my girlfriend and her kids...........?

Question

ok i have been dating this woman since march of 2007 and her and i have no children together but she has a four year old daughter whos father is locked up in prison. now my girl is very scared of this man cause of who is his not to mention she started a new relationship with me which pissed him off. however she says her daughter dannielle asks to see her father often so my girl will take herdaughter up to the prison to spend time with her father because he can have that visitation time even know hes locked up. my girl has expressed to me the bottom line is she wants her daughter to maintain some kind of relationship with her father while hes locked up and of coarse after he gets out. and even though its not my place when it comes to her child i think thats crazy. i think shes morally right and trying to be a good mom but i think its crazy. what do you all think.

Answer 1

It's important for daughters to have a father figure.

I wonder, though, if you would be a better father figure than the man in prison.

Perhaps you would? Perhaps you wouldn't.

What do you think? Also ... what does SHE think?

It might be good for both the daughter and her biological father to maintain contact.

I have no idea about the guy in prison. He might be a murderer, rapist, petty thief, embezzler ... anything. (He might even be innocent)

Answer 2

Well she wants her daughter to have a relationship with her father. Well it you are still planning to be with this women, you might as well get used to this man having a relationship with his daughter when he comes home, as well as the mother who going to have to deal with him concerning the daughter.

Answer 3

Unless he has been abusive to them, or either one of them (mother or daughter), then he has a right to see his child.

Fathers love their children too, you know. I think that unless he is dangerous to them, he should see his child.