My twins passed away November 5th,a week ago.We had a funeral service for them that saturday and my grandmother didn't show up.Her excuse for not showing up was that "a scary movie was on and she really wanted to see it." But the real reason was because her name was not on the service paper.Keep in mind that i'm grieving the loss of my sons and I'm hurting so bad,and the last thing on my mind is whose name is going on the paper.In the paper it mentioned my mom and dad,and sisters and brother.And it said a host of relatives and friends just in case I forgot anyone.I love my grandma but i'm really really mad that she'd get mad about that.I have another grandmother and her name was not on there either,neither was my grandfathers,not because I don't love them but because my mind was not thinking about that,they all understand that but her? This is just tearing me up that my own grandma would do that to me,and it makes me so angry. What would you do??
2007-11-13 06:27:31 · 9 answers · asked by DiamondXxx 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
my grandmother meant a lot to me but right now im not sure how im feeling about her and I want all these feelings to away
2007-11-13 08:33:15 · update #1
My thought's and prayers go out to you in your troubling times. Just let her be mad, it is a funerle not a time to be mad for not mentioning her name in the funeral arrangments. This ceramony was held for your Children not your grandmother. Don't be angry with her. I know it hurts you that she wasn't there for you, but lots of other people respected you enough to go. Don't put the hurt from your grandmother on top of the hurt of your children. Give her time and she will come around, and if not then that is her lose not your's. God Bless you.
2007-11-13 06:40:15 · answer #1 · answered by kandie w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, I am truly sorry for your loss. I hope you find the strength and heal soon to have happiness in your life again. You have enough pain right now, to be worrying about your grandmother's feelings being hurt. She must really be a selfish person to be thinking about herself instead of putting herself in your shoes. You shouldn't be burdened with people's ignorance and self-centeredness. This is your time to grieve and for the people around you to offer you their love, their support, their compassion and empathy to help you get through this. Forget about her. Have someone else in your family talk to her to make her realize how wrong she is for being "offended" for no reason. The only person who should be offended by her actions is YOU.
2007-11-13 07:40:27 · answer #2 · answered by MiaMonique 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about her. She isn't very important right now. What's important is your immediate family, and just being with them. It's a tough loss, but you do have people that care about you. Hold those people that care about you close to you.
I don't know what type of person your grandmother is, but that's pretty self centered of her. Talk to her about it some time, but not now. Tell her that you were really upset about it.
2007-11-13 06:34:16 · answer #3 · answered by Adam S. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i will like to extend my sympathy for the lost of your sons may the almighty God be with you. I will call her and apologize for not putting her name on the paper you knowhow old people are they get mad over nothing and then tell her how you feel about her not coming to her grandsons funeral watching a movie is no good reason not to come
2007-11-13 06:49:11 · answer #4 · answered by babe2love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to deal with her. You are grieving and don't need an over sensitive woman making you more upset. Try not to deal with her. Leave her to her childishness. My thoughts and prayers go out to you, the father and your family for the terrible loss.
2007-11-13 06:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-08 20:46:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would seriously talk to someone that you can trust about these things if not you need to see a professional because thats a lot to deal with and you need to be able to vent it out. good luck.
2007-11-13 06:31:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Greive for your children
Regreting she missed the service later will be punishment
enough.
2007-11-13 06:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by Fuzzybutt 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wow! I would be depressed too about all this.
2007-11-13 06:38:24 · answer #9 · answered by Kylie S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋