I am seeing this girl... seen her about 5 times now but have not kissed yet.
On December i have a christmas party to attend about 3hrs drive north from me. I am able to bring someone, obviously a date to accompany me. Its a suited and booted occasion. I have a hotel booked at a very nice place and it is for a couple to stay in.
It is in 1months time but I have to let my company know if i will be bringing someone with me.
Should i ask this girl? I dont want it to look like a sleezy weekend because im so far from being that kind of guy. I would be so happy for her to be with me when i meet the staff i have not met yet as im a remote engineer 3hrs away. So i only speak to them.
Invite her, or dont invite her?
Help.
2007-11-13 09:07:27 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would ask her to go with you but inform her ahead of time about the hotel. PROMISE her that it is just to sleep in and nothing more. Say that her company at the party would make you very happy. Make sure you make her comfortable and don't come off as a sleeze since you aren't one.
As corny as it sounds.. bring some bored games or movies to watch that way she will kno for sure your intentions. Or sit up all night and talk/get to kno each other.
If something where to happen romantically let that be her decision. Make the focus of the event the party and not the night in the hotel.
Good luck and have fun!!
2007-11-13 09:17:10 · answer #1 · answered by cheeka2162 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Alright, heres the deal. The kissing is the least of your problems. She isnt going to split a bed withyou if you havent kissed her yet. And she sure as hell isnt going to consider your proposition to drive her a$$ 3 hrs with some dude she isnt 100% sure she is safe and will have a good time with.
So
What you need to do, and do rather quickly is accelerate your relationship with this young lady, who by the way, wouldnt have seen you a second time if she wasnt interested in you. So you have that going for you. Look to get a bit more serious with her. Look to make more plans with her on a regular basis in the coming weeks. You dont have to do dinner everytime, and movies and stuff. Tell her you need to go buy a new outfit. Not just a shirt, but the pants to match and you would appreciate her input because you like her fashion sense. Ask her opinion on clothes and what she would like to see you dressed in. There is NOTHING a womans like more than shopping, and she would seize the chance, even if to just help you shop. On this shopping date, it will be you time to press her to the point where you will find out if she would consider taking a ride withyou, and sharing a hotel room. Guess what pal. Your asking her to be your girlfriend. So if your not prepared to have this girl as a girlfriend, then go it alone, and hang out by the hotel bar and try to get lucky.
If you are ready, then speak now, or forever hold your peace.
Good Luck
R
2007-11-13 09:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
RSVP for two, and see what happens over the next few weeks. If it doesn't seem right for her to go, then tell your company that your date got sick or plans changed or whatever. No big deal.
As an aside. . . . you'll likely have your hands full talking to all these people you've not yet met; if it turns out you're flying solo that weekend chalk it up to networking and career development and have a good time!
2007-11-13 09:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by . 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see a problem inviting her, especially if things are going well. Just ask her and see what she says. If she feels a little freaked out about the hotel and all, tell her that you will sleep on the chair or something.
You have to make her feel comfortable. Good luck bro.
2007-11-13 09:14:30 · answer #4 · answered by DLB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her! if youve seen eachother 5 times, she must like you and will probably be delighted at the thought of spending a romantic night away. tell her its a work do and say you are allowed to invite someone to come with you, and that you cant think of anyone who would be more perfect to bring-it will be a good laugh, a lot of fun and will give you a chance to get to knoe eachother better too!
2007-11-13 09:15:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, that's tough. You sound like a very nice man! Where do they make those? LOL
Maybe you can explain to her it's a trip with "no strings attached" you don't mean to take her so you can have sex with her, you want to take her because you enjoy her company. Can you get a room with two beds? Maybe two different rooms? Do you have a brother? LOL I'm just kidding.
Good luck to you!
2007-11-13 09:20:02 · answer #6 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's possibly only finding for some convenience after ending her final courting. She is commonly used with that she does not desire a severe courting with you so she had to clean that up, yet she ought to choose for intercourse just to make her experience greater helpful approximately keeping apart from her different substantial different. She's possibly using you as a rebound.
2016-10-16 10:01:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been there dude, one of the reason I hate the holidays. Well take advice from the guys, Kiss her. After the kiss ask her. If she says yes, take the advice of the girls, get 2 beds. If she wants anything more the second bed wont get used.
2007-11-13 09:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say kiss her and if that goes well, then invite her and make sure the hotel has two beds so she doesn't feel pressured. If things are going well, you can always try to change that later.
2007-11-13 09:11:57 · answer #9 · answered by onegr8girl 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Invite her but give her an escape if she needs it. Offer to get her a separate room or at the least two beds. Then it is not as pushy.
2007-11-13 09:12:21 · answer #10 · answered by lizard S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋