I am 28 and am literally physically ill over a break up. I've never felt anything so painful. I thought that was supposed to end with the teenage with the teenage years.
2007-11-13 05:28:23 · 20 answers · asked by Anton 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sorry about repeating "with the teenage" above. My mind if not functioning properly right now.
2007-11-13 05:34:19 · update #1
I went through it this year and im 32. It never really ends. Just because you age doesnt mean your heart gets stronger. Sucks..i know.
2007-11-13 05:32:21 · answer #1 · answered by jp_poo_poo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes It can be worse when you are older. At 28 you feel you should be settled down or on the way to being settled. What you thought you knew proves you wrong and that alone can be painful since it is not just the breakup of the relationship that is painful but everything you were building around that relationship. You need to know that no matter how painful it is you will get through this and come out a stronger person.
2007-11-13 05:37:57 · answer #2 · answered by April First 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hated hearing this when I went through my breakup and I hated realizing it because of how much it lengthened my healing process but only one thing really makes it stop. Time. Please hang in there and take pride and put new energy in your business. Throw yourself into work. I know it's hard but try to find your inspiration. You need it. You need a distraction for all the bad things you have going on. I know you see none of the good that is happening around you but it is. It's just being overlooked. At some point, things will seem a little easier to deal with. I've been in the despair you are feeling and that constant heavy feeling in my stomach and permanent lump in my throat never seemed to ever go away but it does. ::hugs:: Feel free to email me. =/
2016-05-22 23:41:23 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through something similar. It is the suckiest period of my life. But now, retrospectively, I wouldn't do anything different. I suppose it's what made me who I am today, and I wouldn't trade that for anything. I became so much smarter about who I truly was, what I needed/wanted, and it helped me know who my friends were and what a real friend really is. My friends came from people that I didn't even think would like me, or me them. I can't say for certain that you'll have the same experience, but I hope you do.
As for the pain right now, there's nothing I can say that would change it. All I can say is sorry and I hope that you are able to make something positive out of all this.
2007-11-13 05:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Julie6962 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My friend, you're never too old to have a heart break. I know it prob seems difficult right now, but you need to think of it like this:
"I was spared!"
I was spared the pain of getting married to this person, and since I know now it wasn't going to work out, I was spared $20K in divorce attorney fees, my property, and all the negative issues divorce has.
Get excited. You should celebrate now! - you didn't have to go though that high future pain with this person. Now you are free to find someone that better suits you.
- Decide that you appreciate the good times in the past.
- Just appreciate them, don't get caught up in them.
- Know that you are a great person, and deserving.
- Get up, go work out, keep busy, and do something that is fun for you.
- Most relationships fail that started under 29.
Know that you can overcome anything, and if you want to you will.
Good Luck!
2007-11-13 05:37:37 · answer #5 · answered by Net Advisor™ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well honey at 28 years old you still have alot of years left not sure how long you 2 were together butjust like with most things in life all good things must end. the question really is how was she treated by you and what did you not do or could have done differant because in any break up theres reasons of why it happened if you didn't treat her as well as you should have if yall argued alot or what ever the was if you treat some one good be happy and stuff then maybe things would have been differant
2007-11-13 05:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by joyce_i68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry for your pain, my dear. But from what I can recall, you're right! It was worse as I got older! Like I was literally dying from getting my heart yanked out of my chest! Hmm, never really realized that... I guess it could be because we should know better by now and the clock is ticking and we want to be loved and grow old with the person we entrust our heart with, and when that doesn't come through, devastation. They need to rewire men to care more for people other than themselves! I am sure there are caring guys out there-they're gay though!
2007-11-13 05:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by gmoney 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
life is full of heartache at any age. all through life you will encounter disappointments that will be painful to you. the way that you handle these heartaches is the key. you can wallow in self dis-pair or you can get up brush yourself off and live your life. i know that when an event first happens this can be hard to do so allow yourself time to grieve your loss but after that you need to leave it in the past and move forward. this is something you need to learn to do because you will find heartache in one form or another for the rest of your life.
2007-11-13 05:41:05 · answer #8 · answered by Amanda S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well my last relationship, ended when I was 55.
Suppose I either, cry or drink myself to sleep every night.
You still have a lot of happiness and sadness to go.
But this is life, you still have a chance, for sure I do not.
So get off your butt and meet some one new.
2007-11-13 05:40:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
darling it almost never ends. my mom is fifty, and workin on a boyfriend of only a few months. you'll only be lonely if you allow yourself too be. the past doesn't define your future. be happy with all of the good things that have happened, and the rest will take care of itself. your love life is not going to end in misery if you don't want it to. there will always be someone worth loving and being loved by.
2007-11-13 05:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by mutantninjalobsterbearkisses 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋