in a relationship that is otherwise healthy.
Your friends seeming to consider relationships a "game" - well, that's not how everyone sees it. Maybe it is a game to them, but it's a game with no save-game-restart ability. It's a game where if you crash and burn you might not have 2 more lives to use. The idea that it's a game might be helpful for them, to insulate them from pain, loss and suffering if things are going wrong. That doesn't change the fact that it's real life and that there are the lives and emotions of 2 (or more) people involved.
2007-11-13 21:08:12 · answer #2 · answered by Orinoco 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That article isn't correct at all. I totally agree with what you're saying here. If he truly loves you and respects you, he shouldn't cheat on you. Some people say men cheat JUST BECAUSE they are men. I think that's crap. A man should be able to control his urgres just like a woman does. Every relationship I've ever been in in my life except for one cheated on me. The one that didn't cheat on me came to my face and told me he wanted my friend so I let him go. Cheating is just so wrong and the worst thing you can do in any relationship. It hurt me but I had to move on. You have a good head on your shoulders. Don't let anyone change your opinon.
2007-11-13 23:08:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not! Your'e on the right track. If it is specified that you are going out and are officially boyfriend and girlfriend (or more than that), then you should be - and stay - exclusive. And if they really love you, they should do the same.
On the other hand, if cheating does happen, it has more to do with the cheater's self esteem than it has to do with you. In which case, know that the lower the other person's self esteem, the more likely they will be to cheat in order to feel like they're special or attractive or a "playa".
But yes, the expectation to not cheat is usually not violated. Flirting may happen, but nothing physical with anyone else should ever happen in a normal relationship.
2007-11-13 21:15:48 · answer #4 · answered by marymrosen13 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No my young one you are not...however; you are in the sinful world of inconsideration and fulfill every desire of for me, me, me. Our society accepts it on the whole, though it is wrong. There are just too many with little or no morals. It is the days we are living in. Do I like it, do you like it, no.....is there much we can do about it, no. Unfortunately it happens more so than not for a numerous amount of reasons. No one wants it done to them, but it seems no one puts much into self control when it is thrown into their face. They justify the rightness of it, within themselves in other words they lie to themselves. It benefits no one...and hurts..Big Time. The best you can do is hope you fall in love with and marry someone with the same moral values and that your love will be strong enough when the winds of temptation come, because they will come. We are tempted by what our weakness is and for so many it is sex......with somebody else. Ouch!
2007-11-13 23:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Sage 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no i mean who wants to be cheated on i would think ur 'luva' wouldnt cheat if he/she would truley loves u i wouldnt want to be cheated on i would dump that cheater and listen i know people who have cheated and its not pretty at the end and the sad fact is it will prob happen in a relationship but if u pick the right person maybe it wont...<3
2007-11-13 21:10:04 · answer #6 · answered by FallOutBoyLuva 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope your aren't in anyway unrealistic if you truly care about someone they shouldn't cheat on you...sure they may look at other people and wonder but other then that no you are in no way unrealistic
2007-11-13 21:09:31 · answer #7 · answered by eos_jammer25 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with you.
if they truly cared about you than they wouldnt cheat on you.
2007-11-13 21:09:12 · answer #8 · answered by Kelly 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋