My husband and i have already had one child but He had health issues and we didn't have a baby shower becouse we didn't know if he was going to make it. We want anothere child so were trying. I want a baby shower with this one becouse i missed out on the othere baby. I can't use the same things for this one b/c my son had special needs. (instead of a regular car seat he had a car bed-it lays flat) My son passed away in july and i would just like to do the baby things that i missed with my first. What is your opinion. Is it selfish or is it okay. Please tell me what you think and the underlined rules...lol they are unknown to me..God Bless and best wishes
2007-11-13 05:38:28 · 25 answers · asked by MeLisa 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
First, I am so sorry about your son. I can't imagine how hard that must be.
Second, you should absolutely have a baby shower! It's not selfish at all, and I am sure all your friends would love to come help you celebrate the new baby!
Good luck!!!!
2007-11-13 05:42:25 · answer #1 · answered by Rachael C 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss.
Under normal circumstances you should have a shower for your first born and then only again if you have had so many babies or it has been years since the first. But in your situation, I would think your friends would be overjoyed to throw a shower for you. In my family it is the sisters or the godmother of the baby who organize a shower. I know that some people are think it is bad luck to have a shower but it seems like you have had more than your fair share of bad luck. Maybe a shower for you would be good luck. Just let those closest to you know that you would appreciate a shower for this one. God bless!
2007-11-13 05:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
In the southern part of the world, it used to be the rule that everyone got one, and only one, baby shower. It was tacky to have another. But in the past 20 years, it has changed. Almost everyone has a baby shower for each baby. And you know how we are in the south, we usually stick to traditions way longer than the rest of the country! So you should absolutely go for it. I hope it goes well for you!
2007-11-13 05:59:12 · answer #3 · answered by Lilli 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should absolutely have a baby shower. If anyone tells you otherwise, they have problems and you should blow it off. I hope you have the BEST baby shower ever. Register for everything. Who ever sends out the invites can put a little note on there explaining the situation, if you would feel better!
I am sorry to hear about your son. God bless you and your family! Good luck!
2007-11-13 05:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by acea 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You have been through a lot and I am so sorry for your loss.
You COMPLETELY deserve to have a baby shower! I don't think there is a person you know that wouldn't feel the same and show up to support you.
Talk to a close friend or family member, they are really the ones that should be throwing this event for you. If I was close to you I would throw you one in a heartbeat!
2007-11-13 05:43:32 · answer #5 · answered by Melody 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think if you let it be known subtly to your friends and family that you would like a baby shower they will have one for you. Could be people are wondering if you would be uncomfortable with it so don't know what to do. Given everything you have been through I'm sure your friends/family would love to have a shower this time around to celebrate the impending birth. It is not selfish of you whatsover to want one.
2007-11-13 05:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by Bears Mom 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I believe that even if you had had a shower for your first child that you should have one with the next baby. Every baby is special and deserves to be equally celebrated. Good luck and God Bless you and your husband!
2007-11-13 05:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your loss. My wife and I have lost 2.
I don't think you are being selfish in any way. You yourself said your other little one had special needs. You cared for that child just as you will care for another.
Have a baby shower and enjoy your new life.
2007-11-13 05:43:21 · answer #8 · answered by Pat 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
There are no rules for having a baby shower just for your 1st born. I believe the only (etiquette/ traditional) rule that applies is that someone else give you the baby shower.
Congrats on the new bundle of joy!
2007-11-13 05:46:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear about your son. That breaks my heart. God bless you and your husband.
I had a baby shower with my son and my daughter. It just depends on if your friends or family wanna throw you another one or not, or if you wanna do it yourself. I think you should have another one. Especially in your case. Its not like you have a kid after kid. That is a different story.
2007-11-13 05:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by *Mommy of 3* 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋