My fiance really wants a poker game after our wedding reception (same place) and since I also play poker I figured it would be fun. But it seems like that's all he's focused on. The reception is outdoors, it's this Saturday, and I think it'll be too windy and cold. But, he has his heart set on it. I'm afraid of many things... of cards flying off into the dark, people shivering, and mostly of myself being left in a corner once I'm busted. I also think they'll end up having it at the usual place (his friends house) and my fiance will end up spending the evening playing poker than spending his wedding night with me. What do you all think? Men, would you ever do that?
2007-11-13 05:16:08 · 18 answers · asked by Avelyn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
There's no honeymoon. We got a couch instead. (Grin).
2007-11-13 05:29:30 · update #1
well.. i dont necessarily think its a horrible idea.. but there has to be some discussion about it beforehand.. make sure you express to him that it must be at the same place or no poker because you want to spend as much time alone with your new husband on your wedding night as you can.. and say to him.. "and i hope you feel the same way"... and about the cards flying in the dark or it being too cold, who cares, then maybe the game will end.. just make sure he knows that NO MATTER WHAT, the game will not be moved to another place.. and mention those things just so there is no convenient misunderstandings.. cuz we both know how guys can be! lol we have to be one step ahead of them at all times, right ladies?!?!?
2007-11-13 05:33:30 · answer #1 · answered by Tiff Tiff 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Perhaps I am being too traditional, but don't the newlyweds usually rush off to the bedroom after the reception? Whether or not you've had sex prior to marriage, and whether or not you'll actually have the energy to do anything when you reach the bedroom...... The poker game is a TERRIBLE idea. You don't know how long it will last, for one thing. Sounds like your guy is trying to force one of his interests into the plans for the day, which says a lot. Is he excited about any of the wedding plans? About being married to you? He is focusing on the only thing that interests him. Talk to him about making the whole event more fun for him, but NO POKER TOURNAMENT after the reception.
2007-11-13 05:58:18 · answer #2 · answered by Engaro 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because mixed drinks (that's what cocktails are) are so expensive, a cocktail reception with hors d'oevures will not save you very much money, over a simple dinner or even a nice luncheon, at which you can serve wine with the meal. Better to sit everyone down for a simple meal than to have a cocktail reception, in my opinion. There are plenty of types of receptions you can throw if money is tight, but you NEED to choose a non-meal time of day if you plan to throw a non-meal reception. Cake and punch, or cookies and cocoa, or wine and cheese, or champagne and wedding cake, or donuts and coffee... Never have a cash bar of any kind. It is rude to have guests have to pay for ANYTHING you are offering them.
2016-05-22 23:39:44 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a horrible idea! Is he not looking forward to his honeymoon?
Chalk another one up for the truth in the old adage about "free milk and the cow" and all that, though I know that doesn't help you at this point!
Does he have friends coming in for the wedding that he doesn't usually see? Is there any way they can get together after the rehearsal dinner instead (or would you worry about them getting drunk and staying up all night before the ceremony?) Or, if everyone is local, why not suggest hosting a big poker party as soon as you get back from the honeymoon?
If you give in to this, I predict your marriage will be headed in a destructive direction before it even starts.
2007-11-13 05:23:39 · answer #4 · answered by arklatexrat 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
When I first read the question I thought it was a cool idea. After I read the story behind it.................ahhhhhhh.............I think he is a bit of an addict. Your reasons not to want a poker night are very resonable. He is being very selfish.
Plus on your wedding night............him being with his friends. Then why is he marying you? You really need to sit down and talk to him. Tell him marriage is about compromise and that's not what he is doing. There is no "I" in "TEAM". This is supposed to be a night for just the "two" of you. He really needs to focus on you more. Good luck! Hope you have the wedding of your dreams and have a good life!!!
2007-11-13 05:30:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
I really don't think a poker game at the reception is a good idea at all.
One thing, that is the day you two are suppose to be receiving wedding presents and monetary gifts from friends and relatives.What will it look like all of the money and gifts you receive your "husband" loses it all in various bets. Not a Good Idea. Let him know he can have his Poker party the following weekend.
2007-11-13 05:21:46 · answer #6 · answered by ricepat2000 4 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Not. A wedding is about the couple, not playing poker. The weekend after sounds good. After the honeymoon.
2007-11-13 05:29:02 · answer #7 · answered by merrybodner 6 · 3⤊ 1⤋
This is the dumbest idea I have heard in a long time. If he can't leave the cards alone on his wedding day, you are in for a sad life with him. He sounds like he's either very immature, or addicted to gambling.
2007-11-13 20:36:13 · answer #8 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hunny, if you want to do this okay, but I wouldn't. men get too tied up in the card game and forget the big picture, or make a deal with your man, when you bust its time to go, by the way why are they not having this game the night before the wedding???
2007-11-13 05:22:33 · answer #9 · answered by eeyore6838 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
joke or what?!?!!? I'm a poker fanatic and travel in Canada and the US to tournaments BUT - when it came to my WEDDING , it was far more important to be planning a silk bustier, champagne, candles and a kingsize bed than a poker game!! Even poker pros like Daniel Neagranu skip tournaments for their wedding nights!! Sheesh! I read your question to my husband and his response was "He'll never get all-in with his priorities so wack!"
2007-11-13 05:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by Wifeforlife 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋