What tips can you offer parents of kids who are victims of bullying?

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Answer 1

As a victim of bullying in school all through Jr high and high school....I can tell you that if something isn't done, it can have lasting effects on your child. If it's elementary school, go to the school and talk to the teacher and principal and maybe even get them to call in the parents of the bully. Unfortunately, this probably will not work if it's in Jr high or high school. Encourage your child to participate in outside school activities to boost her/his self esteem. THAT is the main thing....keep the self esteem in tact! You may even need to take the child to a therapist. I wish my mom had done that when the bullying first started. It might have saved me a lot of trouble on down the road. Kids need to feel good about themselves so get them involved in things. Don't let them sit at home and cry and be sad all the time. That's how my eating disorder started.

Answer 2

Its a natural thing to happen amongst primates, primate societies (like chimpanzees and some human children unfortunately) are stratified based on violence. Its an instinctive impulse to hurt as many as you can and obey those that hurt you. Civilization changed that, but some children probably have homes where parents behave old monkey way, beating children, children that will behave just like that. Or else, maybe their parents cant influence them. Anyway, those children remain in the primitive state, basing social relationship in violence. That you cannot change. Another primitive fact is that a monkey only attacks another monkey, if the last visibly is in disadvantage, which is the case of a distract monkey that walks alone nearby a enemy group, or a crippled monkey that faces a healthy one. So if a childs beeing bullied, its because the bullies feel that theres no danger in doing so, so timid kids, lonely kids insecure kids, always the least prone to react are the prefered victims. Also, you must consider territorial behavior, animal in general try to conquer the larger territory possible, fighting anyone who trespass. If a territory is disputed and the loser doesnt go away, fight will last until the weaker dies, which never happens in nature, but does happen in schools. Think of a c0ck fight, in nature, it never leads to killing, because the loser runs away, but put in a ring, they fight till one dies. Parents, for convinience, seem to ignore that, if your child is beeing beaten in a territory, he must leave before he dies. Even though changing school isnt easy, what would you prefer, driving longer or a depressed kid or even "shoots in columbine"? Thats c0ck fight to the extreme. But changing school by itself wont do it if when getting to a new place, your kid can be labeled weak an so, beatable. Thats why fashion is important, if you dress your child as to be easily labeled geek, or weirdo, or something that is rated low in schol standards, it could start all over. Clothes are a disguise we need to know how to use. Other than that, have your child talk to all kinds of people, of all ages and backgrounds, it will make him comfortable interacting with people. And if he doesnt have a brother to "play fight" with, he must practice it with someone else or maybe a karate dojo, but one that has a strong philosofie. Every animal does it, but lonely kids dont. And never push your child to stand for himself, that is putting him into a c0ck fight. The trick is not to be bothered for the first time, if it has already started, leaving is the safe choice, forcing him to stay will eventualy ease your mind when, hopeless he starts to lie and say its all ok.

Answer 3

This kid obviously had some kind of unknown heart condition. This is not a typical situation at all.

The best tip is to understand the personality of a bully and why they bully. Once other kids get why bullys do what they do, they tend to pity them more than anything. A bully feels bad about themselves and wants others to feel worse than they do. I always tell my kids to imagine the home life of a kid like this. They usually get bullied themselves at home by a parent or sibling. Once my kids started to understand they were able to deal with any bully that came along.

Answer 4

Teach your kids to box. Taking a beating only lasts for a couple of minutes, being bullied last a lot longer.

Answer 5

If it is at school, I think that you need to let the school know, and get reports. If it happens again make sure you have the reports from the school and call the police. That should scare them. Good luck!

Answer 6

get her out of that school