Should she attend nephews wedding, it's been 24yrs....?10PtS?

Question

After given approval she went to pick up her nephew to take him shopping on his birthday. She was crushed and embarrased when told he could not go because they could find his blue or green sweater. The aunt moved away to another state years latter but returned to the hometown state five years ago, she briefly the saw the newphew with his mother walk pass her at her grandmother's funneral five years ago. She has always loved the nephew but confused about going to his wedding reception because she does not really know him. 10 Points

Answer 1

Woman! Get to that wedding reception. Time is running out. You have already missed 24 years of this precious young man's life. Don't you dare let another year go by. And while we are on the subject, what sibling have you let fall by the way? This child must have a mother or father who was your brother or sister! I think you could experience a lot of JOY by going and renewing some very important relationships.
There is nothing on this earth more important than family.
And I do recognize that many times "family" extends to more than just blood ties.

Answer 2

I'd say if his sister called and said that she had received your reply--and I'd assume was upset by "your" reply--then I'd assume you're both invited. It's not like they're going to check for invitations at the door, so you don't need a physical copy of the invite. I also wouldn't assume that since you haven't received an invite, it wasn't sent. I know our post office messes up more stuff than I can count, I can't tell you how often I get my neighbor's mail and vice versa. As far as attending, that's completely up to you guys. In my mind a wedding is more important than a black belt ceremony, a wedding is a major commitment and a major life change for the couple. I can imagine that his sister would be very upset if you didn't attend, assuming that you're in the same town and all. I would let my husband decide this, and then support him in that decision. If your hubby wants to go to the wedding, then you should both go to the wedding, and congratulate your cousin on the black belt later. Good luck!

Answer 3

Let me see if I understand, long story short the aunt and nephew had a faling out and now she is not sure if she wants to attend his wedding?

Is she close to any of the other family that will be there? How old was the nephew when this catastrophe with the sweater happened? If he was young she has to realize that children are very self absorbed. Teenagers especially and very concerned with looking cool and with what other people think. Also sometimes they are uncomfortable with relatives even if they are close to them.

The point is the aunt is the adult and it was her responsibility to keep the relationship with her nephew. If she would like to see him and the family then she should go. If she wants to continue to act like a child and pout, then she should not go.

Answer 4

I think she should ask the nephew if its ok with him, I'm sure there are other details that would make this more understandable, but I understand it may be sensitive. So my thing would be that I wouldn't want to ruin the nephews day by showing up unannounced. If he doesn't want her there, she shouldn't go, but still could send a wedding gift to show that she cares and is happy for him. If he says yes maybe she can start a relationship with him and get to know him. She should tell him she wants that too.

Answer 5

Now is the perfect time to get to know the family again then :) The sweater incident sounds like it could have happened just due to a childhood tantrum.. Why didn't you talk to them at the funeral? You can't honestly still be holding on to the hurt from that? Go to the wedding with a big smile and get to know your nephew again. They invited you, didnt they ? They obviously hold no grudges.

Answer 6

if she was on the nephews list of people to invite, she should go. it is obvious he must have some good memories of his aunt, otherwise he would not of invited her to go. it's time to move on, and reunite with him. what a better way to do so then a wedding. he probably wants to share his aunt with his wife to be, and future children (her great nieces, and nephews). she can always make an excuse to leave early if she feels uncomfortable. don't forget to sign the guest book for his memories of his happy day.

Answer 7

If you were invited to go then go and have fun.Your nephew was young at that time and probably doesn't remember it.He would probably love for you to attend on his special day.If you love him go and hold your head up high and be happy you went.You haven't been in his life for a while and it would be nice to get to know him again.Good Luck

Answer 8

I don't understand the confusion with the sweater part of the story,, BUT I she was invited to the wedding she should go! Life is too short to hold on to anger,,,ESPECIALLY with family members,,,Good Luck

Answer 9

i have 2 nephews, both very young but i know when they get married i will be there defanetly, talk to your sister/brother(your nephews parent) and see what they say, and all though it seems like the worst thing to do you should honestly talk to him. And if he invited you then you should go, if he didnt then dont go

Answer 10

What? If she was invited by the nephew, she should go. Family is family and if the nephew wants her there then by all means, she should attend.