my life is screwed up....help me?

Question

okay.....i have cut my wrists for about 6months.....im 13 and a girl....but for the past month i havent.....because one of the guys that i like [one of my BEST guy friends] has been teling me that i should stop and that he wants to help me [ hes sweet.. thats what i like about him....] but heres the thing....he knows i like him..but he likes my best friend.....and they had sex [plz dont call her a slut or say shes not really my bff..she doesnt know i like him and it was her 1st time] like...2 nights later we were all hanging out with a bunch of ppl....and i got into a fight with 1 of my other guy friends....and he was telling me to go to he11 and that nobody cared about me and a whole bunch of stuff....nobody stopped him...it was late at night and we were walking back to my bffs house.....the friend who yelled at me stayed behind..but we later went back to get him....i was crying silently the whole time.....nobody noticed....my guy friend tht i liked noticed and was talking to me.....

[privatly] and he kapt asking what was wrong..while i had tears running down my face the whole time...he kept asking if it was something with tom [the other kid i like...not as much as him] and i said no....then he asked if it was something he was doing[ it was]... i cried harder and said no...he told me he was there for me and that i can always talk to him...he then hugged me, wiped my tears away and told me everything would be okay...
sweet?
i know...
thats the problem.
i cant tell him to stop loving my bff....and same for her...i want to cut..but then i think of him...and i imagine his disapointed face...and i cry.

i just need some help...
what should i do?

Answer 1

the first two answers were very cruel. ive been in your situation. it can better and it can get worse. i was even hospitalized. work on counseling. hell ill be your counselor you can e-mail me and since ive been through this all before i can help you. i used to think counseling was stupid but really i can help you. i understand your pain. i hate the ppl that joke around and say im emo i cut my wrists because they really dont get it. e-mail me. ill help you. i swear.

Answer 2

So far as i read your story, I kinda know how you feel because i had been a girl too. Now, i am almost 30. If you like him and he is hanging with your best friend, it is kinda suck. But that's life. Life is full of surprises. Sometimes it is better to keep your best guy friend as your "guy friend" not a b/f. why? because IF one day, you broke up with him with a bunch of anger between you two, then you really lose him!

I don't know why you cut your wrist. Why? because no one cares about you? You are saying your parents? or your friends? or your b/f (ex)? Fight doesn't solve questions.... we are living in 21st Century, not in stone age. Don't argue with anyone, just walk away. Because you know better that it will get nowhere.

If you really want to be happy, stop cutting your wrist! Cutting your wrist won't solve any problems, same as fighting. Find a hobby which you like. If you don't like to hang out with them, you don't have too. You don't have to do the same thing other people do. That doesn't make you weird but makes you mature and unique.

Answer 3

At 13, you will have plenty of boyfriends but a true friend lasts forever. I was in the same place you are when I was your age. My best friend was a guy and i secretly liked him. We never did anything about it though cuz our friendship was too important to both of us. I tried to kill myself (taking pills) over a boyfriend (ex)and the only one that knew was my bff. Now I'm 37 and I am still friends with the guy and we talk often. The guy I tried to kill myself over is now in and out of jail for drugs. You have a long life to live. Everyone has problems but it is important to find someone to talk to maybe your parents, favorite teacher, pastor, counselor. No matter what the problem is you can work to improve it. I wish you the best of luck. Please, don't hurt yourself anymore. I want you to know that even if I don't know you, I care about you and don't want anything bad to happen to you. Remember that no matter what, God loves you and is always there for you...Pray!

Answer 4

You ever had the thought the guys will be bangin on the door to get to "YOU"? Right now, you need to sit down and set a plan for the person you plan on being......PERIOD! Once that's done, every day, your going to wake up and work your way to getting to that point. Little things will get in your way but now that you have a "plan" nothing in the world is going to stop you.

Right now this sounds like a bunch of "BS" but all you have planned right now is bad news...why not try something new? ;)

Answer 5

Errrr, sounds like way too much drama for a 13 year old. None of ya'll should be having sex in the first place. What is your question? Sounds like your friends suck to me if nobody stopped that guy, a true friend would stick up for you.

Answer 6

question I screwed up ___% of my teenage existence(survey)? I took it and found out I screwed up sixty 3% of my existence lol. How approximately you? [x ] Gotten a telephone taken away in college [x ] Gotten caught chewing gum in college [ x] Gotten caught cheating on a try entire so some distance: 3 [ x] Arrived previous with the aid of class greater effective than 5 circumstances [ x] did not do homework over 5 circumstances [ ] grew to become a minimum of two initiatives in previous due [ x] missed college only considering the fact which you felt like it [ ] Laughed so loud you purchased kicked out of sophistication entire so some distance: 6 [ x] have been given your mom, dad, and so directly to get you out of faculty [ x] textual content fabric human beings throughout the time of class [ x] exceeded notes [ x] Threw stuff around the room [ x] Laughed on the instructor entire so some distance: 11 [ x] Took pictures throughout the time of school hours [ ] suggested as somebody throughout the time of school hours [x ] Listened to iPod, CD,and so on throughout the time of school hours entire so some distance: 13 [ x] Threw something on the instructor [ x] Went outdoors the college room devoid of permission [ x] Broke the gown code [x ] Failed a class [x ] Ate foodstuff throughout the time of class entire so some distance : 18 [ ] Gotten a decision from college [ ] Been suggested as the worst student [ ] Punished on a school trip considering the fact which you behaved badly [ ] did not take your stuff to college [ x]Given a instructor the finger whilst they weren't finding entire so some distance: 19 [x ] Faked your mother and father signature [ x] Slept in college [ x] Talked undesirable approximately your instructor in the back of their back [ x] Copied homework [ ] have been given in hardship with the critical/vice critical entire so some distance: 23 Multiply by utilising 3 "I screwed up sixty 9%} of my teenage existence" ^hahahahahhahahaha(; my dirrrrtty techniques:)

Answer 7

Is your friend is 13 too? o mymy. I think this guy is really sweet. Obviously. If he wants to help you let him. also let him know hes like the only one youve let in. thatll make him feel special. also if you cry around him about your wrists and stuff he'll feel for you. good luck. i dont know you but you really need to stop cutting your wrists it only leads to worse things ( sry im not very good at giving advice)

Answer 8

well whateva u do dont cut ur wrist again and dont throw the word "friend" around 2 loose is all I can say. Ur life is not messed up.. ur only 13 and u will meet WAY better guys. Just be u and stop liking ur dude friend, bcuz he was ur bestfriends first.....so she will always hold on to him TRUST ME I KNOW

Answer 9

It sounds like you really have a problem there!
1: Why don't you tell your friend you like him? Maybe she won't get into detail as much knowing that you like him.
2: It sounds like your guy friend is a really good friend! If nobody noticed but him, he must have been looking at you, and that could be a sign.
3:Don't get over worked about it! Sooner or later everything will end up working its way out.

And PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE don't cut anymore!!
:o)

Answer 10

I end up saying this pretty often...but you need to get counseling from someone who is older and you trust her. Like maybe a middle-aged woman. It sounds like YOU think your troubles come from outside yourself, when MY take is that your troubles are because of how you think.
In short, you need to view life more carefully. A loving church can teach you how to think better, and gain self-respect.