My 2 year old daughter went to stay with her Nanny for a week and now she's back home she won't go to sleep alone, she screams and screams. Nanny has just transfered her from a travel cot to a big bed although she slept fine in her big bed at home. My daughter also has a cold. When she screamed nanny let her sleep with my husband until she fell asleep and then put her back into her bed. Now everytime I put her to bed she screams and asks me to lie next to her and to hold her hand, which I do until she falls asleep.
She was away for so long as my husband takes her to visit for 1 weekend a month but also had to stay on working in London which is where nanny lives. I live in Devon.
Do you think she's scared incase she's taken away from me again? We are very close and spend all day together. Do you think this a phase and is there anything I can do to reassure her?
Thanks x
2007-11-13 08:46:09 · 7 answers · asked by suckaslug 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
All children crave a security at some point and any change in routine will upset them, but do what you think is best, all the advice will differ, but all children will demand things the way that they want things to happen. But if you gradually persuade them back into your routine, it will eventually come, and if you persevere it normally take 5 days if not sooner, also if they cry allow it for 15 to 20 Min's, then reassure them, or take them back to your bed, and then after 15 Min's try again, remember you are the boss, and don't feel guilty. It will come.
2007-11-13 09:38:46 · answer #1 · answered by MARK J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My 3 year old started nursery 4 weeks ago, he only goes from 9.15-11.45. And I took him to my friends house the other week and he said"don't leave me again mummy, you are always leaving me, I don't live here, I live with you at your house" He says the same thing when I take him to nursery.
I feel so flaming guilty, he makes it sound like I have abandoned him.
Anyway, ever since he started nursery I have had to stay with him until he falls asleep. If I don't stay with him. He gets his pillow and duvet and lies down at the top of the stairs, where he can hear me, until I either know he's there or I go to bed.
So what I am starting this week is: the usual, bath, teeth and story before bed, then sit on the bed the first night, the next time, a chair at the foot of the bed, then next night, move chair closer to door, and keep on doing that until I am sitting down stairs. (This is how I first got my little one to sleep on his own, I am having to do it again). Making sure I reassure him every night, telling him I am going to sit on the chair and wait for him to fall asleep. Eventually I will be downstairs. it worked the first time, lets hope it will work this time lol
Good luck, good luck to me as well lol.
2007-11-13 17:04:55 · answer #2 · answered by cuffyn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is most likely just a phase. If she is taken from you frequently it could also be a seperation anxiety. A few tips to help is to encourage her to be a "big girl" and sleep by herself. Get her a nightlight and when she wakes up screaming hold her for a minute and remind her that you will be right in your bed where she can get to you if she needs you. Try hanging pictures of you and her together above her bed so that if she wakes in the night she will see you. Special stuffed animals usually help too. Stick with keeping her in her own bed at night and soon the phase will pass.
2007-11-13 17:27:05 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Bit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every child is different so you will have to experiment with treatments until you find one that works. Just don't do something that you will have a harder time correcting later.
Sometime being sick and alone needs the Mom and a time or two is OK, but every night can become a night mare. You have to reinforce in her that she is a BIG girl and she is so brave that she doesn't always need you near by every night. So work on her self esteem and confidence, but be there for her at the same time. Night lights are good and teddy bears are great guardians. And reading to them helps to knock them out faster.....Not going to be easy.
2007-11-13 17:14:56 · answer #4 · answered by Lyn B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a stay at home mom, no emotional changes or trauma for my kids, and all my boys at that age wanted me to be with them to fall asleep, I often would fall asleep before them on the floor or next to them then wake up and go to my bed later. When you think of it from their perspective why not be with mommy at sleeptime?
2007-11-13 16:55:24 · answer #5 · answered by Mom3Boys 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i have a 3 year old and she went throught that phase of not wanting to sleep in her bed alone a while ago. but it could just be that she has a cold and that she has missed you and just wants to be with you all the time good luck hope its gets better for you soon
2007-11-13 16:55:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Two year olds are like that.
2007-11-13 17:22:36 · answer #7 · answered by tysdad62271 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋