i'm going on a ski trip that my buddies and i go on every other year. this year it's at Lake Tahoe. it's like a guys only kinda trip, but i know she wants to go to because she has never been skiing or to san francisco. i don't want to hurt her feelings, but what should i do. aside from the truth, what are some good ideas to make her less interested. i don't mind telling a few small lies to gt out of this one.
2007-11-13 07:46:06 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
per Imagicka23 answer: you can almost smell the sexual tension in his answer when you read it aloud. it might have something to do with his obsession with Lord of the Rings.
2007-11-13 08:28:01 · update #1
lie through your teeth, it really hurts a girl if you tell her she can't go with you. she'll think that YOU dont want her to go because something or another then she'll make-up lies in her head
2007-11-13 07:50:16 · answer #1 · answered by aimee 2 · 0⤊ 4⤋
If you respect her at all, tell her the truth.
Don't start with a lie. You will have to build on it. When you come back and want to talk about the great time you had, you will have to lie some more. And what do you think will happen to your relationship when (not if) she finds out you lied?
Tell her the truth. Tell her that this is a guys thing, that you will be spending all your time with the guys, doing guy type stuff, and don't think she'd be comfortable in that kind of setting. Will you guys all be sharing the same space? Let her know that too. Tell her know you'd rather have a vacation together when you could devote more of your time to her. But only say this sort of stuff if its true.
Good luck with your relationship, and your trip.
2007-11-13 07:55:17 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So, it's not that you wouldn't want to take a trip with your girlfriend, just not this trip. Offer to take her skiing (or to San Francisco???) another time. It would be a good idea to sit down and plan the trip with her right away, so she knows that you're not full of crap about going on a trip together. It's best to be honest about things like this, you risk giving everyone involved a vacation from hell--especially you. If she can't trust you to go on a guys only trip without "chasing strange", maybe you're not ready for a committed relationship or a vacation with your girlfriend and maybe it's not so important how you break it to her.
2007-11-13 07:59:00 · answer #3 · answered by little miss smarty pants 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a female, honesty would be the best "let-down." The more truthful you are, the less mad at you I can be in the end.
Start off with, "Hey baby, there is something I've been meaning to talk to you about. Remember that ski-trip me and the boys have been planning? We were trying to make a testosterone filled event, and I don't want to take away from that by bringing my girlfriend with me. If you want me to, I will stay home (she won't make you do this if she is a good gf). But I have really been looking forward to this trip. I hope you can understand. Thanks."
Maybe that will lessen the blow if you give her your version of what I just told you to say. See how it works.
Good luck, and remember that if you have to lie to your gf maybe she's not meant to be your gf.
2007-11-13 07:53:28 · answer #4 · answered by Loving Life 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From a girls point of view just tell her that it's a guy thing and that you and your buddies have been taking the trips for years.You could also try telling her that you and her will plan a trip just for you two to go skiing or San Francisco.Thats what I would want my b/f to say.....Not some lies or made up stuff just to get me not to wanna go with them.
2007-11-13 07:52:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If possible, I would say you and your GF need to plan a San Francisco and skiing trip for just the two of you. That way you two can have a romantic trip and you can still go on a separate trip with your buddies. Maybe the same weekend you're on your buddy trip, she can go somewhere with the girls.
2007-11-13 07:50:39 · answer #6 · answered by Lost OC Boy 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, here's what you do... you tell her that you're going with your buddies to get sh!t-faced on this skiiing trip. That you are going up there with the hopes of getting your willies wet with strange girls who are there for the same thing... see how she takes it.
Better yet, why don't you just break up with her, go on the trip, come back, say that you are sorry and when she finds out that you slept with some snow-bunny you can tell her "But we broke up." Oh, and make sure you give me your girlfriend's email address because you evidently don't want her around.
If you don't want your girlfriend around, then evidently she's covenant enough to have around when you want to watch a movie, or when you aren't out with your buddies. But she's evidently not good enough to go on a trip with to have fun with.
Why do you care about her feelings? You don't care about her feelings, otherwise you would be bringing her on the trip. What you care about is not watching her get upset and dump you... you're concerned about your own feelings and avoiding a difficult situation with your girlfriend.
2007-11-13 07:58:47 · answer #7 · answered by Imagicka23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would really, really stick to the truth. I know its not the answer you are looking for, but the lies may catch up with you. And, what will be your excuse next year to not bring her?
Tell her the truth and plan a weekend trip either before after your trip for just you and her to go on.
2007-11-13 07:50:17 · answer #8 · answered by dhallkb 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get over it and just be upfront that it's a guys only trip. That is unless there are alterior motives. Most women will respect you more if you just say "Honey this is a guy thing!" My wife has always respected that wish, and if she asks the same from me, Then I get a babysitter and have a bachelor weekend while she's gone! LOL!!
2007-11-13 07:52:28 · answer #9 · answered by Double L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't lie to her! That's never the right thing to do. Just tell her it is a traditional guys' trip and suggest that the two of you plan to do something together. Let her plan it. That will get her interested in her own "special" trip. Good luck.
2007-11-13 07:49:57 · answer #10 · answered by sandwest 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
YOu need to be honest with her. If you're going to have a good relationship you have to be honest. Tell her it's a boys only thing and plan a romantic weekend just for the two of you to take her on when you get back or plan it for right before you go.
2007-11-13 07:51:01 · answer #11 · answered by Deny_Zoo29 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋