So there is this guy that Im dating, we have been dating for over a month now and he is older by 15 years. I have always liked/dated older men. So we have another date coming up Sunday night and I have been putting off having sex with him. I want to have sex with him but then I dont want to. He says he wants us to have sex Sunday because he has been waiting too long and he doesnt want to play games. I asked what happens if we dont have sex on Sunday and he said he will look elsewhere for another gf.
Are all men like this?? I mean whats a girl to do? Sex changes everything.
2007-11-13 07:25:32 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
All men are not like this.1 of 2 things are going on here.1.He just wants sex and thats it.2.men sometimes have this false security.That if you are not having sex with me.Then you are having it with someone else.We know girls like it just as much as men.So we wonder why you wont with us.
Stick to your guns.If you dont have it and he never calls you again.Then you will know what he is after.If he cares about you.He will wait until you are ready.
2007-11-13 07:31:43 · answer #1 · answered by kenneth h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's delivered an ultimatum. Ultimatums are a great way to gauge what's important to a person.
So, he's willing to give you up if you don't give 'it' up?
If it's an empty threat, it's a pretty sh&%^y thing to tell your 'girlfriend;" get rid of him.
If it's a genuine threat, then he's only dating your underwear; get rid of him.
Unfortunately, nearly every man I've ever met has been this same way. Seriously, do what I did: Find an impotent guy... that'll get rid of the 'sex' problem.
2007-11-13 07:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by arows1faith 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO..not all men are the same..just seems that way..anyway, only do whats best for you..if he is putting too much pressure on you for sex then he isnt thinking of your feelings--only his own. Find a man who is willing to wait with you until the time is right..then you know he's a keeper..take care and good luck.
2007-11-13 07:30:21 · answer #3 · answered by yoyo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is that he really did'nt love you because if he wasn't willing to wait for you because when yo find someone willing to wait until yuor ready that makes the wait all the better.
also if he told you that if you didn't have sex that he'd find someone else that would that means he already had someone else please don tdo anything your not willing to or reday to do because than you'll have a baby like me and you dont want that! trust me not at a young age either so please think about everything through!
2007-11-13 08:26:00 · answer #4 · answered by artistic side 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well im not like that...
Who the f**k sais "he will look elsewhere for another gf" to someone they supposedly care for???
could be that he might be thinking that your doing it with somebody else...
My suggestion:
Look for someone else there more than one fish in the sea...
2007-11-13 07:31:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex does change everything and if he can't except the fact that you wish to wait then leave him, cause whose to say that the sex will be all that great, he may still leave if he can leave because he aint getting none. Girl please spread your wings and fly into the next eagles arms....leave him.
2007-11-13 07:30:37 · answer #6 · answered by SUCess84 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, if i was dating this guy i would delete his phone number and tell him to go F himself. what a A ss hole. A guy should like you for who you are. sex should be used to get closer to someone when you love each other so much you cant figure out how to get closer to each other.
2007-11-13 07:29:50 · answer #7 · answered by Hello2u 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no not all of us men are like that, if you have a mutual attraction toward a physical relationship thats fine, enjoy it.
however no-one has the right to push you into anything you dont want.
its your life and your body, be in control and maintain yourself respect.
2007-11-13 10:01:56 · answer #8 · answered by paul c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he just wants to have sex with u and that's it....... if he tells u that he will get it sum where else, then ya hes not in to u only whats n between ur legs..... dont have sex with him on sunday!!!
2007-11-13 07:29:28 · answer #9 · answered by mustangsweetthing 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well any man that resped you woud not say this you and would wait. tell ok fine find sombody else because iam not what your looking for iam not easy and iam classy not trashy. you want me respect me. hes the 1 playing games. infact just tell him **** off.
2007-11-13 07:34:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋