my boyfriend had his heart broken by his high school sweetheart after she brutally lead him on and cheated on him numerous times. It wasnt a clean break and he never thought he was going to get over her.
So he became a massive player for about two years and just became a man-slut and cheated on every girlfriend he had after her. Then, he met me. We had a rough time getting where we are, but he has never cheated on me and he finally has said I love you to the second person in his life. He plans on getting married and is a changed man.
Lately he has been having dreams about his ex, and her family and in the dreams her family is begging him to come back to her through bribes.
He doesnt look too much into it, but I see his ex all over my college campus and today she made some nasty comment to me. and I am starting to feel, worried and some what irritated by it because I know what a big part of his life she was..... help?
2007-11-13 12:54:48 · 6 answers · asked by boots4939 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dreams are usually always more symbolic. This could be a part of him that is hoping to regain the experience he had with her. Or a part of him that fears if he moves ahead with you he may lose forever a chance to recover the impossible, which to is to get back what he has already lost. His mind has created a scenario that offers him exactly what it thinks he wants. It can also be Evil trying to control him by using his weakness to enslave him to a life of misery. Why does he feel the need to share these dreams with you anyway? I think he is too hung up on her and the past. It also is very clear he needs to take some time to get to know himself and square that away before engaging in a serious relationship with anyone other than him self or God.
2007-11-13 13:10:50 · answer #1 · answered by Seekarye Shaman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, since you are the next girl has actually gotten to know and decided that he loves you, he probably is starting to remember wat it felt like when he was with his ex. I believe this is perfectly normal. This is why he is probably having these dreams. This stage should not be longer than about 2 or 3 weeks. If it is, you should probably ask why....
And the ex making smart comments about you...she's either one of two things:
1. Jealous of you and still likes your man and realizes that she was dumb to cheat on him.
2. Possibly still likes him and is possibly pursuing him..so she wants to make you feel as bad as possible in hope that maybe you will just give up and move on...so she can step in.
It sounds to me like you are what he needs. Just don't bring her up to much and do not talk bad about her (even though she deserves it) in front of your boy. This will put pressure on him and will seem to him that you are insecure about your guy's relationship.
I'm sure your a great girl and I'm glad to see your working to keep the relationship working! Go girl!
2007-11-13 13:03:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So all of you go to college together? Could be a problem if you think you want to marry him.
I wouldn't worry that much though. College is the time to have fun and date a lot of different people.
You can get married when you're 25; have fun right now!
2007-11-13 13:00:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is having dreams because the relationship was not finalized.
I wouldn't worry about it.
Hell, I dream of my first love over 18yrs ago, occasionally and I never think twice about it.
He must have been very in love with her at one time and his mind is just playing with him.
He'll get over it and you will learn to just deal with it.
2007-11-13 13:00:53 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of 2 great boys 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys tend to over think things before the relationship and girls tend to over think things while dating. Just calm down nothing is going to happen and if it does just find a new guy, trust me there are plenty of other guys out there. He probably isn't the "one" anyways.
2007-11-13 12:58:59 · answer #5 · answered by izze 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't think anything about it, you shouldn't either. As long as he's not acting on it, or seeing these dreams as a "sign".
2007-11-13 12:58:16 · answer #6 · answered by I love my baby boy! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋