At 21 i got pregnant with my 1st child and sadly was left to be a single mum living at home. Got myself sorted tho and met a really nice bloke (who is now my husband). We then had 2 daughters together 1 of which i suffered really bad Post Natal Depression after, and the other, well she nearly died when only a few days old. I have also moved twice in the last year, got married, had my beloved doggie put to sleep and have my husbands daughter of 13 come to live with us permently.
All this I feel is beginning to get me down and depressed (apart from getting married of cause)
My question is - Is this alot to go through in such a short amount of time? And if so what should i do to make myself feel better?
Reason why im asking is cos my doc wants me to see someone and i'd like something to go on.
Many thanks for your answers
2007-11-13 08:36:15 · 15 answers · asked by Foxie 5 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I just like to say a MASSIVE thank you to all thats answered so far! You have all made me re - think things, things that i never would of thought of myself.
Thanks for your support, i feel lucky to have it.
2007-11-13 10:22:54 · update #1
Yes, it is a lot. I don't mean no-one else goes through stuff, but life certainly hasn't been simple and you've hit a spot where you just can't process all that has been going on, all the feelings that have been coursing through you. Seeing 'someone' - I hope this is a properly qualified psychotherapist - could be really helpful for you. I would imagine this would help you clarify exactly what you are feeling, what is difficult and why - and you will begin to find your own solutions and a clearer sense of yourself in among all the various pulls on you.
2007-11-13 08:45:06 · answer #1 · answered by Ambi valent 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is true that you have been through a lot.With 3 kids and a teenager life could be really hard...But when you look at people less fortunate..you should thank God that you have yourself and your family at least..
But there are many ways you can feel better..
1.take your kids out to the park once or twice a week...for a picnic or simply an evening out.
2.Volunteer in your community..this really helps..
3.Develop a hobby..
4.Find a 'moms club' in your city..If there are none,form one yourself with other moms around.
4.Yoga is very good treating dep..or at least for 15 minutes a day try meditating.
Just sit still and close your eyes and concentrate on your breathing ..
5.If you don't have one,get a job .
6.Learn a new language.Take classes in anything that interests you..cooking,arts,computers,photography...
7.The internet has so many resources...
8.May be you don't have many friends.All the above activities will help you make friends and have a good support system.
>>Organize a family get together..invite all your family members in town..This could keep you busy for weeks..
and lastly ..
9.Pray for at least a few minutes a day...
Life is a precious thing and do not waste it by getting depressed...
2007-11-13 09:00:15 · answer #2 · answered by Me_Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-23 00:59:01 · answer #3 · answered by karin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Life is what you take it as. It seems that you have been through quite a bit, but only to yourself is what you take and should expect from it. I know it is very unfortunate so far in your life. But, take in mind you are still 25. To get out of this depression you would need to make more time for yourself when you can. Some alone time like yoga or something you like to do once in awhile. I am sure your life is busy with kids and all but you need to focus on yourself at times where you can feel more comfortable and happy with yourself. Maybe you feel captivated. Go out and take a walk! Sometimes when you stay indoors too much it can affect the way you think. Meaning your thinking way too much. Hope that helps!
Take care...
2007-11-13 08:46:21 · answer #4 · answered by tiki_bo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're doc says go, go. Even if your doc didn't say go, I'd tell you to go. You have a lot of life experiences to grapple with and having someone to help you sort through them will be nice. Therapy is never a bad thing, it never hurts anyone, and is only scary until you go and realize how these people generally want to (and can) help you.
I don't want to say you've been through a lot, because everything depends on how a person deals with it. Your experience could cause someone to kill themselves, while someone like you can power through it and end up okay. You'd probably deal with some sort of Bipolar disorder fine because you've learned strength, but weaker personalities would make having Bipolar disorder just as traumatic as the things you've been through in life. It has a lot to do with individual perspective.
2007-11-13 08:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you aren't a single mother now.. and you met a "really nice bloke" that you married. Your baby DIDN'T die. Sounds like you've got a pretty nice family and things aren't all that bad.
You mention a history of depression. So, if you think you need therapy, go. If you are happy, don't. Why are you asking the internet?
2007-11-13 09:00:55 · answer #6 · answered by kritten 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are an adult now, and adults have situations that must be dealt with everyday. All of these things you listed would certainly be stress adders to your life, and there are people out there who have been through more than you, and then people who have been through less than you. I think it has to do with how each individual deals with the stress. If you are getting overwhelmed, then you should go to a doc and get some professional help. You should not try to bear all of these burdens yourself. Don't feel ashamed by it, we all need to be helped sometimes, and then one of these days, you can be there to help another in need.
2007-11-13 09:42:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. I mean if you compare yourself to other tragedy's, someone will always have it worse than you.
But it sounds to me like your real question is: Have the changes you have experienced lately been more profound than the standard ebb and flow of life? And the answer is yes.
You have probably been overestimating how much you can do and how much you can adjust to in a short period of time. You need to re-examine the changes that occurred in the past few years and what they have meant to you.
To start feeling better you should probably start writing your story and sharing it with friends. Then you can start to see yourself in the whole picture, and switch off of autopilot.
2007-11-13 08:48:31 · answer #8 · answered by heavenbohemian 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, that's not a lot. There are quite a few people out there who hae been through a lot more in a lot less time. I think that you need to see someone about your depression. You might have a chemical imbalance since your first child. it does happen. A little bit of hormone medication can help.
2007-11-13 08:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by jdecorse25 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I saw someone once, and the first thing he told me is "You're not special. You think what you're going through, what you're feeling, is so personal and unique, that no one else on the planet has ever experienced it or been through what you have... but you're wrong. People go through it all the time, and they make it. You will too."
It was a tough thing to hear at the time, but it was true. Everyone has a rough life, everyone has a story. If you'd like to hear one worse than yours, I've got plenty, but what would that prove? Your life was rough. ok. Now it's time to get past that. If you need help to do so, then that's what you need to do. Other people's opinions on how hard your life was shouldn't matter.
2007-11-13 08:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by czekoskwigel 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋