Seriously help...please?

Question

Every single day my mom puts me down and makes me feel like crap.There is'nt a day where she does'nt tell me that i was "an accident" or a mistake.she tells me that i'll never succeed in life and that she could'nt careless if i walked out under a car.she tells me everyday that she has no feelings towards me and that she does'nt love because she thinks i'm a piece of shitt.i just want to kill myself because she makes me feel so worthless everyday.I know i'm only 15 but sometimes i think throwing myself under a train is the best thing to do.and it's not like i can go to my father because i never knew him and my mom refuses to tell me about him.

i really don't know what to do, i don't kno whether i should run away or kill myself.i just feel like crap.
i would seriously greatly appreciate any advice? please?

Answer 1

You always have the option of going to social services if this is true. But, be very careful before making a report like that. Your mom could get in trouble for verbal abuse, so don't exaggerate. But, if you are being treated badly, talk to your school counselor and have them help you get in touch with social services. Or you can run a google search for a place in your area.

Answer 2

You need to understand that your mother is seriously mentally ill. You cannot fix that or change what she says to you. However you can stop believing it. Some women are just not meant to be mothers, and I'm sorry, but you got stuck with one of those. What you are going to have to do is stop expecting her to suddenly love you and change, because she won't. You will need to learn to find nurturing and love someplace else. Usually the best place is from yourself, but you can also get it from a grandmother or aunt, or perhaps a teacher or counselor at school. Don't get it from boyfriends or men, that's not the kind of "love" you need and it will just make you feel worse about yourself.

You are a good person and worthy of life. Study hard, and use everything advantage that comes your way to improve yourself educationally. Education is the key to saving yourself. Do everything you can to get your grades to a level where you will get scholorships and grants. Plan on going away to college, even if its simply a state college. Once you are away, plan your life to keep you away and then do so.

There isn't anything wrong with you and please don't consider suicide. Not only isn't it an answer, she won't care. Don't run away, acting out in a negative fashion just winds up punishing you, not her. Keep telling yourself that its her mental illness talking and nothing she says is true.

You can break the chain of emotional and psychological abuse that you are a victim of, but you will have to be strong and keep her at an arms length or even further. I did it, and my girls are well adjusted and happy young women. You can too. I don't know you, but I'll be thinking about you and your struggle. Just hold on, and get yourself out of there when you can go someplace safe, like college.

Answer 3

Whoever said, "Sticks and stones will break my bones, but words can never hurt me," was sadly mistaken. I'd take the sticks and stones any day. Words have a lot of power, and that sort of verbal abuse cuts deep. In all things, remember your mom is troubled. Fifteen is a tough age as it is, so heaping on ugliness from someone who should have your back is a heavy burden to carry. Do you have any adult relatives to talk to--grandparents, aunts, uncles? Is there a spiritual center nearby you could walk to? You don't have to practice the faith, but clergy may be a safe place to turn for counseling. A favorite teacher, a guidance counselor, etc, might be able to help you process your options. Does your mom have something going on in her life, such as addiction? Seek out an alateen or naranon meeting--support groups for family/friends of addicts. If you need help researching, ask a librarian for help. If you don't want to say why (there is NO SHAME in your situation, but your mom's behavior) you can say you're doing a report and need the information. Perhaps you can call a hotline--I HIGHLY recommend a suicide hotline. Tell them what you wrote here, even if you just fantasize but know you'd never hurt yourself, these are people who KNOW, are trained to help, who should have resources at their fingertips, and will help you figure out your next step. You deserve better and should be treated with respect. You deserve a safe place to live and grow, to be nurtured and reminded of your considerable worth. Your mom chipping away at your self confidence and self worth are terrible--she needs help too. Get yours and you'll be in a better position to see clearly how wrong she is and that you didn't do anything to deserve that treatment. There are no accidents. In a few years you'll be going on to college, trade school, community college, whatever job training... You'll be able to build a life for yourself and free yourself from that environment. Most post-secondary schools have student services that can further help you... Just find a professional to talk to and you will be taking an empowering first step on the road to claiming your life as your own, building yourself up where your mother has torn you down. You're worth it! It's difficult, but you can do it! Good luck to you!

Answer 4

What doesn't kill you will make you stronger.. You need to rise above negative criticism and feelings and become a more positive and better person.. Apparently you are supposed to be on this earth or else someone above wouldn't have created you! Sounds like she has some major issues she needs to work out and you are the Innocent bystander to scream at. Do things to make you happy, and take this as a learning experience and grow.. Surround yourself with positive energy and you'll get thru this. Don't come down to her level. Go to your family for support and the right friends. Everything happens for a reason even if it doesn't seem like it right now.. You will overcome this if you're strong enough~

Answer 5

I'm so very sorry that your Mom is being so hard on you. Has this been going on all your life or did it just start? Do you have any brothers, sisters, aunts? You need to talk with someone you feel close to that is going to listen to you. If there is no one, PLEASE, go to your phone book, look up counseling, and make some calls. You need some guidance and advice. I understand you must feel like doing something to yourself to get away from this situation, but please don't. Go to counsel with someone and see what your options are. Your Mom may be sick and the terrible things she is saying could be a result of that sickness--she may need to be on medication. Is there someone you can go and stay with for a while? I don't know if you are affiliated with a church, but you could even go speak with a minister or his wife, and you could do that even if you don't belong to a church. Find someone, my dear, I will be praying for you!

Answer 6

Sweetie, I know that it is hard for you to deal with this at such an impressionable age. Just make up in your mind that you worth more then your mom thinks. Set a goal to be something no matter what your mom says to you. Don't give her the luxury of being right prove her wrong. If you mean something to yourself then eventually with time and effort you will ignore what she says and build a life for you. I wish you luck and i am going to keep you in my prayers

Answer 7

I feel really bad for you and your not a piece of crap! God made you for a reason and he put you in this world for a purpose. God loves you and he thinks your special He died on the cross for you to show you how much He loves you! Please don't let your mom get to you and PLEASE even though i dont no you i am sure you are an awesome girl so please please dont kill ur self!,and for your mom to tell u that u were an accedent is stupid because God doesnt make accedents He put you in the world for a purpose. I honestly hope the best for you! May God bless you always! bye

Answer 8

i am sorry, but to get sypathy isnt as good as getting pride, i dont think for once that you shoould listne to your mom, god has put you on this palent for a reson and what he puts in your hands he feels that you have the ability for it. dont let someone push you around and jumble your brain, just think. what is she doing now putting me down, i dont care cuz now thats one mistake i will never make

Answer 9

never let anyone tell you you cant do anything.. life is always worth living even if your moms a b*tch so dont worry what your mom thinks...