See I like this boy but i have a bf but i like this boy more than my bf what should i do?

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Help boyfreind trouble

Answer 1

A lot of what you will find here may not be what you are wanting to hear, but please hear me out:

You do not sound like you are ready to be involved in a bf/gf relationship. I know that you WANT to be in one. When I was about your age, that is what I wanted.

I think the smart thing to do here is back away a little from your bf and for heaven's sake, please be honest with him. Don't string him along because if you do and he finds out what you are up to, it will even be more devastating to him.

I remember what all of that was like, and it was never any fun. I went home and wrote a lot of heartbreak songs because of it.

It is really easy to hurt someone's feelings. Always remember to try to think how YOU would feel if it were YOU.

There is more involved in a relationship than just what you WANT or what you get out of it. You should get this into your head right now for it will make a HUGE difference in the relationships you have with people.

If you are still not sure what to do, see what God has to say about it. I know this sounds ridiculous, right? It worked for me. I believe you will find He has a lot to say about it if you give it a try.

As Dr. Laura says, "Do the right thing." and I surely hope that you will. Doing the right thing is not always the easy way.

Odds are good that you will never marry either one of them. I know this sounds terrible, but it is looking at your situation with a realistic perspective. And a realistic perspective is what you NEED. --And here is the reason:

EMOTION trumps LOGIC.

I paid over $100.00 to go to a seminar where this was written in really bold magic marker on the easel pad at the front. I have never forgotten it. It is one of the truest statements I have ever heard. You are dealing with lots of emotions and it overrides your ability to think logically. Decisions made on emotion are never logical decisions, and they are rarely good decisions.

I really hope you take heed to some of this advice and I wish you all the best.

Answer 2

So basically, you have a boyfriend, but you're crushing another guy, is what I understand so far. Before you decide to just out of the blue tell your bf that you like some one else better, maybe you should take a minute to think about what you are going to do. For one thing, do you like this other person because they are cuter, or because they are more kind/fun/considerate/understanding/ect? If your 'crush' is the all of the things that your old bf is and more, and you are postive he's the way you see him, than you should go ahead and tell your bf.
Now telling your bf is an intire different story. You probably want to gently tell him, but not mentioning your crush's name, that you just don't think that you and him were ment to be, (try to come up with some thing better to say, just don't mention the crush's name!). Don't dump it all on him at once, that would be a little overwhelming. Maybe you should begin be slowly become disattached from your bf slightly more every day, so that you be come farther and farther apart. Then tell your bf.

Answer 3

You should put those feelings aside or turn them toward your boyfriend that you have now. Ask your self if the other guy is worth giving up everything that you have with your boyfriend now. I would bet that its just sexual feelings for this other guy, every girl has them but doesn't act on them. The other guy should not be interested in someone that has a boyfriend already, and for that matter you should not be interested in him..but on the other side of things, I would let my boyfriend know of these feelings,talk it out and take it from that point, Just don't hurt each other in the process good luck!

Answer 4

It depends on how long you have been going out with ur bf and if you still have feelings for him. Or has this other guy got something your bf hasnt? Best thing to do is way up the pro's and cons of each guy and whoever has the most pro's and least cons wins Simple.

Answer 5

Well first you need to know if this other boy likes you back, because then things would work out between you guys. But if he doesn't like and you break up with your boyfriend, you feel miserable. So if you are confident about the other boy, break up with your boy and go get the next!

Answer 6

Well look back at your relationship with your bf<>

Has it been fun?
Do you still have fun?
Do you still get excited to see him every time?

Think about thos ?'s...

You might just be going through a change and think you like the other guy, but if you really think about would you be happier with the other guy you just started to like?? or the guy you have been with and shared memories with??

hope this helps!!

Answer 7

i think you should make sure the guy likes u back, and if he don't be his friend and build up to almost a bf gf relationship, then dump ur bf and get with him but make sure the guy really likes u

Answer 8

I suppose you have a big problem.
Break up with your current boyfriend, Wether you get this other guy or not at least you were honest.
But beware! because you have effectively, dumped one for the better one you may get a bad reputation. A friend of mine did the same thing, and she did.

Answer 9

I'm guessing you are under 18, so tell your boyfriend that you want to see other boys.You sound as if you have some growing up to do, so don't get involved in any serious relationships yet.

Answer 10

well if you really like this guy
ya gonna hurt your bf's feelings

your boyfriend likes ya
and if you dump him now and go to the other guy
and if he says no

and you wanna go back to your old boyfriend
he's gonna say no
cuz you dumped him

it depends on you
you decide what is the right thing to do
its your life