i just go asked out about a week ago and yesterday moday the rumors started! i do not like all this attention bc some of my closet guy friends are not talking to me anymore.i really like this guy. we hang out ,talk on the phone, walk together at school, he has even asked to come over and help me with me homework. i am just nervous i guess. Everybody has been giving me weird looks. I am scared to go back to school tommrow Wednesday. i stayed home due to a cold on tuesday. but i am confused.
i guess what i am trying to say should i let me boyfriend wreck my friendship. or not. My one guy friend that is friends with my boyfriend says that he really likes me and has always liked me.
thanks for the tips
~SKITTLES~
2007-11-13 06:48:16 · 24 answers · asked by skittle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Oh high school days! Those where some of the funnest but hardest and most trying times in my life. Peer pressure can be gut wrenching! Honey, all I can tell you is to trust what that little feeling inside your gut is telling you! If a person stops talking to you just because you now have a boyfriend, then you really have to think if that person was a true friend in the first place. If you "really" like this guy and it seems that you do, then I would go for it! Don't let yourself get to overwhelmed about the rumors! Kids are going to talk. They did when I was in school and that has been long ago and they still do now. It will be OK!! You need to find someone that you trust to talk to! Good Luck dear!
2007-11-13 07:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by Trea (pron.tree) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i would have to say that if the "guy friends" you had before stopped talking to you now after finding out about the new boyfriend, then those guys werent really your friends. They were just trying to get close to you so that they had a shot at being ur "boyfriend". This may not be the case but in cases that I have been in it seems to me that thats usually the problem. However, at the same time you have to figure out how you feel about the guy as well. Are you female friends acting strangely also? If so maybe you should talk to them about him. There maybe something about him that you don't know. well goog luck and go with the flow. Dont worry about what are people are saying or how they are behaving. Its about whether your happy or unhappy. Good Luck :D
2007-11-13 06:55:54 · answer #2 · answered by wheresashlee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy friends that won't talk to you anymore are either jealous b/c they like you or they look at you like a little sister and nobody likes their little sister dating. If you like the guy, your friends will come around, just make sure you bring him around your friends so hopefully you can all start hanging out together!! As for the rumors tomorrow everyone will have started talking about someone else..you need to develop tougher skin though b/c this will probably happen again before you're done with school. Staying home only gives them more reason to talk!!
2007-11-13 07:02:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Outside school friends
2016-04-03 23:04:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoever started the rumors is either jealous or doesn't like you or the guy that your daiting. And everyone eles must not really be your friends if they are being hatefull, or rude to you. Most of the time I would say don't let it ruin your friendships but it sounds like your "friends" arn't even your friends. When they glare at you smile at them. Start and try to talk to your "boy" friends. Girls too. Ask them what the point is.
I hope this helped.
Good luck.
--advice.
2007-11-13 06:53:54 · answer #5 · answered by ♥Justean♥ luv's ya! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've learnt from past mistakes that friends definitly come before boyfriends.
"Friendship is more lasting that love and more legal than stalking"
:) Just remember that. I've let two boyfriends take over my life and neither were worth it, and my friends have always been there. Friends are worth it, and boyfriends are only worth it if they're friends too.
That guy friend (who is a friend, not a random person asking you out) who said they liked you? Sounds a better match from here.
2007-11-13 06:52:51 · answer #6 · answered by Gnotknormal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y would they give you weird looks? is it because he has a bad reputation? or is it because u havent been spending time with them? maybe you should just go ahead with the relationship, but try to let your friends know that they are important to you as well. because if, (IF) you two break up or if you get into any trouble, they are probably going to be the ones who are by your side, comforting you and making you feel better. of course it would be better if you can keep both. try talking to them to ask about jsut what is it that makes them avoid you. good luck! i hope you find a balance in your relationship.
2007-11-13 06:56:52 · answer #7 · answered by amber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself why are these people mad at me or are they mad at your boyfriend? At first it sounded like some people were probably jealous of your relationship with him. But if the people who are mad at you are your real true honest friends they may just have your best interest at heart. Are you sure this guy is good for you. He should not be holding you back in any way or changing who you are for the worst or changing your behavior in a way your parents would dissapprove of. This is just food for thought.
2007-11-13 07:05:28 · answer #8 · answered by Nickerbockers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your other guy friends, i'm guessing they love to joke around and maybe flirt with you which is causing them to think oh well she can't talk to me anymore or she cant hang out cause her boyfriend will get mad, this guy sounds like he's worth it and it doesn't seem to be wrecking the friendships now, so save those while you can and talk to your guy friends joke around and act normal with them, they're just getting used to you having a boyfriend, plus this guy that's your friend and your boyfriends friend, well just make sure he doesn't get jelous or anything like that he might feel extra weird that two of his friends are dating eachother and he like-likes one of them, hope you all work it out :)
2007-11-13 06:54:14 · answer #9 · answered by haha its sharonacle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
NO way!! Have a boyfriend and have school mates!! Spend equal time with both!! If either is having a problem with this than talk with them and sort it out!! Be brave you have nothing to be scared of!!Good Luck!! xx
2007-11-13 06:53:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋