You shouldn't EXPECT anyone to throw a shower for you. Sounds like you're kinda spoiled.
2007-11-13 09:34:31
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answered by pea_nut_26 6
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Your Mom might be from the old school of thinking. My Mom was always like that---worried about how it would look to everyone else. But that doesn't mean she doesn't care about you. It might mean she is a little insecure. It's okay to feel your feelings, but don't let it come between you and your Mom, because once your little one comes into the world, you'll want your Mom's support more than anyone else's! You could just say, "I'm hurt that you feel that way, Mom, but I understand that you think differently than I do. I'll try to respect that, but it may take a little time to get over my hurt feelings." As far as what is customary, I don't think it matters. I think just about anything goes nowadays. Look at all the bridal and baby showers where the men come as well. Don't let a splinter turn into a log. It just isn't worth it. You're going to be a Momma yourself!!! That is exciting! Congratulations and good luck to you and your little one! God bless!
2007-11-13 09:52:17
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answered by Bonbon29 3
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Q. Is it proper to ask someone to give you a baby shower?
A. No, it isn't considered proper to ask. A baby shower is a costly event. How can a friend say no without feeling bad? If a close friend or relative approaches you and she listed a shower as one of her offers, such as, "I'd love to do something for you - please tell me what you would prefer - a baby shower, help after the baby arrives, film the delivery, etc..." then it would be ok to request the baby shower. Otherwise, it could put a friend/relative in an awkward position.
One suggestion is to host a "Welcoming Party" yourself to introduce people to the baby after s/he arrives. If people want to "shower," they will. Also remember that many people will send a gift when they receive a birth announcement.
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I'd assume that if it's true for friends it is true for family too. Which means it's slightly rude of you to expect a shower from your mom.
2007-11-13 14:28:38
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answered by Critter 6
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I've never heard of your situation, and I'm so sorry you're going through it. To answer your question about having baby showers on both sides of the family, it is completely normal, my sister in law just had a baby and both her mother and her mother in law through her baby showers. Baby showers isn't just about the gifts, it is getting everyone together that wants to be involved in the baby's life. I hope everything works out for you. Congrats on the baby!
2007-11-13 09:37:19
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answered by KJGabe 3
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Usually there is just one shower and everyone from every side is invited. I have never heard of separate showers. She is probably not against throwing you a shower, she is probably against throwing you a second shower. Which I would be too. Does the other side only want to invite their side of the family? If so, that's rude and uncool.
There should be one shower for everyone and that's it.
2007-11-13 09:34:48
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answered by AJ 6
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There is usually one baby shower not twenty. If your MIL is throwing one for you then she needs to invite everyone not just her side of the family and friends. She needs to contact your mom and both of them can plan it out. Your mom is correct, having lots of baby showers does give the impression that you are trying to collect as many gifts as possible. If its not possible for your MIL to work with your mom to plan one shower then your mom can throw one for you. Just because your mom may not agree with everything you want doesn't mean that she doesn't love and support you, your husband, or you child. By saying that you are making a mountain out of a mole hill.
2007-11-13 09:42:06
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answered by Michael K 4
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my mom pulled that too.My first child I had a shower from the girls at work.But I had no other friends.my mom refused to throw a shower for the same reasons and so did my mother in law.My mother in law finally had her two daughters give me one at her house because the family was angry with them.It was a disaster My sister in laws didn't want to do it.They told everyone I needed a blanket.I got 27 blankets.Then at the shower they would not do anything and I had to set up the games serve the food clean up.And I had 2 more kids with that husband and no more showers.Then when I remarried and had a fourth baby I had to stay in bed for over 6 months my best friend could not afford to have a shower and both my mom and mother in law refused.I am so discussed with this kind of insensitive thinking.Show your mom this:Grow up quit being so selfish.Throw your daughter a shower.You are being insensitive and not a very nice mother why would you do this to your daughter.I am 47 years old and still resent my mom and mother in laws it wasn't about them it was suppose to be about me and the baby.What fools they were and so you will be to if you let your immature insensitivity ruin a special time for your daughter.And I did ask my mom how she feels about being so stubborn back than and she said she is ashamed and embarrassed, as she should be.
2007-11-13 09:48:56
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answered by Debbie Ann H 3
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It is not bad that she has a baby shower for you but why ? Do you not want your side of the family and his side of the family to mingle? As long as it turns out good.. It is a good way to have the family mingle with one another. What is a good idea if for both mother to pay for the cost of having the event.. It truly brings families together with such a joyous event.
2007-11-13 09:50:16
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answered by LittleDaisy. 6
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I don't know what's customary, but my mom threw a shower for me and invited both sides of the family. It seems very appropriate. I think your mom is in the wrong here, too worried about appearances.
2007-11-13 09:34:16
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answered by Eraserhead 6
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Any one can throw a shower for you. You could have five million different friends who want to throw a shower and it doesn't matter if you have more than one. It is no different than bridal luncheons, bridal showers and bachelorette parties...it just that it is for a baby.
I think you need to tell your mom that you are upset and it makes you feel as if she herself isn't excited about the baby.
2007-11-13 09:36:05
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answered by mamabee 6
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2016-10-16 10:05:10
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answered by dotel 4
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