soo my dad doen't trust me at all becuase ive lied to him kinda a lot about my boyfriend, cus he doesn't aprove of my boyfriend. We have snuck around and he just gets sooo mad when he found out. Also he's upset with me cus i don't tell him about a lot of things going on in my life.. like this random guy asked me to be his friend on myspace and my dad found out about it through looking at my texts..and he flipped.. he's a complete control freak.. but i hate being on his bad side.. please helpppp!!!!!!!!!!
2007-11-13 11:39:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Start being honest with your dad. That's the only way you're going to win his trust back. He's only looking out for you.
2007-11-13 11:44:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your dad loves you, it sounds like. Be honest with him and ask him what you need to do to gain his trust back. Tell him you're sorry for lying (only if you are), and that you hate being on his bad side. Checking your texts is a responsible thing for a parent to do, imo, and not the sign of a control freak. (There are really crazy people out there pretending to be your peers.) Maybe he is in other ways, but if my child was being sneaky, lying, texting strangers on myspace... I'd freak out too. That said, I was a teenager once and was far from perfect. Looking back on mine, my sister's and my friend's boyfriends--the ones my parents didn't approve of were pretty much losers. Decide what aspects of your guy have been misunderstood and show your dad the guy is worthy of your affection--and no more lying about it or he'll really flip out next time he finds out! If the fatal flaws are insurmountable then cut bait and move on. That, more than anything, will help your dad to trust you again. See the situation through his eyes, and realize his job is extremely tough! Hopefully this didn't sound preachy... That is not the spirit in which the advise was given. :-)
2007-11-13 12:01:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kim B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Straighten up and listen to your father. He has your best interest at heart. You think you know better than he does, I understand, I've been there. But the truth is, nobody loves you more than your parents do and he really, really cares what happens to you.
The only way you'll ever gain his trust back is to listen to him, and do as he asks. It will take time and effort on your part. Let him into your life, share what's going on with you. Treat him like someone who is a friend and is there to help you and guide you through life instead of an adversary. Afterall, that's what he's trying to do.
So often kids treat parents as the enemy, when they're really not. They're people who truly love us and have our best interest at heart, with a wealth of life experience. They are willing to share that experience and guide us if we'll only slow down and listen and benefit from some of that wisdom.
2007-11-13 12:12:12 · answer #3 · answered by AngelBleu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are a mature person you share the things in your life with the people that matter. If you think your dad is being controlling then it's a sign that you are immature and of course your dad is freaked out. He wants you to be ready to live in the real world when it's time and he's worried about the immature choices you are making.
2007-11-13 12:02:11 · answer #4 · answered by dontdoubtit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that sux, but consider talking to him seriousley. Tell him how it's kinda your descision who you go out with, and that if he can't come with a reason that ur Bf's a phisical threat to your well being, that he should back down. It's your lif isn't it? But also consider, he's your dad, that control freack stuff is cause he's worried about you. Mabey even try talking your mom into helping you talk to him, tell her how you feel about his control stuff-like the going through texts and stuff.
As for trust, that might take awhile but- you can try this, ask your friends to help plant false evidence of you being "trustworthey" to your dad. leave messages like "no i didn't want to go to that (insert random event here) becuase i heard (insert random name of someone you DON"T know) was going to be doing (insert bad thing here).
other tips:
rollling your eyes whensomething you don't like occurs makes parents nuts.. do all your chores and homework, have details for places you go to (and who you go with)
compromise with things you don't agree with. Make sure to do little things for your parents, like fill their drink or make breakfast even if it is just cereal, without being asked. Your parents will fall in love with you even more and will do things you want to do for a chance. when you make mistakes(in their eyes) apoligize but don't offer excuses, it makes you sound like u don't mean it.
hope it helps
2007-11-13 11:53:32 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then stop sneaking around and playing games that you are obviously not mature enough to play. Your dad doesn't trust you because you aren't trustworthy. Knock it off.
2007-11-13 11:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You will only gain his trust back by proving you can be trusted and to do that you have to show him with your actions.
2007-11-13 11:54:40 · answer #7 · answered by April First 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just say that your sorry about the boyfriend and that u keeped it a secert.GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2007-11-13 11:45:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all he is not flipping out he is being protective believe me
2007-11-13 11:45:25 · answer #9 · answered by DORKMUFFIN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋