why does my boyfriend look at other woman?

Question

hi i just want when people that read this to give me an advise.
My boyfriend is a real nice person we get along real well but the only thing that bothers me is him looking at other girls when he is driving or anywhere it makes me see the reality that he is not in love with me and im wasting my time here living with him i confront him of it and he said he doesnt love me 100% yet because of me guettin mad wen he looks at other woman or goes out by himself I think im real beautiful so why does he look at other woman i treat him like a king and I am supposed to get mad if he stares and if he goes out with his guys Or does he want a cookie and for me to celebrate him for doing those things so he can love me 100% I am so confused if you are a man reading this please respect the girl you are with or stop wasting her time I think a man that looks at other woman isnt happy with what they have at home am I right?should i just move on and leave him to stare were ever he wants?

Answer 1

Men are very stimulated by physical attractiveness because by nature they are visual creatures. However, he should respect your feelings enough to refrain from making it obvious that he is ogling other women especially in your presence.

When you confronted him about staring at other women he justifies this by disrespecting you more claiming that he is not a 100% in love with you yet. This is also a form of manipulating you to keep your confidence low so that he stays in control of the way things are going in the relationship. (He probably feels insecure about the other way men look at you too.)

This lame idiot has given you good reason to feel insecure, but the truth of the matter is that this is primarily your fault because you are giving too much of yourself by shacking up and being the loyal good woman to an immature, unappreciative man who is not emotionally committed to you.

Stop serving your heart on a silver platter to people who have not EARNED the privilege of getting the best from you. Privileges are not by buying/giving you stuff, not by telling you how fine you are, but how they treat you and admire the essence of you.

In a perfect world it is easy to expect a person that you treat with kindness and respect to give you the same in return, but unfortunately the world is not balanced that way. We have a few people in this world that are good and most work for Satan. Some folks are psychopaths, have a poor upbringing, or just plain ignorant. You need to sort that out before you get close to anybody.

In the meantime, you need to back off from this man. Get your own place and take the time to do some soul-searching, and rebuilding your self-esteem. When he sees you getting along without being stuck under him, he’ll see what a beautiful woman he is missing, but it might be too late!!

Answer 2

Hi confused. What you think is totally wrong. When 2 people are in love, the first thing is the trust that bonds them. then the patience and caring of each other. The last thing that should bother you is unfaithfullness. Now it is very common that while we are driving and going out it is obvious that any nice things will get automatically attention. Its not only you but if you go into his boot , it will be same. Think sometime if a nice guy passes by you or have a pleasant smell it will get its effect to you. Thats very natural. What he is saying that he is not fully satisfied of 100% love is due to your confrontation on useless issues that should not bother you atall. You love him and he loves you. Thats true. Understanding, and giving some space makes couple more confident. But if you think that it will not work than its not love but lust to each other. First you must gain confidence nand trust. Remember that after marriage you both will be living under one roof till death do you apart. Now you have to put the foundation that will work as base of your lifestyle. you come from different family and so is your lover. both have different lifestyle and both have different demands. Now you both have to adjust in,life and have to give up few things at all.
Now for your prediction that man who looks upon other girls are not happy with his wife is totally wrong I am married with 2 kids for 11 years now. We are still more like a boy friend and girlfriend because we both give space to each other and thats why my marriage is working. The more space you give to each othet the better you love becomes because you will miss each other and make your life more adventurers. Give you lover something different every day. Give him a massage after work, or some special treat. I am sure that the bond of love will get stronger.
Now the main treat of success of any relationship is be open and ask if anything else he or you expect from each other.
Relay your days of activities to each other rather than bothering on nonsense things.
Its a person maturity thats increases the life on relationship.
Try this out for a week or two and see it your self. Just dont bother of whats is he doing or looking at. After all if a dog barks at the car, doesnt mean that that dog will drive that car.
So just chill and see it your self. Yours realtionship will be one of the best.

Answer 3

I would say, that not all good looking men are so nice. An Ugly or average bloke is more likely to remain loyal to a good looking woman, perhaps has a good sense of humour and offers security. Just because they don't look good physically doesn't mean that they are ugly. Its whats on the inside that counts. A good looking man might expect a lot of a good looking woman and add more pressure to remain good looking, which can cause her to feel insecure and be on that permanent diet.

Answer 4

It is a guy thing. I don't know why they do it but is almost like they can't help it. On the other hand, it is rude. It is very rude and disrespectful. Lay the law down to him either he cuts it out or he can look at them all he wants as a single guy.

Answer 5

My grandfather lived to 106 and he looked at women all his life. I've been married for 35 years and I look at other women and my wife has even pointed some out when we were driving. Looking is all right, touching is not. Would you rather he be looking at other men? Guys are just built that way, it's nothing that your doing wrong. Do you think playboy would be as popular as it is if there weren't nudes in it?

Answer 6

First of all, he's a guy--he's going to look at other women. You sound as if you are unsure of your relationship, so you might want to step back and evaluate the whole thing. If you are under 18, go and do your homework.

Answer 7

you have to understand that men are dogs. not in a bad way. meaning they are weak when it comes to that part. it doesnt mean that they dont love u or that u are not enough. its just something that they cant control. its built in their brains that way. sorry but u are going to have to accept it and be okay with it.
talk to him about it. tell him that its ok to look just not in front of u or too obvious. its disrespectful to u whether its ok or not. i let my husband look at women. in fact, i check out women WITH him. thats ok. as long as he doesnt f*ck them. right? good luck!

Answer 8

You're obviously twelve years old.
Stay out of his car and concentrate on your schoolwork!