Did your parents beat you as a child?

Question

Just when you did something bad. Do you think it made you a better person now as an adult? Do you think it was the best thing for you at the time? Other than what those soft parents did, No offense to anyone who's parents didn't really discipline them.

unghh ok, did they SPANK you etc.

Answer 1

They didn't beat me but I sure got a lot of spankings!!!! There is a difference you know.

Answer 2

My parents did spank me among other types of discipline. They tended to save spanking for more serious offenses. It was not always their first choice. Sometimes they would ground me or send me to my room to lay on my bed for a while thinking about what I had done and why it was wrong.

I do believe that their choices in disciplining were the best things for me at the time and I believe it has made me a better person as an adult (I'm 36). I learned that not every wrong decision ended up with the same result...spanking. I learned that the punishment should fit the crime and I learned to think before I acted. I learned to make better decisions....or decisions that didn't have punishments connected to them.

Answer 3

You mean spank? Beat sounds bad. I was spanked as a child. In my opinion, every child needs a different kind of discipline. Some respond to only a word, and some need time outs, and some respond to spanks. As long as it is never done when the parent is angry, and the parent talks to the child afterwards and tells them why they spanked and that they still love them, I think it's ok. I don't know if I will spank my kids yet. I do remember one time when my dad spanked me when he was really mad, and it is still kind of traumatizing to me as an adult. But for the most part it was just something we didn't want, and if it was threatened, for the most part it worked. But it just totally depends on what the child is going to respond to. Kids do need discipline, or they will never learn.

Answer 4

no my parents never beat me or abused my i can count on 1 hand the number of times i was spanked and looking back now i know what i did wrong. Laws today punish all parents with that rather then just the ones that take it to far. I dont believe 4 pops on the but are gonna cause long term psychological damage however if they go and get a stick from a tree and go nuts then yea thats abuse their needs to be a line

Answer 5

I think your definition of beat, and the general publics definition of beat are totally different.

I was spanked as a child, and i know it made me a better person.

Ive nannied and worked with kids for over 14 years, just shy of 15. I can, and could always, pick out the kids who werent spanked or had "friends" for parents.

My most memorable child here in my village actually just slit the throat of a police officer, its not the first time he's attack a police officer either.

He was never spanked, and his parents always just wanted to be his friend.

Answer 6

My parents didn't beat us (or spank us). But, they did teach us discipline.

Am I a better person now as an adult? Better than who or what? Better behaved than I was when I was a child? Most of the time, I am, anyway :-p

Answer 7

My parents never beat me,however they did spank me.And growing up I always swore that if I ever had kids I never spank them.But I have children now,and I know now why my parents would spank me.I am 4 sure a better person because of my parents.Thanks Mom and Dad.

Answer 8

Beating a child is completely unnecessary. That is only saying that you cannot control your temper. My parents were "soft parents"... as you put it, and I gave them no problems whatsoever. No drugs, no drinking, no staying out late, etc. Physical abuse is not needed as a form of discipline. It will only cause the child emotional, and obviously physical, pain. Just because you beat your child does not mean you are "really disciplining them". Bruises and marks left are not signs of good parenting.

EDIT: Your changing it to spanking is a whole different thing. Still, though, you shouldn't spank hard enough to leave marks. Just enough to let them know you didn't like what they were doing/saying.

Answer 9

I don't think I was spanked too much... the only time I remember I was spanked is when I was hitting a golfball in the house at like, age 3, I was usually a good kid, I think :P

Answer 10

No I didn't get beat I got corrected & disciplined like being sent to my room, losing certain priviledges & I was taught to earn wants & work really hard for needs & that understanding alone made me a better woman & Great mother so this is definetly what I pratice with my four year old..

Answer 11

mom spanked, dad beat. all the time, any time. i got into EVERYTHING as a kid. and thus, more breatings. i became stuborn, a defiant, and more beatings. i tried to show him he was not going to control me with brute force. went on till i was 15 and told the cops, they didn't do anything, but he finally gave up and told me to run wild. so i settled down. the more he hit, the worse i got, once he stopped, i stopped. i think it made me very stuborn, and hard headed. i watch my hubbys family who even now still tell each other they love each other, even siblings. i never had that and wished i did. now that i have a 6 month old, i tell him a million times a day i love him. i know i will never beat him like i was beat. i might tap that but when he gets older, but watching my hubbys family, i know i will always make up with my son and tell him how much he is loved. (even when he acts like his mom)