We have around 340 people on our list, but we need to cut it down. Our wedding will be in STL, my hometown. However, most of my family lives in IN, OH, NV, KY. My fiance's family and guests will be coming from KC. How many people should I invite hopeing that only 180 will RSVP?
2007-11-13 07:54:13 · 12 answers · asked by Melly Belly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
the rule of thumb is - you are sopose to figure approx 20% are no's- in my case all my family lives close so im going to estimate 10% no's to be on the safe side. in your case since most are from far away. you can estimate 25-30% no's. plus if you have a "no kids rule" more people are likely to say no because traveling without their kids is "out of the question"
so to get the number 180 you should invite approx 240. you should also make an A list and B list to help you decide and as you get no's you can then go into your B list. all this can be done on theknot.com for free!!!
2007-11-13 11:36:06 · answer #1 · answered by vicki d 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start by rating your list:
A - must invite
B - would really like to invite
C - OK if they don't get invited.
Make sure your "A" list is at or below 180 people (and don't forget to count yourselves and the wedding party as part of the first 180 - - I'm assuming you haven't done that).
Send the invites out 6 to 8 weeks in advance.
As regrets come in make your way through the B's and C's on your list.
Hopefully, you will lose some people due to the distance and be able to invite others.
Good Luck!
2007-11-13 16:04:34 · answer #2 · answered by nova_queen_28 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a rule of thumb invite 15% more than the number you have (which is a cap of 180).
Like one of the other answers stated, categorize your lists in A (must invite), B (would like to invite), and C (It would be nice). As people from your A list RSVP on the negative, start inviting people from your B list, etc.
I would also suggest providing more notice than the traditional 6-8 weeks, taking into account that most of the attendees are traveling a long, long distance.
2007-11-13 16:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you don't have to give a final count until 2weeks before your reception..
Most places will ask you a guaranteed number... Always low ball this number because even if you have less than your guaranteed number you will have to pay for that many ppl because you guaranteed it.
_ Sit down with you boy toy and write down all your MUST HAVES__ Including family, wedding party, and wedding parties dates...
*** If at all possible have an adults only wedding!***
Everyone does it and you have more fun bc kids are not running around.
I'd say if you invite 250 you should have 180... But that's my guess from experience I dnt know your families situation.. But I would only guarantee 140.
Congrats and Good Luck
2007-11-13 17:21:25 · answer #4 · answered by sunshyn1919 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi and congratulations!
Be very, very careful. Only invite as many as can comfortably be seated at your venue.
I post on another site and this has come up. Once someone posted that they could only have 150 at their venue....but the RSVPs were still coming in and they wanted to know how to tell those people that there isn't room for them!!! Well....ummm...you can't do that!
I'm not saying you would do as the other person did....but just be very, very careful....you never know....everyone might come!
If you safely only want 180....I would say invite 200-215 max!!
Good luck!
2007-11-13 16:26:50 · answer #5 · answered by iloveweddings 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
people will come.
don't invite 340. maybe invite 220, but it's always a gamble. 200 might show up. you can also not allow people to bring an "and guest". Either they bring someone with a name that you write on an invitation, or they don't bring anyone at all, i.e. singles come alone, unless of course they know no one else.
2007-11-13 16:49:53 · answer #6 · answered by . 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you invited 340 people, plan on all of them showing up. If you only want 180 to come, only invite 180 people.
2007-11-13 15:58:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
Only invite the number of people that you want to have at your wedding. Mine was planned for 4th of July weekend and I was counting on lots of people declining the invitation so that I could have my small wedding. Unfortunately, people weren't sending the response cards back to me (they were prestamped and everything)... they were just calling my mother-in-law (to be). Behind my back, my MIL was then inviting new people to replace those who declined so that she could get the "full benefit" of her # of invites. It was horrifyingly rude to the guests (never have a B-list ... it's easy for them to figure out that they weren't your first choice). My wedding was huge, and I was unhappy.
2007-11-13 17:21:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
180 is the only amount of people you should ask to come you cant invite all those people then just hope they don't come. we invited people we thought wouldn't come and they did.
2007-11-13 16:09:53 · answer #9 · answered by I love my DIRTBIKE! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Basic rule is 15% of invitees won't show up.
2007-11-13 16:19:55 · answer #10 · answered by Linzie0901 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋