how do u tell the best friend that u had a one night fling with that ur pregnant with his kid? how do u tell ur parents and family? especially ur mother who beleived u when u said u didn't do anything with him. my best friend is a single father to a 14 year old we live 2 hours from each other. hardly see one another but we text and talk on the phone to each other like crazy. we both wanna be togeather but we are afraid to take that leap. i also have a daughter with another guy. this babys dad is her godfather. so its ver complicated.
2007-11-13 06:47:13 · 39 answers · asked by short.lil_momma 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i don't believe in abortion. and i'm not out for the money. with my first childs dad we agreed that as long as he see's her there is no chid support. he takes her every weekend. and he buys her stuff for his place and sometimes here. i'm not after child support i believe that if u gonna have a kid and u not togeather then u do it alone. that is how it goes. i know it's only been 2 1/2 months with my duaghter and i'm already pregnant agian but hey how would u have liked it if ur parents would have aborted you. yes i had a doctor confirm my pregnancy this morning.
2007-11-13 08:34:52 · update #1
It sounds to me like the Universe has stepped in to bring you two together. Mazel Tov! Be happy.
This is a time of great change for many of us. If it wasn't for these types of events, many of us would not grow or leave our comfort zone at all.
Talk to him and see what he says. You don't need to tell anyone else until you are showing, right? That gives you 3 months to move into together or time to make a change (like terminate the pregnancy). I personally am pro choice, but for myself, I don't think I would abort, especially if I loved the father (which it sounds like you do) - but that is an option for you.
Thinkk about it carefully. This could be the most wonderful blessing for all of you.
Peace!
2007-11-13 06:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, there is no way to say it but to say it. I would first tell the father of the baby so he doesn't hear it any where else. Think long and hard what it is that you want and need from him and what you will do if he is unwilling or unable to give you what you want and need.
As for your parents and family, it sounds like you are grown, pay your own bills and don't need their permission. They may be a little shocked and maybe even a little disappointed but ultimately they love you and want you to be happy.
As for both of your children, the two of you need to decide when and what to tell them and both of them should be told at approximately the same time and the same thing. Don't tell them until you have some answers about what is going to happen and what it means to their lives because it will scare them.
Good Luck!
2007-11-13 07:41:48 · answer #2 · answered by wondermom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think your biggest problem is you don't want commitment and you lied to your mom.
All you say hey I am pregnant, first to the father, and whenever you both taked about it and see what came out. Than to your family.
It's easier when it's out, so don't wait. And then go from there, you never know his reaction, but I am sure he will try to be a support, after all he did it too, and nobody thought here about birthcontroll.
So just start dealing with it and things will be better. You can also ask for counseling, if you are christian go to a priest. It does not help running. Good luck
2007-11-13 07:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by flower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i became pregnant with my best friends baby and we are happier then ever.....I didn't know what to tell my parents...they were not happy in the beginning but already during the end of the pregnancy and when the baby came it was such a blessing and everyone is happy....My advice to you would be take that chance there is nothing better in life then to be with your best friend...I know from experience....And just make a toast and announce your pregnant on thanksgiving or christmas
2007-11-13 07:15:25 · answer #4 · answered by tina102606 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant.....
Mom & Dad your going to be grandparents.
That's it. Unless your under 18yr of age,
and live at home, you really don't owe them an explanation.
Let your 'best friend' know, what it is
and make a decision as to whether or
not you wanna be together.
All that extra stuff your putting in the mix
isn't that important.
You can explain the 'godparent' thing to your
child when she's older, but, with your
best friend, now about to be her 'step' parent,
Is it really necessary?
It's only as complicated as you make it.
Consenting adults had sex, unprotected and as
a result are 'expecting'
Sounds pretty simple to me.
2007-11-13 07:01:05 · answer #5 · answered by lashawn0676 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that complicated at all, but the longer you wait to tell the people in your life, the harder it will be on you. When I got pregnant with my 1st, I was still married to another man and had only known her father for 1 month before we got pregnant. Think I wanted to tell him, much less my parents? I lived with the guilt of lying to them for about 6 months before fessing up - know what? My folks were disappointed, but supported me and knowing that I was keeping her, made them proud of me. Her father and I decided to take that leap and are still together (4 years later) and have another baby now.
Have faith - this guy is your best friend for a reason...tell him. I bet his reaction surprises you...good luck!
2007-11-13 06:51:52 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hon, this is not a good situation. You don't need to have a relationship with any of these people romantically. Now you have another person, another human being to take care of.
Tell him what's going on, but then focus on yourself and your kids. That's whats most important right now. If you have a church affiliation or anything like that, speak to a Pastor or counselor to get help in this situation.
2007-11-13 06:50:38 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Go see him ASAP meet somewhere neutral. My daughter told my wife and she kept the young man in the next room in case I thumped him. After she told me some of his comments and excuses I just might have done. The sooner you tel your mother the better, she will not be pleased but I would be surprised if after her first reaction you got the help and support you need. Be prepared for a few days of flack
2007-11-13 06:52:09 · answer #8 · answered by Scouse 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to tell the father, as far as the others are concerned you can wait until you are showing, if it's complicated treat it with care and if your friend really loves you, you'll find a way to have the baby and be together.
2007-11-13 06:51:46 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sit down with your friend and say, "I have some important news, and I need you to stay calm. I am pregnant, and it's your child. I know this changes our relationship - let's discuss our options and see how we can make this a positive thing for everyone."
2007-11-13 06:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋