Okay this lady I don't care for too much, she takes my kids to school and I pick hers up, but now all the sudden she is asking me to watch her kid all the time. I don't want to be mean and just say no, but I can't stand it. It's all the time, I mean she's here now. I am 6 months pregnant a honestly I don't have the patience to deal with this kid all the time. My kids are so different from her, mine get there own snacks and do things themselves and this little girl is always asking for something. I like kids but I'm not a afterschool daycare, you know what mean?
2007-11-13 08:17:43 · 15 answers · asked by ME 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
You are going to have to just say no. Next time she asks if you can watch her daughter, just say "i'm really sorry but i'm exhausted and I really need a nap in the middle of the day, now that i'm in my 3rd trimester. I just don't think I will have the energy to watch your daughter along with my own kids."
Next time she does ask and you ARE willing to watch her daughter, just say "i can watch her, but we are low on groceries. do you think you can pack some snacks for her while she is at my house?" she should get the hint that you don't want to feed her kid anymore too.
2007-11-13 08:21:40 · answer #1 · answered by Malina 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I ran into this problem twice when my kids were little. Both times I had to say something because there is only so much you can take. You can twist your explaination to be as painless as possible by saying something along the lines of the kis just don't get along, or I'm just so tired being pregnant and all. Say something that doesn't directly accuse them or their child. And realize that it will strain any friendship you have, its inevitable, but probably for the best. Its a hard thing to do, but think of the relief.
2007-11-14 09:16:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be honest in a somewhat dishonest way. Tell her you are finding yourself getting really tired suddenly with now being 6 months pregnant and that you are having some mood swings (not that you actually are). Tell her your doctor advised additional rest and a low stress environment to avoid any problems. So tell her sorry you think it's best if you don't watch her little sweetie anymore. Use sweet words and tell the little girl you will miss her but see her sometimes. It will all work out! Good luck and congrats on your upcomming baby! =)
2007-11-13 16:23:22 · answer #3 · answered by pooh_let 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Telling her no isn't being mean...It's just being honest, and it's protecting your family time.
Honestly, she probably thinks you really don't mind. If she knew it was causing a problem, she'd probably be mortified.
You can just say, "Unfortunately, I'm not available this afternoon", or "I have other plans for next week". I think it's also totally okay to say, "Beginning with my 26th week of pregnancy, I'm really going to have to stick to just carpooling." I'm sure she'll understand that your physical condition makes it much more difficult to have extra kids around.
2007-11-13 16:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by abfabmom1 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you have other plans and cannot watch her child.
If she insists then start charging her. Private child care in my area runs between $20 and $30 per day, per child.
2007-11-13 16:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by Diann C 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
i know what you mean. Just tell the mom that u are un able to watch her kids after school because it is to hard on you being pregnant.
2007-11-13 19:00:53 · answer #6 · answered by favorite_aunt24 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can play the "pregnancy card" & say no, I'm not really feeling well today. Then after you have the baby you can play the "I have an infant & am sleep deprived card". Hopefully she will get the picture.
2007-11-13 16:25:51 · answer #7 · answered by Cheyenne 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You may have to half lie in order to get through to her. Is is possible for you to quite the carpool all together? Stop having her drive your children and you drive hers.
2007-11-13 17:12:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are going to have to just say no. No other way to get around it.
2007-11-13 16:21:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow...just be honest and tell her your point of view...plus she cannot take advantage of you just like that i know exactly how you feel...my sisters always ask me to baby sit their kids....but as soon as i got my own kid...they never baby sit mine....i even remember that i ONLY ask them one time and they refuses....that kinda hurt my feelings but that's fine.....hey good luck for your pregnancy...take it easy don't stress....
2007-11-13 16:23:31 · answer #10 · answered by angel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋