Me and my BF have been goin out for like 4-5 months and I think its time to break-up! How do I say it without hurting his feelings, he a really nice guy!
2007-11-13 12:00:25 · 42 answers · asked by Hollisterlover 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The best way to avoid hurting him is to tell him the truth because if you are vague about your reasons or try to make up some seemingly-harmless reason, he will know that something is not right. It always hurts worse when you can tell that someone is not telling the truth. Keep it simple, don't start listing all the reasons you can't be together. Tell him what problems you think the two of you have and let him know that you think you'd both be happier if you broke up and could see where life takes you.
2007-11-13 12:05:43 · answer #1 · answered by summer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sort of depends on the guy. Begin with all the things you like about him and what times you have enjoyed. Then list all the reasons you have for wanting to break up. Tell him that you don't want to be mean or hurt his feelings but it's for the best. It might help to tell him how this is benefitting him if he takes that well.
If he's not the understanding type and he wants to make this all about him, then, you will have to be more firm and talk less and don't even worry about his feelings.
Don't say that you can still be friends. Better to say that you'll see him around. He may try to use the friendship as a way back in if he thinks you will change your mind later on if you're lonely.
2007-11-13 12:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you gotta do if you don't want to hurt his feelings is make it look like he's done something terrible like cheat on you or hook up with one of your friends. Act like you got proof or make up fake proof. That's if you want to resort to cowardice. If you would like to be an adult about the whole thing you could just email him your question and see what his ten page reply says. If you can hurt his feelings by breaking up with him after 4-5 months; then expect a ten page reply. He would be a weenie if this were the case. Cheers!
2007-11-13 12:13:33 · answer #3 · answered by Banjo and Sullivan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to break-up indirectly, i have some way you may want to try:
1. Try to act whatever he doesn't like
if this works, he will stay away from you because your're not the girl he knows.
2. Don't call him or meet him for several weeks.
He will think about you, and suspicious about you ;)
(maybe he'll leave you)
Well, he's human, you can tell him the truth and break his heart. Or you can test him if he's really love you and keep him forever.
2007-11-13 12:17:26 · answer #4 · answered by soundofprogress 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he cares about you at all, it's gonna hurt. But if it's over for you, you have to tell the truth and face the music. No way around that that I know of, though a fairly popular ploy is to try to piss him off and get him to break up with YOU. My experience is that I would not recommend that approach.
2007-11-13 12:05:29 · answer #5 · answered by darkmuzik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy who's been dumped I think it'd be best if you were really clear and leave no room for misinterpritation. Just sit him down in a private place and let him know that it isn't working anymore. Tell him you can still be friends (though this usually never happens) and it wasn't his fault, you two just didn't "click". Either way, you'll both be happier when its behind you.
Good luck!
2007-11-13 12:04:14 · answer #6 · answered by quickblur 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I always say to my daughters Love them & Leave them so you can have fun while looking. You need to go out with a few with different personalities to find out which type would be suited to you for life. Don't put it off as it will make things worse. You just need to talk to him & let him know how you feel and why. He might even feel the same way as you.
2007-11-13 12:06:41 · answer #7 · answered by Ms Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him the truth so he isnt left out on what's really going on. You seem like you are a nice person too, so just be gentle and try to remain friends if you both want that.
2007-11-13 12:04:16 · answer #8 · answered by lover_pie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can tell him that he's a great guy but that you have too much going on in your life to have a steady boyfriend and that you can't devote to him the amount of time he deserves. Or you could tell him that you're not ready to have a seroius relationship right now. Hope this helps!
2007-11-13 12:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, first of all, are you just breaking up because you think "time's up"? Do you still love him, or do you not love him, or are you two getting distant? I think that if you still love him, and if he still loves you, breaking up it a stupid thing to do.
But to ANSWER your QUESTION...
The best way to do it is to be frank but kind. Say something like, "Ted" [or whatever his name is "we've been going out for a long time, and I feel like you just aren't into it anymore."
Or, "Ted, you and I have been going out for a long time, and I just realized that you and I have had a ton of good times, and I think you're just so nice and sweet, but I think it's time we both moved on." Try to be inventive, honest, and extremely kind.
2007-11-13 12:07:32 · answer #10 · answered by goatgirl13 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋