you know what sucks? i have been sexually active for 3 years and noone has been able to give me an orgasm. does anyone else feel my pain? this is so embarassing and i feel like some sort of freak.
2007-11-13 05:36:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not alone...although I don't have this problem...I'm sure lots of girls do. You need to take matters into your own hands (literally)....and find out what you like...then relay to your partner or you can be "hands on" doing the process to help yourself along.
2007-11-13 05:40:45 · answer #1 · answered by ~irish~moon~star~ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you know how to give yourself one? If so, you can instruct your partners on what will help you. If not, that's something you can work on. There's really only one way for you to really learn what you like.
It could also be a relaxation issue. If you're uncomfortable with your partner on some level, it could account for not having an orgasm.
Don't worry about it though. Stressing makes it harder. I lost my virginity at 17. I never had an orgasm until my mid 20s. I used to think I was incapable of having one. I now have no problems in that area. For some women it takes longer for their sexuality to develop.
So, to sum up.... Don't worry about the big O. Just sit back, relax and enjoy yourself.
2007-11-13 05:45:48 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was sexually active for 2 years before getting my first orgasm. It is very normal. Some women don't have their first orgasm until they are in their 30's. I know it's sad. I have a harder time when he is on top, but when it happens I like it better. If they can't give it to you, give it to yourself. You have to know where your g-spot is and well, get yourself off. If you can't find it yourself you shouldn't expect them to be able to. If this doesn't work while engaging then try masturbation. You don't have to have a toy to do it. Remember practice makes perfect!
2007-11-13 06:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by hellrazor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. I have been told this before by an ex who was sexually active before me, she warned me that she wasnt able and told me to not feel bad because she thought there was something wrong with her. But she never had that problem with me....I don't think its you babe, it's your partner(s) they either aren't experienced or they don't know why you're g-spot is. Don't worry, you will get there you just need to find the right guy or get comfortable with your sexuality to give the wrong guy the rigth instructions....let him know what is getting you off and what isn't. I don't think that there is a woman not capable of reaching the peak, but I do believe there are women that either don't know how to get there or just have bad lovers. Good luck.
2007-11-13 05:44:33 · answer #4 · answered by Christophertallingsworthiness 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you're definitely not a freak. It's a quite common tale for girls. It can be related to a lot of things...both physical or mental.
This get kind of personal, but can you give yourself an orgasm? If you can, then maybe you need to be more communicative to your partner about what he needs to do to better the sex life.
If it seems impossible for you to have one at all.....there is therapy that can help you with it. Don't be afraid to consult with a doctor.
2007-11-13 05:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by jtbrick1208 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women are naturally prone to orgasm more easily. It could be that your partners have not been particularly attentive or interested in helping to achieve that (or they could've just been bad...or inexperienced) but I've also heard that for some women it's very difficult to achieve orgasm through intercourse. I believe these women are usually instructed to (ahem) do some manual practice on their own to see if they can do it by themselves. If internal orgasms don't come easily for you then you may need to get some external stimulation as well to reach that particular level. Hope that's helpful...I tried to stay as PC as possible! :)
2007-11-13 05:46:40 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes its really hard for girls try more foreplay and being on top give your self the orgasm! Being top is the easiest way for a girl to get one! Also it helps when you are with the same person like my Husband and I its so much easier because we can explore new things together in Comfort with out embarrassment and I never get called bad names! :)
2007-11-13 05:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Amberlyn 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be more instructive! Most guys will take advice, and it'll help them in the future.
It's YOUR Orgasm, Take control of it! Make it happen!
Smokey the bear says, only you can prevent boring sex!
:D
2007-11-13 06:24:23 · answer #8 · answered by Fitty4ex 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You may need to lean to have an orgasm. Can you get one with masturbation?
If you can, then you need to find a guy who knows how to give you one.
2007-11-13 08:24:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl its not just you. The same thing happen to me but i met this guy and every time we have sex i *** because we have tthat bond so maybe thats what you need that special person to do u right but dont go sleeping around let that person come to you....
2007-11-13 05:47:04 · answer #10 · answered by shanise 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋