teen girl dating older guy?

Question

is it ok to have a 16 yr old dating(no sexual contact) a 24 year old? they both agree not to have sex till she is 18 and he is very respectfull and mature and she is a extremely intelligent and very mature girl

Answer 1

My opinion is that its OK I'm 16 and hes 23 Ive been with him for 4 yrs and they do respect you alot they might have sexual contact before shes 18 but my opinion is that is OK

Answer 2

I personally don't think so, 16 is far from 24; whether the r/ship includes sex or not. At a certain age maybe dating older guys can be acceptable, especially if both partys are mature enough. And you might think at 16 you know everything or you feel mature for your age, but the key word here is *mature for that age* You might think you love him or vise versa but as time goes on and you learn new things each time, I don't think you would feel the same. And most of the time guys older than you are inclined to take advantage of the situation, so think thoroughly about it. Do you think a full grown man would wait 2 years so you could be 18 to get laid- don't think so.

Answer 3

In two years, she will be 18 and he will be 26. What the heck does a 26 yo and a 18 yo have in common? Certainly nothing too intellectually. He probably has one thing on his mind and the only thing keeping him from having sex with her is that the law will put him away. He is waiting until she is 18, gonna do her, and then leave. That way if she gets upset, so what?

She needs to watch herself because he can buy alcohol and we all know what that does to good decision making when taken in large quantities (or even not so large).

Talk to your parents and have them meet him. I am almost sure they wont be thrilled with the idea.

Consider what will happen when she goes to college. She needs to make decisions for herself based on what she wants and not what a bf wants.

I am a 27 yo HS school teacher and I would not think about dating any of my students after graduation. An 18 yo and a 26 yo are in two different places in their lives and have two completely different outlooks on life.

"Extremely intelligent" probably means that she does well in school. Usually book smarts and common sense dont go hand-in-hand. Most likely this smart girl is getting the wool pulled over her eyes by a crafty adult and it wont be long before he has convinced her that they will be 2gether 4ever and should have sex.

I see nothing good or beneficial coming from this.

Answer 4

13 and 18 in my opinion is a little much. At an older age the gap, for example, 18 and 23, I think thats okay. But 13 is a little young in my opinion, you're a child and hes an adult. He could get into trouble if it leads to anything while you're under 16

Answer 5

Huge difference in their maturity levels.. Sorry that is just wrong in every situation.

Now reverse this situation.. you being 16 and a mature boy at 8.. Do you really think there can be on an equal maturity level and share interests?

I know when you both get older, 8 years is not that big of a difference but right now you are still a child when it comes to relationships and he's a young adult.. Your needs, likes and feelings change at that age almost by the day, where his are just beginning to form and realistically his hormones are raging.
Ok lets move this up just 6 years, he will be 30 and thats the age he will be beginning to think family and settling down.. and you will only be 22 and just beginning to party. Theres just no common grounds.

Answer 6

While its hard to find 16yr guys that are mature and it must feel cool for the 16yr girl to date an older guy, but the reason why a 24 yr guy is resorting to dating a 16yr girl is clearly because he doesnt have the confidence or capability of dating girls his age (or else he would be doing it). Because of this, I wouldn't recommend dating guys this age. On top of all of this, guys are respectful to a point but after time, might add more pressure into getting more serious, which is why you should avoid starting a relationship in the first place..gl

Answer 7

There are no laws preventing them from having a relationship. But the mental level is not the same when the age difference is so big. It is not easy to enjoy each others' company with this difference.

My perosnal opinion is that these two will definitely get into a sexual contact before they realize it.

Answer 8

Honey , Im 24 and I feel like a 16yr old BOY can't do nothing for me but cause me stress. No 24 yr old really WANTS to be in a relationship with a 16 yr old. Unless something is terribly wrong with him. Be careful you are opening yourself up to danger. Dont let your guards down. Be a 16yr old date boys your own age go to a basketball game or football game. Do kid stuff. He sounds like he is up to something be very careful.

Answer 9

I would be very careful about that. He could still be considered a pedophile according to state laws. Just because your aren't doing anything sexual doesn't mean he doesn't have the intent on doing it which is a crime. I would check your local law. But in theory what ever makes you happy stay with it. Age is just a number but a lot of people don't think that. Good luck.

Answer 10

He's an undercover perv, trust me. It's difficult even for any older and mature guy to get that natural attraction to hot younger girls out of their minds. Although 24 isn't old, 16 is young. He sounds like a guy who's insecure and doesn't know how to talk to the opposite sex, taking advantage and scuplting young minds sounds more like his motive.

Answer 11

Of course its an issue, especially with the law, unless there is an equal consent from both sets of parents. With an 8 year difference, this guy could be seen as a pedophile, stalker/predator. So I hate to say it, it doesn't matter how mature you are or anything, the law is the law.